Wedding predicament

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We have an invite for a friends wedding (evening do) to which i'm going on the stag do. He asked already if we can make the evening to to which I said yes
Both me and my partner don't really get on with the bride to be, but have only met her on a few occasions.
Do we put a no to RSVP card when/if one comes or just go and keep the peace with said brige for my friends sake?

It's not like we're going to see the bride numerous times in the future but I always think the stag do is the guys celebration and the wedding is the womans (in hetro he/she relationships anyway)
 
Go, you might not even bump into the bride as they're notoriously busy and seeing everyone else, cutting cake, dancing etc etc. The wedding goes incredibly quick for the bride and groom.

You already said yes, you might have a laugh anyway.
 
Interesting. I was in a similar situation where my me and my partner were invited to my former best friends wedding. Ever since he met this girl he barely sees me/our friend group. Still regard him as a good friend, but not really active in my life so to speak. Anyway, i went to the stag and wedding and my partner refused to go to the wedding.
 
Who knows, maybe everyone thinks she's a *****. Just go along for the booze. You'll hardly have to speak to her.
 
Can’t you just put your feelings aside for a couple of hours of your life for your friends sake? You know it is the day him and his wife declare their love for one another in front of all the people they love and if he invited you, it’s because you’re important to him.

I despair sometimes…
 
Bassmansam said:
Interesting. I was in a similar situation where my me and my partner were invited to my former best friends wedding. Ever since he met this girl he barely sees me/our friend group. Still regard him as a good friend, but not really active in my life so to speak. Anyway, i went to the stag and wedding and my partner refused to go to the wedding.
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This could end up being the case for me - I'll go, partner won't. I said yes but she hasnt yet
 
It's their wedding, just go for your friend and be nice, even if you have to pretend. If you think you will cause a scene by going then perhaps best not to.

It's not your day, it's their day, their wedding, just be nice.
 
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I think you need to break the ice between the two.
Perhaps your partner can do practical joke like turn up in a wedding dress? I'm sure everyone will have a good laugh about it afterwards.
 
Just go, unless you start following the bride around the most interaction you'll have is probably 30 seconds of her saying hello.
 
Guest2 said:
Why :confused:
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How long have you been here? :cry:

Unless I really really really didn't like a friend's partner I don't think I'd consider not going to a wedding. It's a celebration for them both, even if normally the bride has more influence on the planning etc. Also might well be remembered if you don't turn up.

Is it just that you don't get on with the bride or is it more like a deep visceral hatred? If it's the former then I'd definitely just put a brave face on it and go along anyway.
 
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I'm assuming the OP is not twelve years old... Any adult should be able to be in the same room as someone they don't like for an evening without it all kicking off. It's not a big deal surely? Just go to the wedding and stay out of the bride's way? :confused:
 
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