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Hi All,

*Relationship thread

Well I've been going out with this girl for 2 years, I broke up with her a while ago, and have broke up with her a couple of times, never more than a day or two though, thought we were really in love, going to be together forever. Last night I found out that she had one of those profile pages one of those bad chavy sites, shes been putting naked pictures of herself on it, as well as non-naked ones, for all the boys in the world to see. Shes been rating boys, saying there beautiful etc, shes on that site saying that she drinks, and acting very chavy, which isnt the girl I knew for 2 years. I went through hours of crying last night, and after I found out about the site my mum had to restrain me as I was seriously throwing my head off my desk, punching myself....which I'm not proud of. Never thought I'd be doing it.

Basically, its not just the fact that I've lost the girl I loved for two years, done everything with, spent every day and night with, and now shes a completely different person, a chavy one, that puts dirty pics of herself on the internet. Its unbelievable.

I managed to get her back slightly though, I got my mum to phone her mum at 1 in the morning last night, to tell her about the dirty pics, damn was she mad!
This doesnt make up for the months of pain and anger I'm about to undergo though.

I never thought she would do anything like this, or anything like this too me. She always said that she never liked any guys, that she never sat on any websites, always told me to trust her, I was with her everynight and day, so I hardly expected it.
Well shes a dirty girl!

What should I do now? How should I get on with things? Everything I do reminds me of her. I've got no one, because she never allowed me to have any friends or anything, it was just me and her.

Thanks for reading, sry about the spelling and grammer, I'm pretty shakey, and can't think straight.
 
She never let you have any friends? What the hell.

If my gf said that, she would be out of the door. You shouldn't of let her do that dude.

OK, she walked all over you, time to learn.

  • Get back up, dust yourself off.
  • Print the pictures off and staple them around the town she lives in.
  • Get out there, start making friends.
  • Find a nice girl.
 
I dont see that there is anything inherently wrong with putting nekkid pictures of yourself on the internet. Sexuality is natural, and so is showing off if you are confident enough.

I would be concerned if my girl did something like this and didn't tell me, but not neccessarily that she had done it...

How old are you both?

Got a URL by the way? :D
 
The nudity doesn't concern me. If thats what shes into, I see no problem.

Its the not allowed any friends rule which would have made me get rid of her.
 
cleanbluesky said:
Agrred - but there is no need to spite her
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Its a joke, to cheer him up. You think I'm telling him that as serious advice on what to do?

He obviously feels betrayed and humiliated by her, so hearing a horrible situation on her, however metaphoric, will ease the pain :p
 
The fact that she said for 2 years that she had no interest in other boys, had no interest in the internet. I think its wrong to put dirty pictures of yourself on the internet, and sit and pretend that you drink and that your chavy.

Its pretty sad, and shows what some people will do to be noticed. She also had another msn address behind my back for all these boys of hers from that site.

The site is full of chavs posing with there tops off, and shes sitting rating and saying that there beautiful, and getting the same back.

It hurts....a lot.
Shows that love is blinding.

I'm 17 btw.

I was always a pretty jealeous person, as was she, so her doing something like that to me.....its killing me inside!
 
Is she 17 too?

Look mate, you're better off without her. If she was doing this, and you did get married, I really doubt she would've stayed faithfull. Look at it this way, at least you've saved yourself a lot of hurt in the long term.

It's time to pick yourself up and turn a new leaf in your book. You're young and it really isn't the end of the world.
 
I know how you feel. God and my mistakes know I've stupidly and quite passively put up with some crap over the last 3 years.

Quite similar to yours, to be quite honest with you. Maybe even worse, but I brought most of the latter mistakes on myself and I know I did wrong. You just have to move on and put yourself in another frame of mind.

The reason why it's so hard is because you have a stuck routine which totally evolved around her. If you loved her, then that's totally normal and natural and you didn't do anything wrong. It's just the case that this routine is now shattered, but she is NOT the centre of your world, love or the person you are.

You can't let this get the best of you and I'm sure you know you're stronger than to let some chavvy tart sub-consciously control the rest of your life for the next few months.

I won't lie and I know it's very difficult to accept and change to a new routine, but as long as you keep thinking it, the more you'll put it into practice and suddenly, you'll have a whole different life and routine that doesn't include her.

Seeing as I've been here very recently. In fact, my girlfriend dumped me just on Tuesday, I can tell you that you learn to deal with, change and expect these things. I don't feel upset or anything because I've accepted these things and learnt how to control and handle my emotions. It took time and it takes people more or less time than others. You'll get there though, as long as you keep trying. I promise you that much. :)

I know how hard it is to concentrate on other things, even if you enjoy them, but keep pushing and keep trying. Eventually the head of a new life will pop out of the smallest orifice, a massive urge of pain and anger will follow and then you'll simply move on. Caring for and respecting a new life that you've made and have to raise.

For lack of a better metaphor. :p :D

Chin up, expectations high and you'll be smiling and regretting you ever made such a big deal of it all, in no time. :)

Phil.
 
Thanks for that Overtonbliss, appreciate it :D

I thought the internet was full of badness, but seems to be no badness here!

At least with her gone, I can finish College and go to University.(which she wasnt going to let me do either)

Thanks again guys!
 
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