what to do(realationship problem)

ash59 · 16 Dec 2006 at 13:43

hope someone can help me whith this

iv been going out whith a woman for 2 years , she a nice person and i like her company, she is really into me and says she loves me , i like her but i dont love her, iv been thinking of breaking things off whith her,
she as a daughter whos getting married soon and she wants me to go whith her to miami to the wedding, its all been a bit of a rush, and whith christmas just about here it looks like il be spending a lot of money to go away for 2 weeks, the wedding is in febuary, .
i feel like im on the spot and dont know what to do, i dont want to ruin a wedding , and hurt my girlfriends feelings, . i live in the uk.

Doohickey · 16 Dec 2006 at 13:56

Honesty.

Andr3w · 16 Dec 2006 at 14:00

spend a little time apart from her and see how you feeel.
Just follow what your heart says!

Bri · 16 Dec 2006 at 14:14

2 years and you don't know how you feel? Am I the only one who thinks that's a bit wierd?

Glaucus · 16 Dec 2006 at 14:17

Bri said:
2 years and you don't know how you feel? Am I the only one who thinks that's a bit wierd?

no, just sounds like he doesn't wont to be alone. Break it off, you don't love her after 2 years then you aren't going to. Carrying on the lie will only make it harder.

James07 · 16 Dec 2006 at 14:36

Bri said:
2 years and you don't know how you feel? Am I the only one who thinks that's a bit wierd?

Sounds a lil weird... obv you dont wana be with her if you dont know how you feel after this long, usually people can tell after a few months if they really like someone or not... 2 years... sounds a bit weird that you dont know how you feel, you probably dont like her :-)

did you say you love her back when she said it to you?

Uhtred · 16 Dec 2006 at 14:39

I was with a girl for over 2 years who i didn't love. Thought i did for a while but for a long time i wasn't happy. Breaking things off with her was hard but i was much happier for it and got with someone who i really did love. There's never a good time but you have to be selfish sometimes to make sure you're happy. Leaving it will only hurt her more, just be honest with her.

beast20vt · 16 Dec 2006 at 14:41

sit down with her and talk about it!!!

Mana · 16 Dec 2006 at 14:41

daughter hot?

LeftfieldTilt · 16 Dec 2006 at 14:43

Mana said:
daughter hot?

LOL

but seriously sit down & talk to her

Mana · 16 Dec 2006 at 14:50

LeftfieldTilt said:
LOL

but seriously sit down & talk to her

exactly, talk to the daughter

ash59 · 16 Dec 2006 at 15:32

AcidHell2 said:
no, just sounds like he doesn't wont to be alone. Break it off, you don't love her after 2 years then you aren't going to. Carrying on the lie will only make it harder.

your right i dont wont to be on my own, i know i sould just tell her but it would cause too much trouble, do you think i sould wait untill after the holiday.

Mr Men · 16 Dec 2006 at 15:34

Break it off, I spent about 3 years with a girl who was great company really liked her etc but just did not love her, well I did but not enough in a way to see my spending the rest of my life with her, best to break it off, sorry.