A few Saturdays ago, I was walking home from a night out (I rarely go out these days, It just doesn’t interest me anymore) Anyway I walked through the park and noticed a large crowd of kids drinking shouting smoking, Probably going for the ASBO award or something.
As I walked past I heard one girl say my name in a rather slurred way, it was one of my old friends younger sister, I hadn’t seen her for about a year, I use to always sleep round her brothers when I was younger so I knew her quite well she’s a little odd, but basically a level headed kid I was surprised to see her out at that time and participating in underage drinking, But I hadn’t seen her in awhile so I just figured she’d “Chavved up” So I walk over and say hello etc, it became apparent that she was totally wasted within the first 10 seconds of being in her company.
And not liking the crowd of older chavish boys she was with I decided to lie and say her parents & brother have been ringing around everywhere looking for her. She seemed a little surprised but seemed to believe it. I offered to walk her home, planning on the way to tell her that it was a lie and she shouldn’t have been drinking because she’s young and her brain has developed fully yet (I’m very responsible).
Anyway as she was walking off with me two of her friends (The same age as her) left the park with us and went the opposite direction… I guess they wanted to get away too.
On the way to her house things took a turn for the worse and she was sick, By the time we were walking down her street I still hadn’t told her, So I did. She seemed grateful that I was looking out for her but didn’t really like the deception. She all so didn’t want to face her parents in the state that she was in.
Turns out she had lied about sleeping at a friend’s house and her parents wouldn’t be expecting her home till tomorrow sometime. So I invite her to mine so she can sober up.
We get back to my flat, I tell her to drink a pint of water made her a hot water bottle, and let her sleep in my bed. I slept on the settee.
I wake up, get some food etc, check emails normal Sunday stuff and I decided to go check on her about an hour after I woke up. She was hung-over and groggy so I got her some more water and told her to get up when she felt like it.
She gets up around 3pm feeling rough, My cure for a hangover is water+Something funny, So I stick family guy on and we sit watching it.
At about 6 she rings her parents saying she will be back soon, I give her the “You shouldn’t drink and your age, peer pressure is overrated etc talk, she agreed and said she only drank because she wanted to know what it was like. I make some food and then drive her home.
The End (I wish)
On Tuesday I’m coming home from work and I see a schoolgirl waiting in the rain outside my flats. She wants to watch more Family Guy. She was soaked through so I let her in. For the next few days she comes round when I get home from worked, We sit watch DVD’s, listen to music etc, I enjoy the company.
She slept over again Friday & Saturday nights, AFAIK she’s having more than normal parent problems, It appears to be a touchy issue so I haven’t pried.
I don’t know why I agreed, I’ve been lonely and I honestly enjoy her company She’s funny, mature, sweet, kind. She’s just great.
But on Sunday night when I finally slept in my bed again and it smelt of her I decided something was seriously wrong with this.
Obviously I don’t want her sleeping over any more, but I do care about her and I want our friendship to continue. I just don’t know how to tell her that its probably best if she doesn’t spend quite as much time round mine. Without hurting her feelings.
Suggestions/opinions/etc
Does anyone have any experience dealing with kids with problems at home?
As I walked past I heard one girl say my name in a rather slurred way, it was one of my old friends younger sister, I hadn’t seen her for about a year, I use to always sleep round her brothers when I was younger so I knew her quite well she’s a little odd, but basically a level headed kid I was surprised to see her out at that time and participating in underage drinking, But I hadn’t seen her in awhile so I just figured she’d “Chavved up” So I walk over and say hello etc, it became apparent that she was totally wasted within the first 10 seconds of being in her company.
And not liking the crowd of older chavish boys she was with I decided to lie and say her parents & brother have been ringing around everywhere looking for her. She seemed a little surprised but seemed to believe it. I offered to walk her home, planning on the way to tell her that it was a lie and she shouldn’t have been drinking because she’s young and her brain has developed fully yet (I’m very responsible).
Anyway as she was walking off with me two of her friends (The same age as her) left the park with us and went the opposite direction… I guess they wanted to get away too.
On the way to her house things took a turn for the worse and she was sick, By the time we were walking down her street I still hadn’t told her, So I did. She seemed grateful that I was looking out for her but didn’t really like the deception. She all so didn’t want to face her parents in the state that she was in.
Turns out she had lied about sleeping at a friend’s house and her parents wouldn’t be expecting her home till tomorrow sometime. So I invite her to mine so she can sober up.
We get back to my flat, I tell her to drink a pint of water made her a hot water bottle, and let her sleep in my bed. I slept on the settee.
I wake up, get some food etc, check emails normal Sunday stuff and I decided to go check on her about an hour after I woke up. She was hung-over and groggy so I got her some more water and told her to get up when she felt like it.
She gets up around 3pm feeling rough, My cure for a hangover is water+Something funny, So I stick family guy on and we sit watching it.
At about 6 she rings her parents saying she will be back soon, I give her the “You shouldn’t drink and your age, peer pressure is overrated etc talk, she agreed and said she only drank because she wanted to know what it was like. I make some food and then drive her home.
The End (I wish)
On Tuesday I’m coming home from work and I see a schoolgirl waiting in the rain outside my flats. She wants to watch more Family Guy. She was soaked through so I let her in. For the next few days she comes round when I get home from worked, We sit watch DVD’s, listen to music etc, I enjoy the company.
She slept over again Friday & Saturday nights, AFAIK she’s having more than normal parent problems, It appears to be a touchy issue so I haven’t pried.
I don’t know why I agreed, I’ve been lonely and I honestly enjoy her company She’s funny, mature, sweet, kind. She’s just great.
But on Sunday night when I finally slept in my bed again and it smelt of her I decided something was seriously wrong with this.
Obviously I don’t want her sleeping over any more, but I do care about her and I want our friendship to continue. I just don’t know how to tell her that its probably best if she doesn’t spend quite as much time round mine. Without hurting her feelings.
Suggestions/opinions/etc
Does anyone have any experience dealing with kids with problems at home?
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tut
I generally made sure that my daughter's "boyfriends" knew :-
) of it, but judging by their reactions (the white faces, the 'hunted' look in their eyes, the odd nervous tic, etc), I was pretty convincing. Needless to say, my daughter was rather irritated with me about this. But I eased up a bit eventually ..... round about her 30th birthday, IIRC.