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Pretty bored at work, so I thought I'd just post this up, get a wee bit of advice, or opinions.

I'm pretty stuck at the moment, not sure what to do with myself etc.

As nearly all of you will know, I had a pretty dramatic breakup, I'm not re-posting the 2 threads on it, but if you must see it then just do a search.

At the moment, due to this relationship I had, I don't have very many friends(she didnt alow me to have any), and I'm pretty much alone now, which is bad considering its coming up on the summer holidays, and I've got 4 weeks left of college before I finish, and will be stuck doing nothing. Apart from work of course.
The problem I have, is that I only have a handful of mates from college, and they stay nowhere near me, and all live seperate lives etc, no1 really hangs about outside of college, and they just wouldnt do it.
So what do I do? Its coming up on the summer, and I have no1, and I'm going to be stuck in all summer :eek:
Something I really really want to do, is to not only make new friends but to find a new woman, that would solve all my problems....but meeting new ladies is a pain, and I just don't know how to go about doing it. I would say that I'm not a bad looking fellow(not being big headed here), I wear decent clothes and am how do you say it.....well groomed? Anyway, I get a few looks in the streets, make some eye contact etc, but thats not good enough! I don't want eye contact, I want a lass to talk to, and to get to know, and eventually, go out with :) but how do I do this?
I'm just scared that, that little ***** will be getting her brains ****** out all summer by a bunch of no good chavs, and I'll be stuck in myself, feeling absolutely rubbish, and constantly thinking about her.
I just want to move on, and find someone new :).....but its a lot harder than it seems!!!!


Any advice is appreciated :)
Sorry if the threads a bit.....daft.
 
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shifty_uk said:
Pretty bored at work, so I thought I'd just post this up, get a wee bit of advice, or opinions.

I'm pretty stuck at the moment, not sure what to do with myself etc.

As nearly all of you will know, I had a pretty dramatic breakup, I'm not re-posting the 2 threads on it, but if you must see it then just do a search.

At the moment, due to this relationship I had, I don't have very many friends(she didnt alow me to have any), and I'm pretty much alone now, which is bad considering its coming up on the summer holidays, and I've got 4 weeks left of college before I finish, and will be stuck doing nothing. Apart from work of course.
The problem I have, is that I only have a handful of mates from college, and they stay nowhere near me, and all live seperate lives etc, no1 really hangs about outside of college, and they just wouldnt do it.
So what do I do? Its coming up on the summer, and I have no1, and I'm going to be stuck in all summer :eek:
Something I really really want to do, is to not only make new friends but to find a new woman, that would solve all my problems....but meeting new ladies is a pain, and I just don't know how to go about doing it. I would say that I'm not a bad looking fellow(not being big headed here), I wear decent clothes and am how do you say it.....well groomed? Anyway, I get a few looks in the streets, make some eye contact etc, but thats not good enough! I don't want eye contact, I want a lass to talk to, and to get to know, and eventually, go out with :) but how do I do this?
I'm just scared that, that little ***** will be getting her brains ****** out all summer by a bunch of no good chavs, and I'll be stuck in myself, feeling absolutely rubbish, and constantly thinking about her.
I just want to move on, and find someone new :).....but its a lot harder than it seems!!!!


Any advice is appreciated :)
Sorry if the threads a bit.....daft.

are you still at college etc?
 
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What interests do you have? I would advise joining a local club to meet new friends, somthing you enjoy and are enthusiastic about, maybe someone at your work is a member of a club your interested in and you can tag along.

Or join a dateing site, meet people from there and see how it goes. Someone a few months ago said how good the experiance has been and the people he has meet mostly turned out normal.

Edit: Or go to University, you will meet new people, probibly have the time of your life and get away from thinking about your Ex, plus further your learning. Theres still time to apply and sort things out, I didn't apply till this time of year. Just nip down to a local education/careers advice centre.
 
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So you lost all your friends before due to getting so involved with a girl you ignored them all?

Now the girl is gone you want another girl?

Give your school mates a call - they probably all still live local, just go the pub.

Hell I've bumped into people when out and about I've not seen for ten years and instantly got on like a house on fire - nothing like reliving old times to get over your troubles :)

If you burned your bridges (I doubt it) get a hobby, join a club, hopefully something like mountain biking and not bowls :)
 
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Really simple solution, get a job. It's pass the time, you'll make mates at work, you'll possibly meet gf potential at work. You'll have the odd night out with work mates = clubbing and drinking = meeting nice young ladies. Don't make it your goal to try and get another girl though. You could join a sports team (cricket?), basically make getting a couple of mates you can go out with your priority. If you happen to get lucky in love as well then that's an added bonus.

PS i know full well it's easier said than done when you're still messed up over an ex :)
 
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Ukadder said:
What interests do you have? I would advise joining a local club to meet new friends, somthing you enjoy and are enthusiastic about, maybe someone at your work is a member of a club your interested in and you can tag along.

Or join a dateing site, meet people from there and see how it goes. Someone a few months ago said how good the experiance has been and the people he has meet mostly turned out normal.

Edit: Or go to University, you will meet new people, probibly have the time of your life and get away from thinking about your Ex, plus further your learning. Theres still time to apply and sort things out, I didn't apply till this time of year. Just nip down to a local education/careers advice centre.


tbh, theres not much clubs around my area that would interest me, if any atall.

I think it would be kinda weird joining a dating site, and don't fancy doing that very much.

I will be going to university, but need to finish college first, I finish college in 4 weeks and will be on my summer break for...I'm not sure how long, and then I need to go back and finish the second year of my hnd.


I'll still have this Job during the summer(hopefully), but I only work 2 days a week, and I just fancied chilling out during the summer.

Anyone got any advice for chatting up woman on the streets or just random ladies? :p Thats basically the only time I ever see any sexy ladies :( :(
 
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