When will these people ever learn?

If this was a recently new phenomenon then I'd probably have a little sympathy.

But it isn't, it's decades old now. There have been many mainstream media articles, documentaries, Magazines who's target audience are this woman's demographic, running articles & yet they're still falling head over arse for them.
 
Resident said:
If this was a recently new phenomenon then I'd probably have a little sympathy.

But it isn't, it's decades old now. There have been many mainstream media articles, documentaries, Magazines who's target audience are this woman's demographic, running articles & yet they're still falling head over arse for them.
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never, ever underestimate the impact loneliness has on people. when someone gets to a certain point they will literally believe anything just for some sense of belonging and to feel needed or wanted.
 
She is clearly to blame but I have to question where her bank was in all this, particularly when she transferred £45k to some random :confused:
 
Thekwango said:
never, ever underestimate the impact loneliness has on people. when someone gets to a certain point they will literally believe anything just for some sense of belonging and to feel needed or wanted.
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100% agreed. This is why cons work, it preys on this base desire that some people contain.
 
EVH said:
She is clearly to blame but I have to question where her bank was in all this, particularly when she transferred £45k to some random :confused:
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Its not actually that easy to transfer a large amount from what I recall of doing it in the past. There are a few hoops to jump though. :confused:
 
EVH said:
She is clearly to blame but I have to question where her bank was in all this, particularly when she transferred £45k to some random :confused:
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I imagine she said loved one and they said fine. It was her money to transfer as she pleases at the end of the day.
 
EVH said:
She is clearly to blame but I have to question where her bank was in all this, particularly when she transferred £45k to some random :confused:
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My bank just has a warning at the top and says are you sure you want to do this. You have to type in a few codes and passwords one of which they send by SMS, etc.

As far as they are concerned it's your money and you are free to do whatever you like with it. If you decide off your own back to transfer £45k you actively made a choice to do so.

Will have been much easier to do as no doubt she had already sent money to that account multiple times before just smaller amounts getting bigger and bigger each time.

I'm surprised someone so gullible and stupid to send money to someone they have never met had £45k cash in their account to begin with. Alarm bells would be ringing as soon as money was mentioned at all but thousands and then tens of thousands my scam radar would have been ready to explode.

What I'm surprised about is how easy it must be to launder. I bet she sent it to a western Union account or one of the other various money transfer places and it wasn't a bank to bank transfer.

If it was a bank to bank transfer then should be easy for banks and police to find the person who was transferred the cash and go after them. They will have had to explain the large income to the authorities and please money laundering checks for example.

It's probably sitting in bitcoin currently or being passed around various money transfer places to the final destination where it's cashed out.
 
Yes, I may have had security problems with my PC and programs surreptitiously being installed on it. But I’d never be so dumb as to send over £100k to some ‘engineer’ in Ukraine I’ve never even met before.

You cannot compare my security faux pas with her ridiculous level of stupidness. Besides which, mine didn’t cost me a penny, only made me wiser and gave all the know all’s on here a good laugh, hers may have ruined her life.

So I don’t feel burned at all thank you very much.
 
robfosters said:
Yes, I may have had security problems with my PC and programs surreptitiously being installed on it. But I’d never be so dumb as to send over £100k to some ‘engineer’ in Ukraine I’ve never even met before.
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I just feel sorry for her. She's not just lost (a lot of) money, but she'll have feelings of guilt and loss to deal with. She must have had a strong emotional attachment, and she's been lied to and made a fool.

The best we can hope for is that stories like this will mean other people won't make the same mistakes.

But, people being as they are, and conmen being professionals and very convincing, I don't have much hope.
 
I'll tone down what I was originally go to say, but I really have no sympathy at all.

If she initially sent £4.5k then even that would be nuts, but £45k!! To someone you've never even met, and only had contact online.
 
robfosters said:
You cannot compare my security faux pas with her ridiculous level of stupidness.
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yea you can. sorry. she was specifically targeted, manipulated and conned. you weren't.....some would possibly argue you were the more stupid.
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Besides which, mine didn’t cost me a penny,
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that's luck rather design.
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So I don’t feel burned at all thank you very much.
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claim that all you want, don't make it true :p
 
I was scammed recently, not via a romance scam but selling something on my doorstep via gumtree. I thought I knew every trick in the book and could spot a scam a mile away having sold hundreds of items via forums/ebay/facebook/gumtree. On that day I let my guard down momentarily and lost a decent sum of money.

The point I'm making is that you can read these stories and cannot begin to understand how people find themselves in these positions. However, people can make out of character mistakes or trust people they know they shouldn't when there is no plausible explanation for doing so.

My experience stung at the time but in hindsight it taught me a good lesson and I'll never let my guard down like that again by not taking the precautions I should have done and have done hundreds of other times. An expensive lesson nonetheless.
 
dLockers said:
It is a sad state of affairs when someone vulnerable and lonely falls for a sophisticated romance scam. It is even more sad when someone who can't keep their UberEats account secure feels the need to create a thread calling the victim dumb.
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Gold, absolute gold!
 
Scams like this play on the ego. They build up the target persons ego so they think they are the white knight coming to the rescue.

There is a few people I know on facebook, always whining about something in the hope that someone else will come along and pay for it.. and usually if you give them money or help out in some way they never improve.

A friend ended up helping her neighbour clean her house because she was always saying it was too much for her. So the friend went around and helped. Within a week the house was back to looking like trash and she was back on social media moaning about it.

A lot of people in bad situations are there because of their own mind set. A minority will be genuine. But most aren't.
 
Adam said:
The point I'm making is that you can read these stories and cannot begin to understand how people find themselves in these positions. However, people can make out of character mistakes or trust people they know they shouldn't when there is no plausible explanation for doing so.
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I can imagine, there's been periods of my life where I've had no friends for years or been single for like 4 years at a time with minimal social contact.

you do get kinda a strong urge to form connections and it's almost like an addictive drug when you get talking to someone you like, withdrawal like symptoms when you miss them etc.

wouldn't be stupid enough to send anyone money though who I've never met but I can see how people can be so desperate they would believe a load of crap, deep down the alarm bells must be ringing but they want it to be true so badly.

we should pity them really
 
robfosters said:
Yes, I may have had security problems with my PC and programs surreptitiously being installed on it. But I’d never be so dumb as to send over £100k to some ‘engineer’ in Ukraine I’ve never even met before.

You cannot compare my security faux pas with her ridiculous level of stupidness. Besides which, mine didn’t cost me a penny, only made me wiser and gave all the know all’s on here a good laugh, hers may have ruined her life.

So I don’t feel burned at all thank you very much.
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dLockers said:
It is a sad state of affairs when someone vulnerable and lonely falls for a sophisticated romance scam. It is even more sad when someone who can't keep their UberEats account secure feels the need to create a thread calling the victim dumb.
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Well played sir
 
BowdonUK said:
Scams like this play on the ego. They build up the target persons ego so they think they are the white knight coming to the rescue.

There is a few people I know on facebook, always whining about something in the hope that someone else will come along and pay for it.. and usually if you give them money or help out in some way they never improve.

A friend ended up helping her neighbour clean her house because she was always saying it was too much for her. So the friend went around and helped. Within a week the house was back to looking like trash and she was back on social media moaning about it.

A lot of people in bad situations are there because of their own mind set. A minority will be genuine. But most aren't.
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Say what now??
 
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