why does she do it....

xirokx said:
does your gf ever get so brain dead (not frequently) but when its time of the month, if she has a cold, if she's tired or just after a boring day at her work......that you begin to lose patience and begin to be abrupt with her only at the times when she is being dopey?

just wondered, like ya do ;)

background info:- been together for over a yr of which 9 months we have been living together...both in our late 20's...

thanks
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men > women

women are sub-human, what do you expect?
 
there are no underlying probs as far as im aware other then the ones i identified above - on this occassion, for like 2 - 3 weekends out of the month she just gets like this and seriously the only think that will cure it seems to be an nonesenical argument .... which i dont really want to have cuz it doesnt solve anything as there is nothing to solve...all that will happen we will assinate eachothers character and then kiss and make up lol

Why don't you address the underlying problem that you are trying to find faults in your relationship, is this to have some sort of guy strop and break up with her or has something else happened?
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lmao, just having a strop mate as I think its totally unfair to me when she behaves this way , an argument will cure it, but there is no need for that argument, i just dont get why she has to behave like this and noooo i dont wanna break up with her, its just that i find it extremely selfish from her side especially as there is no underlying psychological issue on EITHER side...

Eitherway why dont you do the only thing which will help and talk to her and not a bunch of internet geeks
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lol, she doesnt wanna talk, we have a great communicative relationship, its not like we dont talk etc etc, this is just a cry for attention ANOTHER ONE , its just really doing my head in thats all....

A lesson for you Mr Kahn, when someone wants attention and they dont get it they will go to all levels to try and gain that attention like for example a) have an unecessary row b) look like they just lost a million pounds and c) failing that start to annoy you unecessarily so in the end you blow up....


i get that, can't be bothered to speak (to anyone) at times
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me too, but its not even that, its just attention seeking,

funny thing is , whilst writing this post, I actually just realised lol...so writing this and explaining it to the likes of MR Kahn has actually really helped me mentally come to an understanding :)

Still think its selfish though, because its not like once a month during the time of the month or that, its quite frequent, considering she knows im not having an easy ride at the moment I think its really shallow of her....so Mr Kahn et al, perhaps I will post her to you so you can help her out with your GANDHI like ways ;)

Thanks for reading...
 
how about, leave her, and let her find herself a man who cares for her, will look after her when she isn't feeling great - and doesn't whine and moan about her on the internet
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i take it your either female or single......cuz your statement says it all...

infact why dont you come and sort her out?
 
women are sub-human, what do you expect?
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a smile, some laughter, some chilling out time on the sofa...lol

must be like the 3rd time this month....

imagine if you were facing many troubles in your life and you had a partner like that...how would that make you feel....despite having explained what your troubles are its like when a baby needs feeding all it will do it cry....trouble is a baby is a baby, an adult is not a baby...
 
xirokx said:
i take it your either female or single......cuz your statement says it all...

infact why dont you come and sort her out?
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what does my statement say?
that in my opinion relationships should be loving, honest and open, and that whining on the internet is going to do just about as much good as you having another argument with her?

she shouldn't need 'sorting out', she is a grown woman, you are in a grown up relationship - everything that is 'fixable' can be worked out with time, patience, communication and love - if you have tried this, and failed - what does that statement say about your relationship?

maybe read back what you've typed in this thread, and think about how it would make her feel if she read it.
 
xirokx said:
does your gf ever get so brain dead (not frequently) but when its time of the month, if she has a cold, if she's tired or just after a boring day at her work......that you begin to lose patience and begin to be abrupt with her only at the times when she is being dopey?

just wondered, like ya do ;)

background info:- been together for over a yr of which 9 months we have been living together...both in our late 20's...

thanks
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She could be just tired. When people are tired they just want to rest and people like you should STFU on the time she is like this. :D
 
xirokx said:
A lesson for you Mr Kahn, when someone wants attention and they dont get it they will go to all levels to try and gain that attention like for example a) have an unecessary row b) look like they just lost a million pounds and c) failing that start to annoy you unecessarily so in the end you blow up....


me too, but its not even that, its just attention seeking,

funny thing is , whilst writing this post, I actually just realised lol...so writing this and explaining it to the likes of MR Kahn has actually really helped me mentally come to an understanding :)
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Sorry but I don't need any lessons in relationships thank you.

And going from other posts I have seen from yourself I would suggest others don't either.

KaHn
 
Write out a placard that says:

STFU n00b


Beat her with it when she gets like this.


When the wife is in this awkward mood where I can't do nothing to help her I go out on the bike. She gets time on her own as do I and we cannot get to the point where we argue for no reason.
 
goldilocks said:
what does my statement say?
that in my opinion relationships should be loving, honest and open, and that whining on the internet is going to do just about as much good as you having another argument with her?
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It's called venting, internet is better than No Swearing! your friends off with it. It stops you bottling it all up so when the next big argument comes up, you don't end up ranting on at them with a bunch of No Swearing! that you don't really mean but need to get off your chest.

You know it like a therapist but cheaper and less humiliating.
 
Whatever you do, don't marry her as things are. Either fix it or leave, don't commit yourself to a relationship that bugs you that much. You don't sound right for each other. Some couples like arguing, damned if I know why.

If you're going to talk about it with her, pick a time when you're both alert and in a good mood. If you're irritable and she's irritable, it'll just make matters worse. Also, note with her, not at her...and expect the same from her.
 
I think the op is just venting a little steam - which is healthy to do, especially for the sake of having pointless arguments. When the wife and i are not in the mood to talk to each other we tend just to leave each other alone until one calms down.

OP: women do it and so do men. for me thats usually on the weekends that things go sour. Just make her a nice brew kiss her on the cheek and smile - she will appreciate it and at least she knows she is loved and just been giving a little space.
 
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