Why does this feel wierd?

[robfosters]

I'm 35 and still live with my mum because of health (and money) reasons.

Everything is fine, but now my mum has got a new boyfriend who I have known since I was 11. An old family friend and nice guy, if a little boring and unambitious. He is moving in soon.

Is it normal that it feels too wierd for me to remain in the house when he moves in. I just feel so awkward. I want my mum to be happy, but she doesn't seem to understand that it's wierd for me.

How would you guys react to this situation?

 

[bloodiedathame]

I'd take a dump through my own letterbox.

After moving out.

 

[Tuppy_Glossop]

Good weird or bad weird ?

 

[robfosters]

Good weird or bad weird ?

Bad weird. Uncomfortable.

 

[D3K]

I would hazard a guess that it feels weird because you haven't talked with him about it? You either need to have a talk to the new bf and get it off your chest, or move out.

How ambitious is a ~55+ man supposed to be?

 

[Tuppy_Glossop]

I guess you have to put your mum first. Live with the weirdness, give the situation a chance. You might get used to it.

 

[Glaucus]

Because you know they'll be banging all over the house. So yes off course it'll fell awkward.

 

[ExRayTed]

She ought to understand that you feel weird about it - I can certainly see why. Can't say I'd expect her to agree with you though.

*dealwithit.gif

 

[SPG]

Life is too short to be unhappy. Both of you need to be happy. Going alone or sharing outside of your home bubble will be a experience you really need to have. Maybe rent close to home for health reasons. But mom wont be around forever so start to plan your own reliance on just you.

 

[grudas]

Because you know they'll be banging all over the house. So yes off course it'll fell awkward.

+1

but seriously, you might need to move out if you want her and you to be happy it seems that it is the only option.

 

[oulton]

I'm 35 and still live with my mum because of health (and money) reasons.

Everything is fine, but now my mum has got a new boyfriend who I have known since I was 11. An old family friend and nice guy, if a little boring and unambitious. He is moving in soon.

Is it normal that it feels too wierd for me to remain in the house when he moves in. I just feel so awkward. I want my mum to be happy, but she doesn't seem to understand that it's wierd for me.

How would you guys react to this situation?

Move out if you can, it's going to get very weird.

 

[eddiew]

Living somewhere on your own is one of the most useful things you'll ever do for yourself and I heartily recommend it. Nothing teaches you to sort out your crap more than knowing that there is nobody else there to do it for you - not to mention it forces you to recognise that you are indeed a source of kitchen crumbs and toilet hair. Makes you easier to live with in the future if you end up sharing a house with a friend/partner

Give it six months in your own place and you'll be wondering why you didn't bail out 10 years sooner!

 

[anything I don't mind]

Only have two choices, put up with being uncomfortable and not being able to relax like you want to or move out somewhere else.

 

[SC0TTRS]

if a little boring and unambitious.

From a guy who's 35 and still living with his Mum, sounds a little rich don't ya think?

 

[Yaayuh!]

It all sounds a bit Freudian to me.

 

[robfosters]

From a guy who's 35 and still living with his Mum, sounds a little rich don't ya think?

I can't help it if I have a severe congenital heart defect.

 

[Uncle Petey]

Because you know they'll be banging all over the house. So yes off course it'll fell awkward.

At their age, it's entirely possible

 

[wazza300]

can always invest in a good pair of earplugs

 

[tom_e]

I can't help it if I have a severe congenital heart defect.

But as others have mentioned and as unpleasant a thought as it is your mum isn't going to be around forever so then what?

 

[wazza300]

just enjoy every second with her,wish my parents were still here,so what if you live with her??