Why is it people who don't bite the bate seem so much more interesting?

[laissez-faire]

I think this is called string theory. If you dangle the string infront of the kitten where it is just out of reach then the kitten will spend hours trying to get it. But as soon as it makes contact with the string it thinks 'oh well, just a bit of string, how dull'.

Or who was it who said 'why do you suppose we only feel compelled to chase those who run away?'

Why is that a girl who you have to chase suddenly becomes elevated in your mind to an amazing catch? Where as one who instantly gives in is just dull and boring?

I suppose the bigger question - should we actively start ignoring people if we want to get with them?

 

[[TW]Fox]

I think its all a load of rubbish. If you want to get one with somebody, go and speak to them.

 

[arknor]

yea games are for teenagers still at school

 

[AtlanticP]

As Fox says, and they probably don't even know you exist until you speak to them. Would rather live with the knowledge that I tried and failed than the knowledge of not knowing :/

 

[Nix]

Sadly it's actually all too true. I think by and large it comes down to control. It's obviously hard-wired into us to try and get all we want or at least have the option to - indeed, it's also the basis of all status anxiety.

I'd imagine people do eventually grow out of it though, so perhaps it's a crucial part of our development. A legacy of infancy and play which some cannot remove themselves from.

 

[laissez-faire]

I think its all a load of rubbish. If you want to get one with somebody, go and speak to them.

I've never called back a single girl who I got with the first night I met her. Because I instantly lose respect for anyone who does that. On the other hand, there are one or two girls who I am borderline obsessed with who have always said 'no - let's just be friends'.

I want what I can't have. If it comes too easily I don't value it. Am I just messed up or am I just human?

 

[Nix]

I want what I can't have. If it comes too easily I don't value it. Am I just messed up or am I just human?

Just human. So yes, you're messed up.

We flatter ourselves too much and people forget that. We're just egotistical apes, that's all.

 

[djmc0]

I've never called back a single girl who I got with the first night I met her. Because I instantly lose respect for anyone who does that. On the other hand, there are one or two girls who I am borderline obsessed with who have always said 'no - let's just be friends'.

I want what I can't have. If it comes too easily I don't value it. Am I just messed up or am I just human?

Suppose that depends whether you wash your hands with it, just because it was the first time you got with her, I suppose there could be a lot of unexplored situations you might have deterred off hand because of that reasoning.

 

[EffBee]

Desiring something is often more fun and more intense than actually acquiring that thing.

 

[[TW]Fox]

I want what I can't have. If it comes too easily I don't value it

No, it just sounds like you want to mess about rather than a serious relationship.

 

[Nix]

Desiring something is often more fun and more intense than actually acquiring that thing.

I think that's the question though rather than the answer. Why is desire more fun? Often we make things out to be much better than they really are and are disappointed when we do acquire them.

 

[/Thom\]

yea games are for teenagers still at school

people of ages waste time playing stupid games, i want to say women in particular but thats just mean but seriosuly, flick onto an eposide of Jeremy Kyle (yes i know! ) and you can see many people playing games, so although you rightly said they are for teenagers doesnt change the fact everyone still tend to play games

 

[Mr Doovde]

Not sure if it's me , but when I was younger women tended to play more games, but now I'm getting to my late twenties, they are starting to hate games. They seem to show their hand more directly and want to know mine.

I don't blame them, as perhaps they just want to know the score early on. Perhaps from an evolutionary perspective, some of them it's just want to settle down and have babies, or just not be messed around any more. Not sure If I mess the thrill of the chase, or if it was just a plain nightmare.

 

[KiTBoH]

I think this is called string theory.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/String_theory

We may well chase those who run away. But to say one is less satisfied with someone who instantly gives in is wrong. It appears to me like an illusion. Because you've put effort in it seems like it was so much more of a challenge to do.

 

[arknor]

I've never called back a single girl who I got with the first night I met her. Because I instantly lose respect for anyone who does that.

then i would hope you have no respect for yourself

 

[Mr Doovde]

then i would hope you have no respect for yourself

Fair point.

 

[Cybermyk]

Bate?

 

[Shoseki]

Ladder Theory?

 

[Ben M]

two things:

string theory: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/String_theory


BAIT: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bait_(luring_substance)

 

[Gustov]

You've never ordered something online, anticipated its arrival for days and then when it comes it like

Meh...?

Let's go order some more stuff

I do it with guitars