This is part of the issue. He generally falls asleep around 7ish. Then hes put in his bed. As soon as he crys she gets him and puts him in our bed. If it try to intervene I get it in the neck. Even the health visitors tried to advise her but she just thinks somethings wrong if he crys.
So concequently shes getting disturbed sleep and its making her cranky and its me that gets the brunt of it
When im off I keep telling her to go have some time to herself, go town, go her mums, go the pub do whatever just to get a break but she says no she dosent want to leave the baby. So I cant win whatever I do![]()
Sounds to me like this is the real crux of the issue... you can sort your hours, sure, but it won't fix the underlying problem.
I have sympathy with your situation, having a young one, but whatever shifts you work you're only working 16 per week - less than half a regular week. You're at home a lot more than most working parents.
You say that you 'get it in the neck' from your wife when you suggest alternative solutions? It sounds to me like this is the thing you should be addressing... you say that she won't listen, but if she won't listen to you - her life partner and father of the child - then who will she listen to? Consider having a serious discussion and firmly suggest that something has to change.
Does your wife work as well? Or just you?
@OP I'd just put your foot down and try a full week without going in and bringing the baby in to your bed. You'll end up with a 5 year old who won't sleep alone otherwise!!
Very much this... Stand up to your partner before you start formal proceedings with your boss and risk your job!
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