Work nerves...
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My partner has always said he'd love to work for himself like my Dad did, hopefully one day he will be as lucky as you.
Thanks.
Yeah I think thats exactly what it is, although he's confident in what he's doing he's still worried that one day he is going to mess up and its starting to really take over his life
As others have already mentioned; speak to your doctor.We've heard of social anxiety, which I believe is quite common, and thought it could maybe be that..?!
Does anyone else suffer with the same problem? Or maybe able to shed some light on how to get over this?
Thanks
I was having some serious problems with social anxiety. I (eventually) saw my doctor and was prescribed some medication. It has done wonders for me.
That's not to say that medication is the best or only way to deal with the problems he's having but talking to a doctor can really help.
Good luck!
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I am not a doctor but I wouldn't call this social anxiety.
In fact why break down anxiety at all in different groups?! Anxiety doesn't need to be broken down into labels.
It sounds like he might not be happy in his job or is worried about his performance. Out of interest what was he doing when working for your father? Is his new job completely in a different direction of things?
You should talk to your partner about going to the GP for some help. This isn't a rare problem, many people have anxiety and it isn't anything to be ashamed about.
In fact why break down anxiety at all in different groups?! Anxiety doesn't need to be broken down into labels.
It sounds like he might not be happy in his job or is worried about his performance. Out of interest what was he doing when working for your father? Is his new job completely in a different direction of things?
You should talk to your partner about going to the GP for some help. This isn't a rare problem, many people have anxiety and it isn't anything to be ashamed about.
Yeah, I had the same thing - identical to the OP's partner. Started on medication for it a few years ago and it really turned me around. As others have said, get him to the GP and ask for a referral. The sooner the better as the medication can take a few months to kick in.
EDIT: for those saying it's "stress" - no! Social anxiety and stress are very different.
EDIT: for those saying it's "stress" - no! Social anxiety and stress are very different.
I suppose it's a way of acknowledging the source of the anxiety.
I always thought that stress was caused by threat and anxiety was caused by worry relating to threat. Essentially the reaction is the same. Correct me if I'm wrong.
Sounds like he's in the wrong job, we're not all suited to the same roles. Maybe he needs something more behind the scenes and out of the public eye, personally i'd hate to work in a job that requires constant contact with the public.
Yeah, diagnosed a few months ago with the same here.
Have you even read most of GD's threads? The computing ones are easily the minority!
Anxiety crops up everywhere. Luckily for me, mine is just the usual pre-interview type of nervousness but it's really annoying. Just when you want to be at your charismatic best our body decides to make you feel sick, keep you awak, make you sweat and forget everything!
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Yeah I think thats exactly what it is, although he's confident in what he's doing he's still worried that one day he is going to mess up and its starting to really take over his life
People can and do make mistakes, no one is perfect. You may find that things are better in a few weeks as sometimes just working in a new place can feel a little strange at first...
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I hope your partner manages to get over this ok, You've done a good thing asking for help in the hope that some one else has had this shared experience. It doesn't matter that you've done it here as well as proberly other places, if you felt comfortable talking and asking about what can be a sensitive subject on this forum then good on you for doing so..
Glad you have got what seems to be good responses from people who have maybe been in the same position at some time in thier lives, and this has helped you both to take the next positive step to getting over this.
Good luck hope everything works out fine for you both.
As for the posts quoted below, take no notice, It's not often you get to see three Tit's together or three "insert male organ here" together if you prefere to visualize it that way
Glad you have got what seems to be good responses from people who have maybe been in the same position at some time in thier lives, and this has helped you both to take the next positive step to getting over this.
Good luck hope everything works out fine for you both.
As for the posts quoted below, take no notice, It's not often you get to see three Tit's together or three "insert male organ here" together if you prefere to visualize it that way
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Yes I used to get and still do occasionally get extremely nervous/stressed/anxious the night before work or even in the morning, it's actually one of the main causes of my IBS. Eventually I couldn't put up with it any more and I had to leave the job because it was too much, now I'm pretty much fine. I smoke as well though which calms me down.
Sounds like he needs to talk to a psychiatrist and get some help with his anxiety.
You should help him by putting things in to perspective, if he's anything like me he makes mountains out of mole hills and my mrs helps me by basically talking sense to me which does actually work but I need that kick to change my stubborn brain in to thinking in a different way.
Sounds like he needs to talk to a psychiatrist and get some help with his anxiety.
You should help him by putting things in to perspective, if he's anything like me he makes mountains out of mole hills and my mrs helps me by basically talking sense to me which does actually work but I need that kick to change my stubborn brain in to thinking in a different way.
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