Work spliting my and my girlfriend from working together for false reasons

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this is going to be a long read so please bear with me

me and my girlfriend work as evening cleaners in an office and have done for 2 years now. 1 year ago in may we were overtaken by a company. this office has 2 sides, side and and side b, in which we work in side a. we used to in October/November work on side b, both doing separate jobs, but braybourne has to make 2 people out of 12 redundant which meant that my and my girlfriend was going to be split sides, one on a and one on b but we made a huge fuss to the supervisor amnd he put us together on side a both doing the dusting and wiping.

found out tonight that the woman that runs the office is demanding that the cleaning company split us up, one on side a and one on side b, as she saw us both taking 1 trolley from side a to side b when only 1 person was needed.

Now if this was true, i would not be bothered as it would be my own fault so i would accept it, however this is a complete lie so im not going to stand for it and want to fight back. heres how we know that this never happened. Firstly because the woman only works until 6.30pm ish and we only ever would take the trolley across at the end of our shift which is at 8.30 so there is no way she would have seen this happen. secondly is that my gf doesn't allow me to go on the other side as shes a bit paranoid as the other side has only girls so she only ever takes the trolley across on herself, sometimes there can be 2/3 trolleys but she still does it alone.

because of this we obviously know that never ever have we both taken the trolleys across together so therefore she is lying to split us up and has absolutely no proof. What we're wondering is what can we do/say to stop this splitting of us up? is it even legal to change our position with a false and unprovable accusation? can people post a response to these questions ignoring the next paragraph whilst answering them as we want to know what we can do in case this is the case.

with that said, just under a month ago me and my girlfriend were asked by the supervisor to go to side b and help empty a few very busy meeting rooms for 4 days. we did with no problem. We have a slight belief that this may be what she is talking about and that she would have seen both of us geting and taking 1 trolley. Now whats wrnog with this is that those days it was so busy that we were having to take the trolley to the kitchens, empty it, and then go refill, or go get a full trolley from the kitchen and empty it. neither of us would obviously be able to work until the trolleys were empty so this required both of us to get the trolley and we weren't doing anything wrong.

thansk guys, sorry for the long thread
 
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I fail to see the problem.

Your company needs you to do different things, she may have made up the accusation to force the split but they are within their rights to do so.

They may just think you'll be more productive apart. Less talking, less staring at each others body parts etc.
 
r u and your gf joined at the hip ?

surely being apart for an hour or so won't kill u ?

its definately not worth losing your job for if cos then u've got the hassle of searching for another and all that crap !
 
to your employer, your just 2 seperate employees, and im sure there allowed to move the workforce around the office to where its required.

if you can't bare to be apart from your girlfriend for a few hours a day while your at work, what are you going to go if you get different jobs at different companies?
 
addy_010 said:
secondly is that my gf doesn't allow me to go on the other side as shes a bit paranoid as the other side has only girls so she only ever takes the trolley across on herself,
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Out of the whole post this is the only issue.

You guys need to work on the trust in your relationship if this is the case. No offense man but that really is pathetic if she can't trust you to go into a scenario where there are only girls....:O
 
Good God man. If this is the biggest problem in your world I envy you. Seriously, I know it's all relative but this does seem exceptionally trivial unless I'm missing something.
 
Don't blame them. In my experience employing 2 people in a relationship has caused nothing but problems. These stem mainly from the individuals expecting special treatment as a couple (holidays etc) instead of being treated like 2 individual employees.
 
Me and my gf have worked in the same office for over a year. We keep our relationship out of the office - the office is for work only.

We've got so used to it that new temps have no idea we're together until they're told.
 
I don't see the problem? Its not like they are asking you to move to the other side of the country..

Anyway you are there to work not see your GF :)
 
How can you possibly be bothered to be seeing each other at work when your 18. I would get killed if i had and gf and she heard me talking like i do at work tbh.

Is she clingy? I dont like clingy,clingy has stolen my brother and now my cousin! OMG SHES THE ONE IVE ONLY KNOWN HER A MONTH BLA BLA BLA.....

I mean your 18/19......your opinion has zero weight in a company(usually).
 
lol whats wrnog with wanting to spend the time with my girlfriend. it's 2 and a half hours a day. thats 12.5 hours a week. 650 hours a year. to me atleast thats a lot just to do a evening cleaning job.

my girlfriend doesn't want me to go over there, thats no problem for me. it her wishes based on what the guys she has been with in the past have done to her, so i respect them. yeah its pretty pathetic but then its pretty pathetic if not being able to was a problem.

to the person that said we are there to work, not see each other. We keep this job as it allows us to work together. finding out that we can't work together is a huge problem if thats mainly why we are still there at that job and not at another. we are at that job and not another easy job because it gives us what we want.

So legallly they can amke up false accusation which can easily be proven to be false to split us up? we are the best 2 workers there so there is no way its because if slow work, no way we would be more productive as unhappy workers wont work better.
 
addy_010 said:
So legallly they can amke up false accusation which can easily be proven to be false to split us up? we are the best 2 workers there so there is no way its because if slow work, no way we would be more productive as unhappy workers wont work better.
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You are part time workers and have few rights. Plus they don't even need a reason to do it but they are giving you one.

Nothing you can do.
 
The bottom line: Stuff happens, get over it. Irrespective of making stuff up they are well within their rights to do what they like.

Grow up and get over it. It's not a big deal. If its that much of an issue, quit and get a decent job but good luck finding one that'll take you both on as a couple.
 
al123 said:
Don't you see her outside of work?
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yes. all day long usually. would suck if we had to spend 2.5 hours every weeknight apart to do a cleaning job that is treating us unfairly. there are other workers who hugely slack off.

by the sounds of it then there is nothing we can do other then plea with them.

what about making a stand by working very badly. anything they can do about that? also whats the limit of sick days we can take usually before a docters note is needed? by what people are asying we are treated as individuals so therefore we shouldn't be split up because we are a couple, and also if we are both sick we are treated seperately? if we have to leave we can work else where. its just the job is a good place to work as its so close to home and i know it from front to back.
 
I somehow doubt you'll find someone agreeing with you.

I've just read it and to be honest I agree with what everyone else has already said.

Let go of your GF for 2.5 hrs and get on with the job you were employed to do!


Andy
 
addy_010 said:
yes. all day long usually. would suck if we had to spend 2.5 hours every weeknight apart to do a cleaning job that is treating us unfairly.
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So you see her all day anyway? Jeez is 2.5 hours a day really such a big deal? If you spend 24/7 in her company you'll get sick of her before long anyway.
 
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