Work spliting my and my girlfriend from working together for false reasons

unwashed potato! · 1 Feb 2007 at 00:35

[TW]Fox said:
The bottom line: Stuff happens, get over it. Irrespective of making stuff up they are well within their rights to do what they like.

Grow up and get over it. It's not a big deal. If its that much of an issue, quit and get a decent job but good luck finding one that'll take you both on as a couple.

we have our own cleaning company which we do in the day, this evening work is secure money. her mum also is the local manager of OCS, a huge cleaning and other things company so getting a job isn't going to be hard. like i said the only reason we are there is because it gives us what we want. we aren't gonig into the place thinking if we can work together its a bonus as we can, we are thinking we get paid to be togther, if that makes sense?

its funny how people are saying all these things because i have someone i want to be all the time yet when they dont have that person so how can they judge me? i have found someone i want to be with a lot, should i then not see that person because of unjust reasons? thats what begin pathetic is tbh.

Fuzz · 1 Feb 2007 at 00:36

addy_010 said:
we are thinking we get paid to be togther, if that makes sense?

Not in the slightest

unwashed potato! · 1 Feb 2007 at 00:42

nokinidea said:
Not in the slightest

there are many jobs that we can have that allow us to work together. we have choosen this one becasue it gives us what we want. because we have this job its not a bonus, im not thankful that im employeed by braybourne to clean for them, im thankful that there are places that i can still see my g/f and get paid. nah that stuill doesn't make too much sense so im just goin to post that and hope somewhere there ar epeople who have an open mind

Eriedor · 1 Feb 2007 at 00:44

addy_010 said:
we have our own cleaning company which we do in the day, this evening work is secure money. her mum also is the local manager of OCS, a huge cleaning and other things company so getting a job isn't going to be hard. like i said the only reason we are there is because it gives us what we want. we aren't gonig into the place thinking if we can work together its a bonus as we can, we are thinking we get paid to be togther, if that makes sense?

its funny how people are saying all these things because i have someone i want to be all the time yet when they dont have that person so how can they judge me? i have found someone i want to be with a lot, should i then not see that person because of unjust reasons? thats what begin pathetic is tbh.

Jeez after reading your last few posts its clear you have more than just trust issues. You spend all day together yet can't deal with being apart for 2.5 hours!!

unwashed potato! · 1 Feb 2007 at 00:50

from what i read spie (sp?) spent every mintue on this company, as it was something he really wanted to do and really enjoyed it. imagine if he had said, well i have a small job that is only for a few hours so im going to give up spending time doing the greatest thing in my life for a nothing job? same thing for me, i have found something i really enjoy in life, and i love spending all my time with it. now when someone comes along telling me i can't because erm you were taking a trolley across together, then do you really think that i am going to bend over backwards for this? yeah cos thats fair, we work very hard to keep up with the increasing amount of what we are given, and the reward is that we want to split you up.

now people on these forums are getting by the looks of it angry and attacking me with verbal comments because i don't want to except this? shouldn't it be the other way round? people telling me to stand up for myself, do what i want to do, not some woman thats being a moo

why can i ask are people attacking me? if you don't understand you can ask for an explanation and nto jsut assume, your making and ASSume out of yourself. you sound like the irags, oh i don't agree with you so i attack you.

kbc · 1 Feb 2007 at 00:54

addy_010, maybe it's because people on this forum believe you have very little grounds to file a complaint about the "splitting up" situation. It's far too petty and just wouldn't get you anywhere. It's more of a personal issue between you 2 and the person being a "moo".

People think you're making a big deal out of it because this issue is quite petty tbh.

Fuzz · 1 Feb 2007 at 00:57

18 you say... (I aint wading back through the thread to check IIRC)

Boy you are in for a big jolt back to reality one day.

I'm not attacking you, couldn't give two hoots to be honest, but my "opinion" on here is as valid as your ranting is now.

Why is it "the end of the world" if you don't see your GF for 2.5 hrs in one day that is 24 hrs long...

Do you miss her when you take a leak??

Eriedor · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:00

addy_010 said:
from what i read spie (sp?) spent every mintue on this company, as it was something he really wanted to do and really enjoyed it. imagine if he had said, well i have a small job that is only for a few hours so im going to give up spending time doing the greatest thing in my life for a nothing job? same thing for me, i have found something i really enjoy in life, and i love spending all my time with it. now when someone comes along telling me i can't because erm you were taking a trolley across together, then do you really think that i am going to bend over backwards for this? yeah cos thats fair, we work very hard to keep up with the increasing amount of what we are given, and the reward is that we want to split you up.

now people on these forums are getting by the looks of it angry and attacking me with verbal comments because i don't want to except this? shouldn't it be the other way round? people telling me to stand up for myself, do what i want to do, not some woman thats being a moo

why can i ask are people attacking me? if you don't understand you can ask for an explanation and nto jsut assume, your making and ASSume out of yourself. you sound like the irags, oh i don't agree with you so i attack you.

People aren't attacking you, don't blow it out of proportion now, people are just talking straight to you. You asked for opinions and you got them.

The basic jist is:

1) You are simply employees of a company, and the company are exercising their right to move you around the building, for better or worse productivity, it doesn't matter they can and they have.

2)You have all the time in the world to spend with your gf, if you cannot manage 2.5hours a day you are really not gonna get far in life.

Plus your analogy of spie starting up OCuk is different from your situation and thus irrelevant.

unwashed potato! · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:07

kbc said:
addy_010, maybe it's because people on this forum believe you have very little grounds to file a complaint about the "splitting up" situation. It's far too petty and just wouldn't get you anywhere. It's more of a personal issue between you 2 and the person being a "moo".

People think you're making a big deal out of it because this issue is quite petty tbh.

then if thats what people thought why has it taken this long for it to be said. One mans rubbish is another mans gold, your opinion of pettyness is my opinion of happiness. wanting to spend all my time with someone that i enjoy a lot isn't bad, how can people think thats petty? i work my ass off to be get something in return, they are making up reason to not give me that, how is that petty? my opinion is that if i have found something i really want then i will do anything to keep it, is it petty that i stick to my values?

as people dont seem to understand lets pretend this is what happened. they fired us and made up a reason as to why which can be proven to be false. would i still be petty for thinking thats wrong?

i asked for advice on one thing, and mostly got a beating on something irrevlevent

M0T · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:07

addy_010 said:
its funny how people are saying all these things because i have someone i want to be all the time yet when they dont have that person so how can they judge me? i have found someone i want to be with a lot, should i then not see that person because of unjust reasons? thats what begin pathetic is tbh.

I have a girlfriend, who I care for very deeply and I would spend every minute with her if I could.

However, I also realise that in order to work effectively I can't be around her because we distract each other. Even if you are the worlds best workers (and lets face it you arn't going to admit otherwise) from the perspective of your employers who can't watch you all the time there is a chance that you could be slacking because you are together.

Next point. If you take days off sick together or slack off they will just fire you. This isn't school any more, this is the real world and they don't have to do what you want them to do. If this bothers you just go and find another cleaning job, but many companies will have the exact same policy on couples working together.

Curio · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:13

addy_010 said:
what about making a stand by working very badly. anything they can do about that?

Jeez, seriously - grow up. Sorry, I'm don't mean to offend....and I think it's great you're with somebody you obviously care a lot about (although the whole "trust issue" is another kettle of fish...)....but you haven't got a leg to stand on here. It's their way or the highway, etc, etc.

Eriedor · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:13

addy_010 said:
as people dont seem to understand lets pretend this is what happened. they fired us and made up a reason as to why which can be proven to be false. would i still be petty for thinking thats wrong?

Oh dear you are comparing getting split up to being fired.

Firstly i believe you have to have worked for a company for a year before you have legal rights as an employee. If so and they did as you mentioned they are of course in the wrong as it is unfair dismissal. However that is a farsight from splitting the two of you up!

While i understand you may be completley infatuated with your gf and there isn't anything wrong with wanting to be with her all the time, our point is that is totally unfeasible in the real world and you need to understand this and stop kicking up a fuss at the first hurdle. The real world doesn't give a **** about your relationship.

Fuzz · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:15

eriedor said:
Oh dear you are comparing getting split up to being fired.

Firstly i believe you have to have worked for a company for a year before you have legal rights as an employee. If so and they did as you mentioned they are of course in the wrong as it is unfair dismissal. However that is a farsight from splitting the two of you up!

While i understand you may be completley infatuated with your gf and there isn't anything wrong with wanting to be with her all the time, our point is that is totally unfeasible in the real world and you need to understand this and stop kicking up a fuss at the first hurdle. The real world doesn't give a **** about your relationship.

Put it much better than me.

unwashed potato! · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:16

Curio said:
Jeez, seriously - grow up. Sorry, I'm don't mean to offend....and I think it's great you're with somebody you obviously care a lot about (although the whole "trust issue" is another kettle of fish...)....but you haven't got a leg to stand on here. It's their way or the highway, etc, etc.

ok thanskf or the advice. i haven't explained enough but i know for a fact that i could easily get away with working very badly as many others do. the trsut thing isn't that bad, it not me who doesn't trust her, it her, and it's not that she wont let me if i really have to do something, like uni she fine with, but if she knows she can prevent something like me from having to walk through 4/5 youngish girls then she will or if there is another problem with an alternative then why not take the alternative with no problems? seem pretty silly not to dont you think?

unwashed potato! · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:20

eriedor said:
Oh dear you are comparing getting split up to being fired.

not really what i was asking for. was saying would thinking that firing people for a false reason is wrong and petty? well this isn't as bad, they are doing something for a complete false reason, how can someone not kick up a fuss? does it amtter how big of an issue it is? if someone is not treated right should they bend over and take it? again the word petty is coming to mind, wouldn't bending over be the petty option? and not the getting angry about it option?

Eriedor · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:23

addy_010 said:
ok thanskf or the advice. i haven't explained enough but i know for a fact that i could easily get away with working very badly as many others do. the trsut thing isn't that bad, it not me who doesn't trust her, it her, and it's not that she wont let me if i really have to do something, like uni she fine with, but if she knows she can prevent something like me from having to walk through 4/5 youngish girls then she will or if there is another problem with an alternative then why not take the alternative with no problems? seem pretty silly not to dont you think?

Surely the problem is that it's a problem.

I understand why you do as she says as it's the "path of least resistance", but the fact that she would try to prevent you from simply being in the presence of some "youngish" girls for fear of something happening isn't a healthy one. I just can't get my head round it.

Hey i'm no relationship expert (who is?) but i personally would never deem a relationship with such a petty problem (imo) as healthy.

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addy_010 said:
not really what i was asking for. was saying would thinking that firing people for a false reason is wrong and petty? well this isn't as bad, they are doing something for a complete false reason, how can someone not kick up a fuss? does it amtter how big of an issue it is? if someone is not treated right should they bend over and take it? again the word petty is coming to mind, wouldn't bending over be the petty option? and not the getting angry about it option?

dude the world is not all hugs and kisses, especially in employment, you will meet nasty backstabbing people, bosses that treat you like **** for no reason. Ofc if it's something serious stand your ground, but this is really a non-issue as im sure a lot of people would agree.

M0T · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:23

addy_010 said:
not really what i was asking for. was saying would thinking that firing people for a false reason is wrong and petty? well this isn't as bad, they are doing something for a complete false reason, how can someone not kick up a fuss? does it amtter how big of an issue it is? if someone is not treated right should they bend over and take it? again the word petty is coming to mind, wouldn't bending over be the petty option? and not the getting angry about it option?

Firstly, your posts are difficult to read because you have poor punctuation.

Secondly, you should have realised that you are being fairly silly due to the nature of the replies you have received. 2 Pages and not one vote of support.

Really you just seem to have not quite entered the real world, I suggest picking up your toys and putting them back in your pram...

Gilly · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:27

Mountain out of a molehill.

unwashed potato! · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:33

M0T said:
Really you just seem to have not quite entered the real world, I suggest picking up your toys and putting them back in your pram...

so tell me what happens in the real world then wise one? im mean like seeing as how im only 18, asking for advice on a computers forum i obviously am lost, but i guess you're not in the real world either by expecting me to very grown up at the ripe old age of 18.

so in the real world do people take this sort of thing reguarly? being treated unfairly is common for your life? you must have a very rubbish life (IMO) to need to take that from someone just to earn some money. i guess i just feel differently and think that if i work hard i deserve what i want and shouldn't have to put up with rubbish to get it.

daveydave · 1 Feb 2007 at 01:39

avaya in guildford?