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I am considering the chance to change contract at work, I'll be away for 8 - 12 weeks at a time for the majority of the year if I transfer to this new job.

I won't say what exactly what the contract is as most people I'm sure would say "Hell yes! - Go for it" as many of my friends and indeed family already have, I am looking at this from the point of view of my limited time at home that I have already, I am already very much of the view that I live to work where in honesty, I wish it was the reverse.

Now, I currently work away from home all week anyway, but do very much look forward to being home at weekends to see friends & family, the latter especially.

Thing is, this (the new contract I'd be on) is something I have always fancied doing but am very unsure if I will regret the extended periods of being away, especially from my daughter.


Thoughts appreciated. :)
 
At a guess you'll be transporting bits for Formula One teams? ;)

I think I'd find it a hard decision tbh, although I'm only 23, no children.. Have you discussed this with your daughter yet?
 
TaKeN said:
At a guess you'll be transporting bits for Formula One teams? ;)
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Very very likely. :)

As I say in my OP, please disregard this though, its not what I'll be doing its the length of time that I'll be away from home - and yes, my daughter - for which is what my head is trying to fight over my heart.....
 
Depends, its the chance of a life time, you will see some amazing places, but im sure the work is full on all week and weekend. I would do it for at least a year.
 
How old is the daughter? And will you be back for a reasonable amount of time or will it just be a few days? If she's young and that's the case then I think it's a silly idea as you'll miss out on so much. Plus, do you need the extra money?
My old man worked month to six weeks away but was back home for that amount of time. I was in my teen years and was rather mature so it didn't effect me much. However, it did add great strain onto my parents relationship.
 
She's 14, and says its not an issue to her although I'm not so sure she'd think the same after a few weeks - whilst I have been seperated from her since she was 18months old, I have always seen her at weekends / holidays.

A friend is already doing this contract & has been home 3 times in the last 9 weeks, the next stint is 14 weeks. He's said already a few of the lads are finding it hard being away - never mind the job which is far from a Motorsport fans paradise I assure you.
 
If it's something you have always wanted to do go for it.
The way I see these things, is it doesn't have to be a permanent situation, you can do it and see if you like it.,I expect earn some decent money to help you on your way and can change at a latter date to something else. Where if you don't try it, you'll always be thinking I gave up something I've always wanted to try.

Some people say follow your head,I say always follow your heart, you may have more downs but you will never be happy with settling for the safe option, when you want something else.

Edit - just saw you have a daughter, which changes things somewhat.
 
There comes in a point in everyone's life where you decide you want to sleep in your own bed every night rather than be staying in hotels. I've been fortunate to travel a lot through work but once I hit my 30's I began to lose interest in travelling and wanted to stay at home more. Last year I had an opportunity to make more money but it meant being away from home during the week. It was a short term contract ~4 months and I didn't like it. I've now taken the decision to only take on contracts close to home, if it means being out of work at times I can live with that. I'm not old but I prefer to be with family over extra money.

However, only you know if the experience is worth the time away from home. :)
 
R420LA6X2/4MNA said:
She's 14, and says its not an issue to her although I'm not so sure she'd think the same after a few weeks - whilst I have been seperated from her since she was 18months old, I have always seen her at weekends / holidays.

A friend is already doing this contract & has been home 3 times in the last 9 weeks, the next stint is 14 weeks. He's said already a few of the lads are finding it hard being away - never mind the job which is far from a Motorsport fans paradise I assure you.
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14 isn't an easy age. The time away will take it's toll on your daughter no matter what she says.
 
R420LA6X2/4MNA said:
She's 14, and says its not an issue to her although I'm not so sure she'd think the same after a few weeks - whilst I have been seperated from her since she was 18months old, I have always seen her at weekends / holidays.
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To be fair she is getting to the age of independence and will probably (not being harsh, here speaking from experience) see a bit less of you. So I would take this opportunity, as otherwise you may regret it in the years to come.
 
i wouldnt do it for the sake of my daughter.

you cant make up time with your family but the job will be there in years to come.

your daughter is more important than carrying cargo around Europe.

i know you said she "dosent mind" but deep down she would want you to be closer to her.
 
I've always fancied "Going Continental" as far as the job is concerned, but always planned to do it once she was in her later teens, she's at a difficult age at the moment, I worry greatly that me dissapearing from her life for extended periods at this stage in her life, may well be the thing that gets her off the rails she tries her best to jump from if you see what I mean.

Yes, its something I want to do, but my daughter comes first. Sure I may regret missing out on F1, F2 or WRC & a lot of travel, but I'd be happier looking back in years to come if she stays on the rails of life now.....

Burnsy2023 said:
14 isn't an easy age. The time away will take it's toll on your daughter no matter what she says.
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You have probably made my mind up there mate.
 
give it a try, at least for a season :)


ps if you want to "liberate" any shiny goodies ala engines etc e-mails in trust
 
Does she need the extra attention from you? Is it looking like she going off the rails? If not, do it.
 
R420LA6X2/4MNA said:
Yes, its something I want to do, but my daughter comes first. Sure I may regret missing out on F1, F2 or WRC & a lot of travel, but I'd be happier looking back in years to come if she stays on the rails of life now......
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You have a point, in only 2 years time she won't be saying "daddy", it'll be "my boyfriend".
 
mcast said:
You have a point, in only 2 years time she won't be saying "daddy", it'll be "my boyfriend".
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2 Years? I wish pal! its here & now!

How I have not committed GBH to some of the lads on her facebook page I'll never know.

she's not called me daddy for about 3 years :( - they grow up too damn quick these days.
 
I'd say at 14, then she's old enough to understand and understand the implications. I would probably say to go, now knowing her age. But each child is different...
 
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