Worrying

Greg0986

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Hey all,

I am on the last stretch of my national diploma in computing at college and it was going great until we got given a lot of assignments all at once. This is where I started worrying. Because we only have about 5 weeks left, I was worrying that I would not get it done in time and also, because I have a job, that made it worse. I did manage to get some of the work done but when I get home, I start thinking about what happens if I fail etc and it has got so bad that I have started worrying about my future. I keep thinking about if I am good enough to do the higher national degree and what my future will be like. I t is making me ill also.

Has anyone got any tips or advice on how to not worry as much?
 
Unfortunately, if you're the sort of person who worries, there's not a lot you can do to make yourself stop worrying. I know this because I'm the same. Alcohol does help to a certain degree though, so long as you're not hung-over during the exam or something.
 
When you start worrying, just think "I wouldn't have to worry if I put this effort in to working instead of worrying!", clear your mind and crack on.

My wife was a worrier, but she's no where near as bad now because I don't stand for it. I make her realise that it is pointless, worrying doesn't get you anywhere. You will either have it done or you won't. If you don't you aren't going to die, you'll either get a worse score or fail in which case you redo it.
 
Have you managed to 'get your teeth into' your work yet? If you haven't that will help massively with your psychological outlook :)

Secondly.. rather than worry, Plan. Take a look at the time you have available and decide on what's most important. Hit those area's first. With a plan, you can relax a bit because your mind will be off "how the hell am I gonna do this in time", you will have a plan to say how long it will take. Try and plan some contingency time in if possible.

Also.. is it possible to get a few days off work to help out? Some employers would make an allowance for something like this. Even if they say no, it's worth asking :-)
 
I have managed to do quite a bit of it. about 3 weeks before Easter, we has this external verifier that came in and looked at everyone's work from the previous year and found a couple of things wrong with it. So we had to do previous work plus about 10 assignments. I only have 5 assignments left but I am still worrying about the future etc

Because I only work 2 days out of the week, I took 3 days off from work before Easter and did 2 weeks of straight 8:30 till 5 at college to get them done. Cheers for all the help so far guys :)
 
AHarvey said:
When you start worrying, just think "I wouldn't have to worry if I put this effort in to working instead of worrying!", clear your mind and crack on.

My wife was a worrier, but she's no where near as bad now because I don't stand for it. I make her realise that it is pointless, worrying doesn't get you anywhere. You will either have it done or you won't. If you don't you aren't going to die, you'll either get a worse score or fail in which case you redo it.
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Erm no? It means she doesn't express her worries any more because she knows you'll berate her for it. Doesn't mean she's "cured" of worrying.
 
It often helps to do things before you have to and getit out the way.
I have exams two months away and have nearly finished revision for a couple of them, I do all my work at college, it's much easier than doing it at home.
 
Just keep doing them :D work, work and work. If you can't get the assignment in on time, just speak to the lecturer for a extension.


I've just been given 3 assignments today all for next week, on top of the 3 I already have so ;) BTEC Extended Diploma Level 3 in IT
 
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Erm no? It means she doesn't express her worries any more because she knows you'll berate her for it. Doesn't mean she's "cured" of worrying.
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ermmm yes, I think I know my wife a hell of a lot better than you do.

As I said, she is no where near as bad now as she used to be, she'll even come across work situations where she would have worried about them and now openly says she doesn't. She's just learnt that a lot of the stuff she worried about was unimportant in the grand scheme of things and has learnt to deal with it better.

She still has stuff she worries about and we still talk them through, but it's usually important stuff now!

So perhaps in future you should save yourself the bother of stating something that you know nothing about! :D
 
First off, unless your job funds something important such as rent, which I doubt at your age, then quit. You don't need a job at this age (unless the money is for something important) and will only add to your stress and worries. Maybe explain your situation to you employer and ask if you can take a few weeks off or ask if they will rehire you when you get all of the work done.
 
To stop worrying, listen to what I say below and take it 100% to heart.

Stop worrying. No really, right now. Just stop. Worrying about future events is the most pointless emotion in the universe. Either be concerned about something that has actually happened and has an actual consequence, or be motivated to succeed. Which you will, providing you stop fannying about and wasting your time.

Be more awesome and win.
 
If your talking about the BTEC national diploma in IT of the edexcel one then you could easily do any 5 assignment from it in a day or two depending on your intelligence level and willingness. I
 
AHarvey said:
ermmm yes, I think I know my wife a hell of a lot better than you do.

As I said, she is no where near as bad now as she used to be, she'll even come across work situations where she would have worried about them and now openly says she doesn't. She's just learnt that a lot of the stuff she worried about was unimportant in the grand scheme of things and has learnt to deal with it better.

She still has stuff she worries about and we still talk them through, but it's usually important stuff now!

So perhaps in future you should save yourself the bother of stating something that you know nothing about! :D
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It was the "she knows I won't stand for it" part that made me think you'd bullied her into never admitting worry. Together with "I made her realize...", it makes you sound like a domineering kind of guy. That kind of thing worries me. (You see what I did there?)
 
Nitefly said:
To stop worrying, listen to what I say below and take it 100% to heart.

Stop worrying. No really, right now. Just stop. Worrying about future events is the most pointless emotion in the universe. Either be concerned about something that has actually happened and has an actual consequence, or be motivated to succeed. Which you will, providing you stop fannying about and wasting your time.

Be more awesome and win.
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Good advice there.

OP; focus on the tasks at hand and plan your time and see yourself completing what you need to get done, with plenty of time to spare and then go do it.

It's mostly all in your head anyway, stay positive and you'll get positive results. And in the worse case scenario, it's a College course, not the end of the world. As long as you're really into it then it's all good; if you're not, then well, maybe there's a good reason right there to do something else instead. ;)
 
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