My first marriage was so far back in prehistoric times, that the very idea of taking the wife’s name hadn’t been thought of.
My second, (and definitely last), was in 1994, and I can truthfully say that the idea of my taking her name never came up, but if it had, I would have vetoed it, not because I thought mine was more important, but because taking the husband’s name was the “done thing”, but as I said, the thought didn’t occur to either of us.
I’m ambivalent about double barrelled names, but as a blue collar guy, I wouldn’t entertain the idea, they seem more associated with the aristocracy, or wannabe aristocracy.
On that subject, how is it decided which name goes first in a double barrelled situation?
If John Smith married Mary Jones, and he suggested that they become Mr. and Mrs. Smith-Jones, isn’t he saying, “My name is more important than yours?”
Or, (one for the feminists), is the male name considered to take precedence?
My second, (and definitely last), was in 1994, and I can truthfully say that the idea of my taking her name never came up, but if it had, I would have vetoed it, not because I thought mine was more important, but because taking the husband’s name was the “done thing”, but as I said, the thought didn’t occur to either of us.
I’m ambivalent about double barrelled names, but as a blue collar guy, I wouldn’t entertain the idea, they seem more associated with the aristocracy, or wannabe aristocracy.
On that subject, how is it decided which name goes first in a double barrelled situation?
If John Smith married Mary Jones, and he suggested that they become Mr. and Mrs. Smith-Jones, isn’t he saying, “My name is more important than yours?”
Or, (one for the feminists), is the male name considered to take precedence?