Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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Worst she can say is no
Which in women-talk actually means yes, so full-steam ahead!
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Option A all the way. Don't expect too much from it though. If you've got on as well as you said then it could be promising, even so just go out again as friends. Another addition to your circle is never a bad thing and if things don't work out how you'd like she may have some nice single mates you could be introduced to.
If you're rusty it's important you get back in saddle as soon as possible.
Definitely option A but I would word it a bit more casually. I would just say something like "How's it going? What you up to this *insert day here*? Fancy meeting for a drink and a chat?"
Although I might have a little bit of light hearted chat over private mail first. Not too much though.
Soldato
anyone know of any decent "adult" dating websites? i've signed up to a couple free ones and they're terrible. not a fan of signing up to a paid for one and having the same issue i had with the likes of match where everyone i message can't read the thing so a waste of money.
Wish I'd listened to this and not wasted any more time on her now! 6 weeks and she finally told me she definitely wasn't interested yesterday. Feels like a waste of 6 weeks. Am pretty gutted as I genuinely liked her a lot, we had loads in common and thought we got on really well when we were together.. But she obviously didn't think so!
If ever there was a thread I could take part in, I've got a history of firstly internet dating. Met my last girlfriend on Facebook Poker, not really your typical dating location but we stayed together for over 4 years (she's from another country)
Let's take a look
As, obvious as this may be, above I've highlighted the first obvious clues to the second part of this post.
By you posting a) as the "let's meet again" mentality this is your desire - it's very clear that you like this girl, but of course the main question of this post is, does she and did she enjoy the company as much as I did? With the question looming, b) is the modest approach as you said, you are rusty are reading between the lines, maybe you are asking yourself "Did she just message in the morning, just to be nice?"
Now this is the way I see it, generally i'm decent getting down into the dirty psychological details with issues like this, it's kind of a sick hobby of mine. This lady friend had enough interest out of the people she would have met in that night to sit down, have drinks and talk in detail with YOU (an hour is a decent amount of time for talking). Anyone with a lack of interest, would firstly most likely not have drinks with you for starters, let alone have a comprehensive chat.
Could she just be being overly friendly? - This is a potential question, but being at a party with a few people that you know, generally you will sift through everyone huddling in group chats rather than having a solo one-on-one. It depends on also how many people were at this party, who else she knew.
The Conversation - During the conversation, did she do the following : look you in the eyes for more than average comfortable time, learn towards you during the conversation? These are signs of deep interest and potentially more. Anyone that leans back in a conversation, is dis-interested or has a hard time listening or believing what you are saying. Did she smile and laugh? Did she ask you questions or interested in what you did for work? (this topic is one of the most common talking points)
The Club - Clubs are disastrous for first time meets, especially when they are loud, crowded in which you are most likely to have least contact unless you are comfortable taking a girl for a dance, due to your modesty and overall lack of confidence this wouldn't have happened.
The Friend Request - After sending the friend request, you need to ask yourself why you would have cancelled it? In the previous paragraph I spoke about the "lack of confidence" I am speculating from yourself, and the possible rejection. So why not get rid of the request before it can be shot down right? Again it's speculation, you saying it was too forward - but surely an hour conversation is enough to warrant continued connection even on a friendly basis.
The Morning After - To your surprise, the friend request had not only been accepted, but a message sailed in. This is a very good sign, even if it's an apology you had been split or she bailed it's still her expressing and apologising for her departure without having a proper Goodbye, it's not even as if you were asking how she felt either, she willingly told you why she left as she was feeling "unwell".
Now, to me this would be something to pursue due to the signals in which I can see she has interest for you, more so than just someone else you would meet at a party. Lets say, you got off to a good start and the content for you a) to ask her for a coffee out sometime. If she enjoyed your company enough to send an apology for bailing without a prompt from you, i'm sure it's something which she most likely will do or consider. After all, what do you have to lose?
If you don't try, you won't know.
Dr Purdy
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Let's take a look
As, obvious as this may be, above I've highlighted the first obvious clues to the second part of this post.
By you posting a) as the "let's meet again" mentality this is your desire - it's very clear that you like this girl, but of course the main question of this post is, does she and did she enjoy the company as much as I did? With the question looming, b) is the modest approach as you said, you are rusty are reading between the lines, maybe you are asking yourself "Did she just message in the morning, just to be nice?"
Now this is the way I see it, generally i'm decent getting down into the dirty psychological details with issues like this, it's kind of a sick hobby of mine. This lady friend had enough interest out of the people she would have met in that night to sit down, have drinks and talk in detail with YOU (an hour is a decent amount of time for talking). Anyone with a lack of interest, would firstly most likely not have drinks with you for starters, let alone have a comprehensive chat.
Could she just be being overly friendly? - This is a potential question, but being at a party with a few people that you know, generally you will sift through everyone huddling in group chats rather than having a solo one-on-one. It depends on also how many people were at this party, who else she knew.
The Conversation - During the conversation, did she do the following : look you in the eyes for more than average comfortable time, learn towards you during the conversation? These are signs of deep interest and potentially more. Anyone that leans back in a conversation, is dis-interested or has a hard time listening or believing what you are saying. Did she smile and laugh? Did she ask you questions or interested in what you did for work? (this topic is one of the most common talking points)
The Club - Clubs are disastrous for first time meets, especially when they are loud, crowded in which you are most likely to have least contact unless you are comfortable taking a girl for a dance, due to your modesty and overall lack of confidence this wouldn't have happened.
The Friend Request - After sending the friend request, you need to ask yourself why you would have cancelled it? In the previous paragraph I spoke about the "lack of confidence" I am speculating from yourself, and the possible rejection. So why not get rid of the request before it can be shot down right? Again it's speculation, you saying it was too forward - but surely an hour conversation is enough to warrant continued connection even on a friendly basis.
The Morning After - To your surprise, the friend request had not only been accepted, but a message sailed in. This is a very good sign, even if it's an apology you had been split or she bailed it's still her expressing and apologising for her departure without having a proper Goodbye, it's not even as if you were asking how she felt either, she willingly told you why she left as she was feeling "unwell".
Now, to me this would be something to pursue due to the signals in which I can see she has interest for you, more so than just someone else you would meet at a party. Lets say, you got off to a good start and the content for you a) to ask her for a coffee out sometime. If she enjoyed your company enough to send an apology for bailing without a prompt from you, i'm sure it's something which she most likely will do or consider. After all, what do you have to lose?
If you don't try, you won't know.
Dr Purdy
#notreallyadoctor
#Justacreep
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Soldato
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After venturing back into online dating a few 'flings' from the horrendous site known as Pof I thought I would try Match.com. Couldn't recommend it more, after a months membership I've had a fair few dates with some I will be taking further. The women are a lot more keen in general as I guess everyone is paying for the site and not specifically there for ego boosts or general chit chat that goes on for days. The winking systems make things a whole lot easier as well.
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I've never had any issues with PoF. I filter the time wasters, and only respond to people I'm interested in. I've had plenty of great dates with really nice women so see no need to pay Match's subscription.
Glad it's working out for you though
I've been away from POF for the past couple of months. Decided to stick a new profile up last night but it's not seeing much action. None in fact!
Any advice welcomed
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=64282824
Any advice welcomed
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=64282824
I've been away from POF for the past couple of months. Decided to stick a new profile up last night but it's not seeing much action. None in fact!
Any advice welcomed
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=64282824
Get rid of the grammatical errors. And this sentence:
"Family and friends are very important to me and spend a lot of time meeting up with them to enjoy the good times but feel I need someone extra in my life to share the special times with."
Hello Mr Needy!
Remove that your business is just getting going.
How occasionally do you smoke? If it's just the odd one, then put non smoker.
The "proper big nightclub" bit makes you sound like a bit of a dork. Just say bigger gigs or something.
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Soldato
That selfie is a terrible photo imo, would remove.
Got asked on a date with a girl i've been texting for a few days. Makes a change being asked
Got asked on a date with a girl i've been texting for a few days. Makes a change being asked
Take the 2 photos of you and that bird off, I'm guessing you'd be put off by a girl with random guys in her pictures so do the same.
Also buy a thesaurus! First sentence has nice nice nice all the way through as does the profile, mix it up a bit and actually say something a woman will want to hear with a bit of personality! (Sorry I sound grumpy and harsh)
Also buy a thesaurus! First sentence has nice nice nice all the way through as does the profile, mix it up a bit and actually say something a woman will want to hear with a bit of personality! (Sorry I sound grumpy and harsh)
Your profile is far too 'nice'... nice personlity, nice things in life, nice restaurant, nice glass of wine. Nice is a terrible word, it's boring and lazy.
I'm not sure having a picture with a girl in it captioned with 'happy times' is a good idea. It leaves you wondering whether the time in question was happy because of said girl.
And for added brownie points... Oasis
I'm not sure having a picture with a girl in it captioned with 'happy times' is a good idea. It leaves you wondering whether the time in question was happy because of said girl.
And for added brownie points... Oasis
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