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Last time I went to soft play my 3 year old was blatantly pushed over by an 8 year old as he ran past. I was waiting at the exit to the soft play area so asked him calmly to be more careful, he told me to "**** off".

Then his dad came over and told me "don't you ******* dare talk to my kid". So I explained, dad then came back with "he didn't do nothing".

We left, never went back, ghastly places.
 

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Any top tips for introducing formula bottles to a breastfed baby (currently 3 months). Baby number 2, we (I) was never patient enough to make it to bottle feeding with our first but I really want to give ourselves a bit more flexibility with baby number 2 so quite keen to try and get some feeds on the bottle.

She seems quite happy to take the bottle but the moment she starts taking any milk from it just gets really angry (understandably so, it's not a booby!). Any top tips/experience of introducing bottle feeding? Right now I'm just trying every few days at various timings during the day. Eventual plan will be to do evening/night feeds on the bottle. Just using generic formula from Aldi and some of the slow flow rate Tommee Tippee bottles.
 
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Just using generic formula from Aldi and some of the slow flow rate Tommee Tippee bottles.
This is probably the starting point, try different formula to see which she likes. There's a good variety about, we found that Kendamill worked great for us after trying Aptamil and not having much luck.

Same with bottles! Try different bottles to see which are preferred. The MAM bottles are great, you can also change the teats to increase the flow rate as they get older - but again, worth trying a few different options to see what she likes cos every kid is different/has different levels of fuss.
 
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Last time I went to soft play my 3 year old was blatantly pushed over by an 8 year old as he ran past. I was waiting at the exit to the soft play area so asked him calmly to be more careful, he told me to "**** off".

Then his dad came over and told me "don't you ******* dare talk to my kid". So I explained, dad then came back with "he didn't do nothing".

We left, never went back, ghastly places.
Soft play is the pits. I avoid it. Much prefer swimming as it seems the riff raff don’t like getting wet :p
 
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I'm supposed to see my daughter 50% of the time but lately my Ex has been asking my daughter if she wants to stay at mine, just ask. So this last few weeks it's been more like 80% of the time. It's sweet she likes it at mine but I'm not getting any rest! I think my ex wants to get back together as she comes a long too and isn't just palming her off on me so she can have fun.
 
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Soft play is the pits. I avoid it. Much prefer swimming as it seems the riff raff don’t like getting wet :p

We take our little one to a specialised soft play as she has ASD, which the parents have to sign a waiver for stating that they’ll keep a constant eye on their kids. Last time I was there one bloke puts his kid on the enclosed trampoline and ****s off. Kid decides he wants to get off, and just proceeds to bust through the zip without opening it, breaking it but also tangling himself up in the process and shrieking blue murder as he does so. Dad’s nowhere to be seen so I start untangling him while he’s thrashing and bawling at the top of his lungs, with me catching a fair few hands, feet, elbows and knees to various parts because he’s so distressed. And where’s his dad? Stood at the cafe bit with a brew in hand pushing toast into his face as he watches.

The vast majority of parents there are lovely, but it just goes to show that like gravity, ****holes are a universal constant. Still, the owner pulled him to one side on the way out, so it looks like he might be approaching the ‘find out’ stage. They operate a 3 strikes and you’re out policy, so I imagine he probably got one for that.
 
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You must go to rough places :p . I can count one 1 hand how many times both my kids have been ill and they're 10 and 7. I will admit though that we did go to a 'rough' soft play for a kids party and it did look a bit grimy. The one we used to go to was always pretty good.
 
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You must go to rough places :p . I can count one 1 hand how many times both my kids have been ill and they're 10 and 7. I will admit though that we did go to a 'rough' soft play for a kids party and it did look a bit grimy. The one we used to go to was always pretty good.

Used to go soft play regularly until COVID, most places are grim and grimy, clearly run on a tight budget. Wife would be helicoptering around my boy with the anti bac, Don't really visit them now.

However the soft play at Drayton manor in Thomas world is amazing, they do 30 minute stints, and after 30 minutes everyone gets kicked out, they clean the place head to toe, have 4-5 staff members just on cleaning duties, they also have another couple staff members making sure kids and parents are behaving themselves.

Not been there for a few years now, so may well have changed, but ages between 2&4 we went every year always enjoyed it.
 
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However the soft play at Drayton manor in Thomas world is amazing, they do 30 minute stints, and after 30 minutes everyone gets kicked out, they clean the place head to toe, have 4-5 staff members just on cleaning duties, they also have another couple staff members making sure kids and parents are behaving themselves.
There's a place near us in Midhurst that does the same thing, it's a bit more pricey but it's so much better because of it. Everything doesn't feel sticky, the cost puts off a few of the parents with rabid children and the coffee tastes pretty great.

The only downside is that you get a lot of children called 'Beatrice' and 'Angus'.
 

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Luckily the soft plays near us are relatively small and so the maximum amount of carnage is somewhat limited. We visited some friends a few months back and went to some huuge soft play thing on the outskirts of Manchester and I still have PTSD from it, the constant announcements over the Tannoy that there's a lost kid at reception were really the icing on the cake.
 
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You must go to rough places :p . I can count one 1 hand how many times both my kids have been ill and they're 10 and 7. I will admit though that we did go to a 'rough' soft play for a kids party and it did look a bit grimy. The one we used to go to was always pretty good.
Haha there is a bit of hyperbole in my post.

Actually the best one near me is part of a massive aquatics/garden centre place. It is clearly just the blokes hobby and he has bolted a shop to it, but similar to the Drayton Manor one, it's fixed time slots and then fumigated. Plus side is you can go and check out the fish too. Some absolute units in there!
 
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Paid for an allergy test from a blood sample for my daughter, as she’s non-verbal, and can’t tell us when she’s feeling unwell. We knew from her early days, and the scale of the response that she was allergic to cow’s milk. However, despite cutting out milk and avoiding soy, which we suspect she also may be allergic too, we’ve still been having her reacting badly to something though, sometimes waking up screaming in the night with painful trapped wind. So, we paid for the test, but with these results though, it looks like it’s so much worse than we suspected. It would seem she’s allergic to almost everything.

The results use a traffic light system, and the following were red, as in do not give it to her at all.

- Milk
- Egg white
- Almond
- Oat
- Gliadin (which is just as well, as we have no idea what that even is)
- Pea
- Barley
- Cashew nut
- Wheat
- Hazelnut
- Peanut
- Soy (we suspected she might be allergic to soy)
- White haricot bean
- Durum wheat
- Potato
- Rye
- Oranges

I mean, just what the hell are we supposed to feed her? She loves potato waffles, pasta, beans, and due to her Autism she’s really limited in what she will eat anyway.
 
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Paid for an allergy test from a blood sample for my daughter, as she’s non-verbal, and can’t tell us when she’s feeling unwell. We knew from her early days, and the scale of the response that she was allergic to cow’s milk. However, despite cutting out milk and avoiding soy, which we suspect she also may be allergic too, we’ve still been having her reacting badly to something though, sometimes waking up screaming in the night with painful trapped wind. So, we paid for the test, but with these results though, it looks like it’s so much worse than we suspected. It would seem she’s allergic to almost everything.

The results use a traffic light system, and the following were red, as in do not give it to her at all.

- Milk
- Egg white
- Almond
- Oat
- Gliadin (which is just as well, as we have no idea what that even is)
- Pea
- Barley
- Cashew nut
- Wheat
- Hazelnut
- Peanut
- Soy (we suspected she might be allergic to soy)
- White haricot bean
- Durum wheat
- Potato
- Rye
- Oranges

I mean, just what the hell are we supposed to feed her? She loves potato waffles, pasta, beans, and due to her Autism she’s really limited in what she will eat anyway.
That doesn't leave much.
 
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