Girlfriend problems what do you guys make of this situation?
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...and she'll tell you to stuff if up your hows-your-father.
That is a conversation that will only end in an argument - I guarantee it.
Let her do it.
Seconding this. Plus it means when you go into a random pub in Scotland only one of you will get beaten up and can carry the other one home!
*Hurl!*
Get all alpha on her and tell her to get rid of it with [this] razor! That'll learn her.
She wanted it done, and did it. she rebelled. You don't like the fact she got it done without your consent.
Your only 4 months into a relationship so it is very early days. Do you like her? If so the tattoo is just material and you should accept it. When you see it, just say your not the biggest fan of it, but your happy if she is. Wanting her to be happy is important.
I can see why your upset, but if you told her you were going to get a faster car, and she said no, and you did it anyway, would you want her acceptance? Would you want her to ditch you because of it?
Your only 4 months into a relationship so it is very early days. Do you like her? If so the tattoo is just material and you should accept it. When you see it, just say your not the biggest fan of it, but your happy if she is. Wanting her to be happy is important.
I can see why your upset, but if you told her you were going to get a faster car, and she said no, and you did it anyway, would you want her acceptance? Would you want her to ditch you because of it?
Firstly I wouldn't have said 4 months is 'serious', but I guess thats up to you to define your own terms.
If she got the tattoo clearly knowing you wouldn't like it, that would indicate to me that she has little regards for your feelings.
As for the actual tattoo, well my girlfriend wouldn't be that silly. Nor would I go out with someone that would get a tattoo.
If she got the tattoo clearly knowing you wouldn't like it, that would indicate to me that she has little regards for your feelings.
As for the actual tattoo, well my girlfriend wouldn't be that silly. Nor would I go out with someone that would get a tattoo.
I also think she doesn't love you. Do you love her?
If she loved you, she would have listened to you. I can use my GF as an example. She loves me. She would ask me first of how I felt, then she woudn't do it. That is Love.
You could still stay with her just for the Sex if you like, most Men would.
If she loved you, she would have listened to you. I can use my GF as an example. She loves me. She would ask me first of how I felt, then she woudn't do it. That is Love.
You could still stay with her just for the Sex if you like, most Men would.
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Don't take this the wrong way, but you do sound a bit possessive. You said "I have been in a solid relationship with my girlfriend for 4 months now", you are hardly "solid" after just four months, this is like the fun period?!? Why do you feel you should have any opinion at such an early stage about this.
Take a chill pill, and just enjoy the time you have with her.
Take a chill pill, and just enjoy the time you have with her.
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To be fair to the guy, getting a football tattoo is tacky anyway, a girl getting it is the tackiest thing going.
Id ditch her, she sounds like a filthy skank to me, now if it was a St Mirren tattoo, that would look quite classy.
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Especially after 4 months.
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You might as well be messing with a higher power here, their football team means that much to some people. You can change your house, your name, even your religion but you never change your team.
If you think you can live with a girl having a Celtic badge tattooed on her then go with it, if not then don't. I'm not sure what other advice could really be given here. She might regret it later but it is entirely her choice to get it done, just as it is your choice to walk away or not.
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Agreed. Don't be that possesive jerk.
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I don't like tats and was going out with my girlfriend for a year, she wanted a small one on her stomach for her 18th and I said I didn't like them but it's up to her. She went ahead and got it, 9 years later she still likes it and I still don't. It's her body, if you don't like it then leave, you can only state your opinion and leave it at that.
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1) it's nothing to do with regarding anything higher than anything. It's to do with you disrespecting her by trying to interfere with what she wants.
2) She shouldn't have had to go behind your back. You shouldn't have given her aggro about getting her tattoo.
Now she's got the tattoo, do you still want to be with her?
If you do, stay with her.
If you don't, find someone else. (Who hasn't got an awful tattoo)
You've been together four months, she owes you nothing. I can see why you're disappointed, it's to be expected, but remember you have no right to be annoyed with her. It's her body, not yours.
Ask yourself this, how would you feel if your girlfriend didn't want you to do something that you've always wanted to do? Would you let her thoughts on the matter stop you? I know I wouldn't, especially if I'd only been seeing the girl for 4 months.
End of the day it's her life, her body, and she can do with it as she sees fit. If you can't handle that then leave her. Then attempt to find some boring, clingy bird with no backbone who'll do everything you say to avoid this sort of situation in future
End of the day it's her life, her body, and she can do with it as she sees fit. If you can't handle that then leave her. Then attempt to find some boring, clingy bird with no backbone who'll do everything you say to avoid this sort of situation in future
When you go into a relationship with someone, you kind of give them the right to certain things, compromise is what being in a relationship is all about.
Ok now maybe the op should compromise his feelings and let her get the tattoo - but for her to know he doesn't like tattoos and then to get one shows nothing but disregard for his feelings. If she'd sat down and said that she really wanted one, and she was going to get it done fair enough, but to just turn up with a tattoo on? Why shouldn't he give her aggro about getting a tattoo? Or does being in a relationship mean you can no longer voice your opinion?
How do you know she owes him nothing? A comment based on assumption rather then fact.
Of course he has the right to be annoyed with her, she did something he's explicitly told her he wouldn't like behind his back.
Slightly O/T but you know full well that if you did something a woman wasn't happy with you'd never get away with it, live it down, or hear the end of ot.