ok i have no luck and tried everything that has been suggested, i have tried various drivers and still no luck, i disabled the built in wireless adapter and plugged in my d-link usb adapter, downloaded the drivers from the windows update site and the adapter found my wireless network right away and connected with no problem.
so for some reason this poxy zydas adapter wont work in xp with the available drivers.
so it looks as though we need to buy a usb wireless adapter if she wants to use xp on her laptop, she has an express slot, is there such a thing as a cheap express wireless adapter as any i seen were expensive. or would it be cheaper buying a usb adapter which unfortunately will stick out a bit.