Women. (not a relationship thread)

well thats me at the bottom of the pile of eligibility then, im about as boring as you can get most of the time, i have my moments, but its mostly a futile effort


someone has to play the role of the depressed loner in this story of life...guess im one of them
 
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well thats me at the bottom of the pile of eligibility then, im about as boring as you can get most of the time, i have my moments, but its mostly a futile effort


someone has to play the role of the depressed loner in this story of life...guess im one of them
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Ah that makes two of us. nice to meet you.
 
I dont know what to think about women, im only 21 but have been in so many strange distorted relationships i really am at a loss as to what they want, it seems most of the time they would prefer it if they meant nothing to you, as soon as you show genuine desire in them it all goes downhill.

People talk about this excitement / unpredicatability thing but it never ends well and is never going to be a good foundation for anything, logically it makes no sense, but yet i find myself attracted to unpredicatable girls and bored of girls who seem to be right there in front of me ??
 
See, I don't know what to say about this. Kell_ee001, I don't want to disagree with you because I'd prefer to give the benefit of the doubt to the girls, but I've noticed girls seem to go with the bad guy because he is 'cooler' and possible 'better looking' in their eyes, but at the same time, they do seem to complain about these guys because they turn out to be complete ****s. I've been single for 2 years now, and I'm only 21, so for the sort of age I am it is quite some time, but I've got a lot of female friends. These girls even admit about their other friends that they go for the bad fellas because they are the 'more interesting' ones. It is rather depressing.

At least I know, when I'm several years older, this wont matter, because the girls will have grown up then, but It is still crap that they go for these guys in the 1st place.
 
MaX_PoWah said:
I dont know what to think about women, im only 21 but have been in so many strange distorted relationships i really am at a loss as to what they want, it seems most of the time they would prefer it if they meant nothing to you, as soon as you show genuine desire in them it all goes downhill.

People talk about this excitement / unpredicatability thing but it never ends well and is never going to be a good foundation for anything, logically it makes no sense, but yet i find myself attracted to unpredicatable girls and bored of girls who seem to be right there in front of me ??
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The first step is to stop trying to understand women. In reality, there is no such thing as "women". There are millions of individuals who are, amongst many other things, women. If you try to understand them all as one entity, you will fail utterly.

I'm feeling cynical enough to think that most people realise how pointless their life is and look for people who appear to be able to add excitement and unpredictablility, not realising that it's just those people trying to pretend they don't realise how pointless their own lives are.
 
Its not so much "nice" as complete doormat. This might not be the case for all women but id like to find someone who doesnt worship the ground I walk on, and whose life doesnt revolve around me. I want him to have his own interests etc, and not just want to do whatever I want.
It just gets boring. You end up wanting to be nasty to them to get some other emotion out of them than "nice." I want someone who would occasionally go "Oi bird, this is what we're doing tonight and tough doo doo if you dont want to do it"

Looks would have nothing to do with it really, ok so theres got to be some chemistry there, but your looks could get mashed up tomorrow in a car crash so there has to be something left.

But what do I know, im nearly 28 and still single! :D
 
Treat em mean to keep em keen is my motto.

But I agree with the OP. Best advice I can give is that don't give in to everything they want. They are looking for a challenge. If you give in all the time then you just seem a bit desperate to them. Not all girls are like this though but most of them are. Like my gf is the lovey dovey type so I guess I'm lucky.
 
Jonny ///M said:
Why do they always go for the bad guy(s)?

Went out last night with my mates but bumped into a girl i knew standing herself who then decided to cling onto me and burst out crying....im like eh :confused: i want a drink!

So he sleeps about,they split up,they get back together,same again,they split up for good...then he's taking her out(last night) and proceeds to F off and kiss another girl!

She's such a nice girl and does everything for him but gets it all thrown back in her face and she always gets back with him. She isnt very confident because of him and doesnt think she can find anybody else when she could find a decent guy within 10 minutes.

I have saw this a few times with different girls and it always gets to me,i have never treated any girl like that and dont intend to!

Dunno what the hell i'm saying now but it just really got on my nerves last night!
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must be something to do with biology. women are animals.
 
malolo said:
There's a difference between a guy who'll treat you right and a guy who'll capitulate to every demand. Yeah girls want to be treated right but a bit of back bone doesn't go amiss.
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indeed, some women will try every emotional trick in the book to get you to do what they want - tears, sex etc

You cant really win - dont do it and they have a tantrum do it and they think they have you wrapped around their little finger and eventually they get bored of it.

Really dont need someone as unstable or as emotionally deceptive/manipulative as that lol

freaks tbh :D ive had one woman say they loved me after meeting me for the third time (basically she turned into uber-clingy woman)
of course this was after me saying we should cool things down.
Just goes to show she would do and say anything to try to get their own way. Shows no respect they have for themselves or the other person.
 
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knip said:
Its not so much "nice" as complete doormat. This might not be the case for all women but id like to find someone who doesnt worship the ground I walk on, and whose life doesnt revolve around me. I want him to have his own interests etc, and not just want to do whatever I want.
It just gets boring. You end up wanting to be nasty to them to get some other emotion out of them than "nice." I want someone who would occasionally go "Oi bird, this is what we're doing tonight and tough doo doo if you dont want to do it"

Looks would have nothing to do with it really, ok so theres got to be some chemistry there, but your looks could get mashed up tomorrow in a car crash so there has to be something left.

But what do I know, im nearly 28 and still single! :D
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I agree with you 100%. In the words of Ferris Bueller - 'you can't respect someone who kisses your ****'. I don't want someone to treat me badly, I want someone to treat me as an equal. To be their own man, to have their own life and interests and opinions.

My ex was a lovely, lovely man, but dull as dishwater. It didn't last long because I got bored. Just 'nice' isn't enough.

And while we're on the subject - the number of men that I know that have dated absolutely mental women because they're 'hot' just isn't real. It's not just so called 'nice guys' who are overlooked, it's perfectly nice women who just don't come up to male 'standards'. The number of times I've read on OCUK that a size 14 is the absolute most a bloke would go to on a prospective girlfriend just makes me think that there are lots of very hypocritical blokes posting on here about how great they are, when really, they're just as picky and selective as these girls are.

neil3k said:
Women smell nice tbh your best staying clear of them in case it rubs of on us smelly boys:)
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Fixed for you :)
 
hands up from the guys if your gf/ex gf/wife has thrown a tantrum over something utterly ridiculous...
(one time my gf(ex) went in a huff for the entire day because i hadnt made her toast for breakfast - yeah i paid my penance for that sin ohh lord)


/puts hand up

You get this even from the apparently sane women!
 
There was something like this at the pub on friday

Nath n his bird just argueing all night, havin a go all night - She walks out

As soon as shes outside she rings him and says sorry etc

Basically, i witnessed it all and so did everyone in the pub

He left shortly after n he treated her like ****

Why did she go back to him O_O
 
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