Wedding Date Hell

SpeedFreak · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:23

God, i didn't think chosing a date could be so complicated.
Here is the situation:

Must be a Tuesday as most of my other half's family run chinese restaraunts and take aways. Tuesday is their day off.

Must be in a school break as both my Fiance and mum are teachers.

Must be in August at the earliest and no later than the end of October. I need at least 10 months to save the 18k.

Has to be on a Chinese auspicious date of which there are about 8 per month.

After all these criteria have been met we are left with 0 days in 2008 to get married :rolleyes:

This is all taking the michael!

Tom0 · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:25

ugh, bad news mate

surely there must be some sort of compramise?

Elephant08 :P · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:27

Got to be a compromise...otherwise it's impossible !

Raymond Lin · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:27

Sure its nice to have all of them there, but won;t your family and friends have to work on a Tuesday too ?

Creature · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:27

Can't the ones who run the restaraunts take a different day of one week? And i'm also pretty sure your finace and mum will be allowed one day off for a wedding.

decmatt · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:28

how much do u want the other halfs family to be there

cheets64 · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:29

They wont close there business for the daughters wedding, what a joke, they could easily close for the weekend, all the Chinese takeaways in my village close on a Tuesday what's all that about?

SpeedFreak · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:40

Tuesdays are just the day the all have, no particular reason other than it's the done thing I guess. My other half's uncle's and aunts have the take aways, her mum is retired.

The only real problem is that it is her mum who will end up disappointed, nobody else. As she is a widow, the traditions mean a lot to her as she feels her husband would have wanted it that way. I think ignoring the traditions that she wants us to adhere to will make her feel a little isolated, which neither of us want, but I'm Irish, so my family would walk over glass for a party, Chinese people are work first, everything else second, family or not.

PardonTheWait · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:41

The pair of you should just **** off and get married up a mountain on your own somewhere - that way everyone, and by that token no one, will be offended. Job jobbed

Greenlizard0 · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:45

Mohinder said:
The pair of you should just **** off and get married up a mountain on your own somewhere - that way everyone, and by that token no one, will be offended. Job jobbed

Awfully warped logic there, but a fairly good point I suppose.

Raymond Lin · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:47

cheets64 said:
They wont close there business for the daughters wedding, what a joke, they could easily close for the weekend, all the Chinese takeaways in my village close on a Tuesday what's all that about?

It is the quietest trading day in the week, everyone needs a day off and it makes no sense to take a day off on Saturday as that day can account a bulk of the week's takings. Tuesday is quiet so they close it and take the day off.

PardonTheWait · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:53

Greenlizard0 said:
Awfully warped logic there, but a fairly good point I suppose.

I don't think it's warped really. If you can't get away without offending some people, offend everyone - then no one has been singled out, or wronged, it's just that you've decided to get married alone. Even if some people are sore about it, everyone's in the same boat, so they can't feel hard done by.

Greenlizard0 · 22 Oct 2007 at 23:55

Mohinder said:
I don't think it's warped really. If you can't get away without offending some people, offend everyone - then no one has been singled out, or wronged, it's just that you've decided to get married alone. Even if some people are sore about it, everyone's in the same boat, so they can't feel hard done by.

I guess it's a call as to how close you are to your family.

Also I wouldn't do that to mine and I'm a bloke, I really can't imagine a girl saying yes to getting married alone particularly as if the old cliche goes she's been thinking about this day ever since she was a kid?

[TW]Fox · 23 Oct 2007 at 00:00

£18k???

PardonTheWait · 23 Oct 2007 at 00:01

I think I'd do it. My family are fairly easy going about that sort of stuff, and especially as one of my sisters is currently being a total, total **** about her wedding I think it'd go down quite well!

I know what you mean though - a lot of families would find the idea of a wedding like that totally unpalatable, and I can see why.

Morba · 23 Oct 2007 at 00:05

[TW]Fox;10332697 said:
£18k???

thats probably under average these days, when you take into account the rather expensive honeymoons that people have.

HangTime · 23 Oct 2007 at 00:17

SpeedFreak said:
Must be in August at the earliest and no later than the end of October. I need at least 10 months to save the 18k.

Any particular reason for this end limit of October? Also any chance of compromising on the cost and thus having enough funds to hold it earlier than August?

[TW]Fox · 23 Oct 2007 at 00:29

Morba said:
thats probably under average these days, when you take into account the rather expensive honeymoons that people have.

I'll add that to the 'List of reasons why I'm buying an M5 and not marrying you yet' list for next time she brings up that subject

SB118 · 23 Oct 2007 at 01:26

18k is nuts. It cost us under £300. From the last wedding costs thread i think it was dmpoole who managed it on a budget to the cost of a couple of packets of fags, and even that he borrowed!

James07 · 23 Oct 2007 at 01:46

Yup, sure has to be a comprimise... your going to have to lighten up if its going to happen dude.