Friend - GF Problem

You might all be getting the wrong impression. It's quite possible she keeps secret emergency bacon in her back pocket - he's trying to steal it.
 
Tom0 said:
Who said people cant solve problems without violence?

Basically, chavs fight these days because of mental attitude, they get drunk off super strength lager lose senses and will fight or as often the case just start attacking any old stranger.

The OPs friend has stepped over the line of trust and the unwritten rules of what you do and dont do with their partner, its a mixture of emotion and anger.

Reasons and lack of reasons are the difference.
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:rolleyes:

Nice pidgeon hole you got there.

KaHn
 
Is he normally like his? people who don't know me think i'm a really bad flirt, but once they get to know me, they realise that's just who i am, and nothing dodgy is intended... if that's him, then just ask him to tone it down a bit.

If not, give him another warning... if he does it again after this, fair game, deck him.
 
Forget trying to not upset him. Tell him straight and if he still doesn;t get the picture do a Del Boy on him and say "let me run this by you to see if you understand" and then hang one on his chin
 
wildman said:
Forget trying to not upset him. Tell him straight and if he still doesn;t get the picture do a Del Boy on him and say "let me run this by you to see if you understand" and then hang one on his chin
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yeah yeah.....

hit him.... smack him..... deck him.....

whatever. its never a solution. just dont see him again if he doesnt get the message.

i just wish we could all stop sounding so American when everyone talks about "respect" and disrepect" all the time. its such a pile of crap.
 
I agree with what some other people have said, if he is a good mate then you should deffo have a chat. Try to help him understand why he is unhappy and maybe he'll realise he is in the wrong and that he is never gonna get a bird that way. It may just be that he is so down ... that he just gets so desperate around girls and just wants a responce ...

Help a mate out (if you feel he is still worth it) .. get back on track. Going to the gym like people say might help. It would help if he was going out a bit more (clubs / bars etc) as that should help building his confidence talking to girls. He isn't going to going to meet a nice girl doing (he might meet someone tho .ha)

Its down to confidence (he probably feels more comfortable doing things around your girl as he knows her ...)

Andy
 
Erm, I would tell him he is out of order and would not let him round my gf if it made her uncomfortable. To be honest if he touched her arse I would have gone pretty mad
 
You've already had a word with him, and it hasn't stopped. So perhaps something a little harsher...more shock-worthy is necessary. Next time, if it happens again, take him aside, but push him against the wall and be VERY clear about what's wrong.

If he doesn't get it - stop inviting him around, stop doing things with him, maybe then he'll get the message and give him a kickstart to not doing that? ¬_¬

On a side note: I'd have already made threats on his life by now.
 
It could be just a bit of fun on his part. Like my mates Ben & Dave they randomly slapp the ass of any female that comes into close quarters shouting at the top o there voices yeah tap that ass. All o my mates of the opposite sex have gotten used to this randomly childish behaviour of theirs' but they know when to draw the line. It seems your friend doesn't seem to know this and you should inform him that by doing it he's making himself less & less appealing to the opposite sex tell him to chill and not be so enthusiastic is my advice!
 
Not on really, depending how much of a friend he is go out with a group of friends then when he does something similar again tell him to "please stop groping *gf's name*, it's immature and unacceptable" or words to that effect. Maybe social humiliation will make him see sense.
 
NEVER let another man step on your turf dude!

Even after the first pointer you made, if it was me, he would have had one straight on the end of his nose.

Real mates just dont do that, period!
 
His obesity and depression are seperate issues though they no doubt play some role in his behaviour. The fact is though; his actions are plain wrong and never justified.

To me, it sounds like he has quite an issue on how to interact correctly with other people, especially women.

Your girlfriends the priority obviously, so you really should not worry be too concerned about his feelings as it was his actions that got him into this situation.

I would have stern words with him, dont swear or shout but make it very clear that a) he cant do what he did to your girlfriend, b) he must not for that matter do it to any women and c) he has offended you. Don't take any nonsense. Ask him to go away and say he can get back to you in a few days when he has had a good think and is prepared to apologise. If he doesn't come back, your better off without him. Harsh given his state of life but thats not your fault and your girl friend must come first of course.

Addressing his lifestyle issues may well change his attitude for the better but this is quite seperate and you risk over-stepping the mark by going into this. Having said that, it would probably do him some good and personally I think thats a part of what being friends are for. Looking out for each other. You have to be cruel some times, to be kind.
 
Well with him living in a different town all you have to do is not arrange to do anything that involves the 3 of you. From from you said about his lifestyle, i bet thats the first time in a while he has had any interaction with a female.

If you do all meet up again, has the GF not got a fat mate she could bring along to even the numbers up? (and maybe the car!:D)
 
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