Hats off to you bud, nice to know we're not alone.
Even when I was in the Marines and was'nt with her a lot our relationship was never strained.
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Hats off to you bud, nice to know we're not alone.
Even when I was in the Marines and was'nt with her a lot our relationship was never strained.
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You just have to let them have their way, if you run off or ignore her it becomes worse.
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Try putting yourself in her shoes. Being at home with 2 kids all day like that is the most stressful thing in the world. Trust me I have been through it.
She just needs some support and show her someway that you appreciate the hard job she is doing with the kids.
Sorry to ask this, but when you were away from home for weeks on end, was you never paranoid she would cheat on you? I couldn't join the forces for that reason...Sorry, just a question because I can't see how people can join the forces and leave loved ones behind fearing they could be cheated on...
Sorry if im wrong in thinking this
hang on a moment, you cross because she is moaning at you for doing the bottles wrong, well learn to do them right, your wife had to. Also she is stuck at home with two young children and going by your age i am assuming that she is young too, she could well be depressed maybe post natal dpression but the biggest crime you commited was putting the phone down on her cos she was moaning, I would go absolutley(sp?) mad if my husband had done that to me. Does she get out much or have family who can babysit so you can both go out together and remind yourselves why you fell in love with each other in the 1st place!
Sorry to ask this, but when you were away from home for weeks on end, was you never paranoid she would cheat on you? I couldn't join the forces for that reason...Sorry, just a question because I can't see how people can join the forces and leave loved ones behind fearing they could be cheated on...
Sorry if im wrong in thinking this
Sounds like you shouldn't have got married, either because of your own trust issue in her, or that she would sleep around.
My wife's likes to think she's in control and I realised long ago that there's no such thing as hypocrisy when it comes to women, once you realise this then the path of marriage becomes a lot smoother. There are always sneaky ways to get back them without them realising, how many wives know the true value of your a) Car b) PC equipment or in my case c) hugely expensive new mountain bike? Not many I reckon.
Whenever my wife has to work and it's my day off she simply has to find me something to do before she leaves - even if the apartment is absolutely perfect. It doesn't cause arguments tho - I usually just burst out laughing at the fact she can't help herself......then she laughs at herself. Still does it every time tho 
Sorry to ask this, but when you were away from home for weeks on end, was you never paranoid she would cheat on you? I couldn't join the forces for that reason...Sorry, just a question because I can't see how people can join the forces and leave loved ones behind fearing they could be cheated on...
Sorry if im wrong in thinking this
I wouldn't be happy if my other half went away for work either, but definately not for those reasons. One of my friends is getting married next year to a guy who recently started working in Bahrain, and she misses him so much every time he has to go away, I feel really sorry for her.
I agree with badbob that you seem to have trust issues with your wife, and that's really something that you should discuss. You shouldn't be married to someone who you think would cheat on you, imo.
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Sounds like you have some serious talking to do but face to face not be telephone or test etc. You also have a young baby and that can put serious stress on any relationship and I know this because I have an 8 month year old. We are both very tired and ratty but we make sure we make some "our" time. In this time we talk about anything, including how we feel and what we could do better etc.
You have to remember that just because you are married you are both still individuals with different moods and priorities and your wife's priority is your baby. You have to accept that.
Try avoid speaking to her during the day. I only talk to my wife very briefly (if at all) during the day. I never text. I just ask if everything is ok and speak to you later. It gives you both something to talk about at the end of the day but if either if you have issues, then you must get them out in the open before one of you does something they might regret. Sometimes, these things can just be resolved by a lack of understanding on either side.
Buy her some flowers sometime (not today) and tell her they are for her "just because" and no other reason.
Wise words. Listen and follow this advice.
Sometimes I think my marriage is a little too perfect. Actually it isn't and we have had to do the sit down and talk thing, hell we even needed to go to counseling, but in the end it made us stronger.
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so if someone does something wrong, you shout at them? instead of telling them calmly how to do it right? Im not sure what logic your using to come to that conclusion!
i think he may have been mad that she chose to throw a wobbly at him down the phone, whats the point in doing that? what would she achieve? guys just dont want that kind of hassle im afraid. putting the phone down isnt the right thing to do, but then neither is having a go to begin with...
at the end of the day, self control and responsibility is needed as its not fair to simply vent on the father, husband etc regardless of circumstance.
although i do agree with your last line!
Thanks all...I'll take all the advice into hand and give it a try...I DO trust her, but all my past relationships have ended up with me being cheated on, and i know my wife would NEVER cheat on me, it's just that with EVERY relationship uv been cheated on, it kinda plays on ** mind...I do trust her and i hope she trusts me too cuz i *** never hurt her...
thanks all
thanks all
People who are constantly on the defensive and will not admit defeat or being in the wrong are often quite insecure. Everything is turned into a hurtful personal attack, and they feel they must fight back to stop the other person getting the better of them. In the same way they will then try and point score against you at a later date picking fault to try and make themselfs feel better.
A relationship is about teamwork and a both heading in the same direction, it should never be a competition or point scoring exercise at ANY level.
A relationship is about teamwork and a both heading in the same direction, it should never be a competition or point scoring exercise at ANY level.