How long can someone live with parents till they charge u for rent

I've never paid my parents rent or contributed towards household bills, nor would they let me.

I moved out when I was 21 (to go to Uni) but it's been made clear my room is always mine if I need it and I'll never have to pay to use it.

I'd like to thnk it's a case of swings and roundabouts. My parents take care of my grandparents (one of them lives with us) and if my parents ever needed it and I was in a position to offer, I'd do the same for them.

You help your family out and support them, you shouldn't be in the business of charging them for your support.
 
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Shoseki said:
When you live on your own, your friends are real friends, they are there for you, and you are there for them. If you got your parents still holding you up, you aren't really afloat, therefore you don't really *need* anyone.

For want of a better (less geeky) example, in WoW, there are two types of servers, PVE (player versus environment) and PVP (Player versus Player). If you are on the PVE server, you never have to compete against other people, therefore you never really *need* other people because you are always in a safe environment. On the other hand, in PVP environment you could be killed by some other random player at any time, so being able to call out to your community for help is important, and vice versa, it builds community. By living at home, if you don't get along with your friends or have no friends, you always have your parents to be "buddies" with - but if you live alone, you are alone, so you actually make an effort to go out and meet people (supposedly, though I manage to be a geek and still live alone).

Its a step into a much, much bigger world. If you want to go all the way, go to a foreign country on your own and survive, believe me, nothing will toughen you up more than that. Even the armed forces always has a "brotherly" component... in the big wide world, you are on your own, so you might as well get used to it.
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what you're saying about needing people etc, is true, but surely it's a better bet to count on family than on friends? My dad keeps telling me, as you've said as well, that at the end of the day, you are alone in the world, and you need to be not dependent on anyone. But if you do have to be, i'd much rather choose my family. Yes your friends are there for you, and vice versa, and tis great, but at the end of the day, I know my family would do a lot more for me, if I needed it, than my friends would.

Then again, I move around a fair bit, so am forced to make new friends every few years, since family is constant, naturally I depend more on them.

And you're right about getting toughened up by moving to a new country etc., but my point initially (at least I think so, I may have lost track :p) was that why do it, unless you have to? If you can be in a safe environment, surely theres no reason to go and be not in one just for the sake of it?

PeterNem said:
I've never paid my parents rent or contributed towards household bills, nor would they let me.

I moved out when I was 21 (to go to Uni) but it's been made clear my room is always mine if I need it and I'll never have to pay to use it.

I'd like to thnk it's a case of swings and roundabouts. My parents take care of my grandparents (one of them lives with us) and if my parents ever needed it and I was in a position to offer, I'd do the same for them.

You help your family out and support them, you shouldn't be in the business of charging them for your support.
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hear hear
 
I gave my mum £20 a week to start when I got my first job at 16. When I finally got myself a decent job I gave her £100 a month and paid the phonebill and broadband. I helped out around the house and did my own washing.

I think its fair, you have to pay your way. Once your earning and paying you get a lot of respect from your parents it helps you become an adult imo.

With my kids I'm going to charge them but I'm going to save half of it and give it them back when they get married or buy a house etc.
 
I think my parents will expect some rent when I'm working full time. So that'll be when I'm 22 hopefully. I think my brother pays some rent, but it's only a token amount really, and I think my parents put away half of that in a savings account for him.
 
My mum would never ask for rent but since moving back I give her £50 a week, I like to pay my way and would feel guilty otherwise.
 
Blackstar said:
Depends how long your parents are willing to keep you. My parents are allowing me to live with them rent free while i'm in full time education, when i leave uni i have to start paying them rent or move out. I think that is very gracious of them and i appreciate it.
However if you are just using it as a place to live and have a job you should be paying them rent.
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:) Same here and agreed!
 
I have never paid rent, parents dont mind, I wnat to move out in the next few years but renting or buying on your own is bloody hard and almost impossible on 1 wage.

I buy most of my own food and I pay for SKY and Virgin Cable which my parents watch and surf the internet on there own tv and pc.
 
I started paying at 17, i was doing an apprenticeship YTS earning £29.50 a week, giving my parents £10 from that. :eek:
 
I agreed with my parents that whatever income I had at 18, 10% would be handed over as board/rent. This worked out at an always fair amount.

Clearly however my parents like me as my devious mother had actually been sticking that money in a savings account for me as a gift when I left home eventually. Bless. :)
 
My mum and dad don't ask for anything,they joke to my grandparents that i don't pay anything but they dont bother. I am in full time education,working part time and trying to get driving.

I do, however,give my mum money when she gets a bit skint for whatever reason. Dad says i can stay here aslong as needs be(he understands how hard it is to get a house and from my brothers experience of sharing a flat doesnt like that idea).
 
My parents would never ask me to pay rent, but I think it's reasonable for me to start paying after I leave Uni and find a job. For me it'd be less about the money and more about showing in some concrete way that I appreciate the support my parents have given me.
 
Some of you are very lucky. I worked out my weekly bills come to £117 a week. Thats on a fairly low council band and not including food. So if you were paying bills properly then you would really be paying £600 a month. (£150 a week)

Moving out shows you the way of the real world, im not saying ive had it tough because i havent (at all) my mum and dad payed my accomodation fees whilst at uni and not working. Now after tax & ni i take about £240 a week. Pay bills and go out at the weekend and your soon down to £0 after working 9 hours a day, 5 a week
 
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Freefaller said:
What's it got to do with being tight? It's just respectful and decent to pay them something - afterall they've put you through eductation, looked after you for at least 16 or so years, where's the harm in showing some commitment and adulthood? It's the more of the symbol/act of doing it that counts rather than being a scrubber living off you parents. If you pay for your own food, do your own washing, pay your share of the bills then that's fine - at least it's something. If you don't then frankly you're a spoilt brat. Some people really need to live in the real world and grow up.
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I have to agree. I had too much respect for my parents to expect them to continue supporting me when I was earning a man's wage. When I left school, I was earning nearly as much as my Dad, there's no way I would expect him to pay for my food and electricity.

For those of you who are shocked that people would pay their parents money towards their upkeep when they're earning a full wage, I'm disgusted that you have so little respect for your parents that you would hoard your money or **** it away whilst sponging off your parents after they've fed and clothed and nurtured you for the past 16 or more years.
 
I don't intend to ever charge my kids rent. Some say that it is a way of teaching their kids the value of money, I say that you have had 16 to 18 years to teach them that, why would you leave it so late?

Yes the world can be harsh and cruel but that is exactly why they must know that their home is always going to be there for them and will NEVER cost them a penny.
 
gurdas said:
My family aren't tight so they don't ask for rent
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Well said, this applies to me as well. I think it is so tight of parents to demand cash from a 16 year old kid who is earning peanuts. My parents earn a lot and whatever money I could afford to give them whilst I am at uni would be nothing compared to what they earn. They don't need to rob me of the money I am saving up to buy a house once I graduate.
 
Bigstan said:
I have to agree. I had too much respect for my parents to expect them to continue supporting me when I was earning a man's wage. When I left school, I was earning nearly as much as my Dad, there's no way I would expect him to pay for my food and electricity.

For those of you who are shocked that people would pay their parents money towards their upkeep when they're earning a full wage, I'm disgusted that you have so little respect for your parents that you would hoard your money or **** it away whilst sponging off your parents after they've fed and clothed and nurtured you for the past 16 or more years.
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Agreed. There are quite a lot of kids here and a lot of spoilt brats so some of the replies are to be expected. But hey the world needs scrubbers to make the saints look saintly ;)
 
Bigstan said:
For those of you who are shocked that people would pay their parents money towards their upkeep when they're earning a full wage, I'm disgusted that you have so little respect for your parents that you would hoard your money or **** it away whilst sponging off your parents after they've fed and clothed and nurtured you for the past 16 or more years.
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Exactly. Some kids in this thread come across as spoilt brats. You're going to get one hell of a shock when you discover the real world.

/edit - lollage at Freefaller and I saying the same thing - I'd not read his post, just got as far as Stans and had to reply!
 
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