getting engaged... where to buy the ring

Sic · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:12

you'd better hope she doesn't read the forums - I can't spec a gift for the life of me anymore :/

MikeHunt79 · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:15

Actually Argos isn't such a bad suggestion after all... That way, if she says "no", you can always take it back within 14 days.

Works with wedding rings also...

Yeggstry · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:15

jimblowscash said:
trust me i have had my spies working overtime, the colour and clatiry are my own spec but the cut and design are her preferance... she has no idea that i am going to pop the question

Fair enough

Trying to be subtle about this sort of thing isn't easy, luckily some of her friends have given me some clues

Now, the only problem I have is getting her ring size..... she doesn't wear rings at all

jimblowscash · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:23

Yeggstry said:
Fair enough Trying to be subtle about this sort of thing isn't easy, luckily some of her friends have given me some clues

Now, the only problem I have is getting her ring size..... she doesn't wear rings at all

ha i kinda cheeted, i got some electrical tape out the other week and mesaured her finger whilst she was asleep, i had to play dumb when she asked me why she had perminent marker on ther hand the next morning....

she is a k btw

Sic · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:24

Yeggstry said:
Now, the only problem I have is getting her ring size..... she doesn't wear rings at all

oh come on!! that's easy - get her girly mates to take her shopping:

mate: you've been with wotsisname for a million years now - have you thought about a ring?!
her: well yeah
mate: let's go try on rings
her: but I don't know what size I am
mate: they'll do that for you
her: oh, alright then
mate: yoink!
her: did you just say "yoink"?
mate: crap

jimblowscash · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:29

MikeHunt79 said:
Lizzie Duke for the win!

your sooo single...

[DOD]Asprilla · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:29

Take a saturday mornign and go into every other jeweller on Hatton Garden adn the streets that run off it.

Just spend some time sitting with people and they will tell you all you need to know about buying a diamond and show you all of the different cuts available. Don't let anyone pressure you with a 'special offer' since it wil be available next time you go in as well.

I got my wife's from a place called Ace of Diamonds just of Hatton Garden (crap name, excellent service) who gave us exactly what we were looking for and I've been back to make several other purchases since (diamond earrings for the wedding earned serious brownie points). The ring was made specifically for my wife and we got an Ascher cut that most of the other jewellers didn't stock. They also offer lifetime maintenance for free, so I get them to polish my wife's ring on a regular basis

I can't stress enough though that you should take your time and go to as many places as possible.

jimblowscash · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:32

[DOD]Asprilla;10620488 said:
Take a saturday mornign and go into every other jeweller on Hatton Garden adn the streets that run off it.

Just spend some time sitting with people and they will tell you all you need to know about buying a diamond and show you all of the different cuts available. Don't let anyone pressure you with a 'special offer' since it wil be available next time you go in as well.

I got my wife's from a place called Ace of Diamonds just of Hatton Garden (crap name, excellent service) who gave us exactly what we were looking for and I've been back to make several other purchases since (diamond earrings for the wedding earned serious brownie points). The ring was made specifically for my wife and we got an Ascher cut that most of the other jewellers didn't stock. They also offer lifetime maintenance for free, so I get them to polish my wife's ring on a regular basis

I can't stress enough though that you should take your time and go to as many places as possible.

sorry ive just spit coffie all over my laptop in the middle of the office

"so I get them to polish my wife's ring on a regular basis "

oh dear im going to hell....

but thanks, im going to go to hatton garden tomorrow for a few hours whilst " visiting clients "

JodieO · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:36

Sic said:
that's because I've not been posting as he's been saying everything I'd have said. I hate the idea that there's a direct correlation between the amount of money one spends on another and the amount that they love them. or how romantic they are.

someone (think it was jamief) mentioned that platypus' idea of romance was a bunch of esso flowers and a bottle of blue nun - I'm not sure if he's meaning that the abstract concepts of wine and flowers are a great romantic gesture, but I think that's a pretty common misconception. I HATE when people buy flowers for this reason. Cut flowers are a horrible metaphor for love -

"Here, darling - this thing that will be dead in 3 days, 5 days tops and has a 4 day guarantee is for you, to show you how much I love you... and that's not all - I spent LOADS of money on a bottle of wine, because wine is something that can cost a lot of money, but is less effort than actually buying you a gift that you might appreciate. the above means I love you"

I agree with that, I never said anything about money=love. As far as I'm concerned I could have nothing and a piece of string round my finger and still be happy because I choose to be with my husband out of love; money doesn't come into it. Personally I like flowers but I don't get them very often and it doesn't bother me at all as it's nothing to do with how much my husband loves me. Do people actually do and think what you said?

JodieO · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:37

platypus said:
Pretty much what I failed to iterate.

no one said that though. Or did you assume?

JodieO · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:38

platypus said:
No, I'm not talking about the type of house. I'm talking about the age old idea of leaving school, going to university, getting a job and getting a mortgage. It may be an ideal from 20+ years ago but it's still there!

I've never really thought that way at all.

MikeHunt79 · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:41

jimblowscash said:
your sooo single...

You're soooo right.... :/

When I was younger I bought a Lizzy Duke ring that cost me £20. Everytime I went out with a girl I gave her the ring as a token of my 'love'. When I split up with them I would demand the ring back. The ring would then be ceremoniously awarded to the next girfriend. This continued for some time until the cycle was broken by a mate spilling the beans about the magic ring to my then current girlfriend. I was dumped and the ring was hurled onto Bristol ice rink never to be seen again.

jimblowscash · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:43

MikeHunt79 said:
You're soooo right.... :/

When I was younger I bought a Lizzy Duke ring that cost me £20. Everytime I went out with a girl I gave her the ring as a token of my 'love'. When I split up with them I would demand the ring back. The ring would then be ceremoniously awarded to the next girfriend. This continued for some time until the cycle was broken by a mate spilling the beans about the magic ring to my then current girlfriend. I was dumped and the ring was hurled onto Bristol ice rink never to be seen again.

........ hmmmmm bristol girls are easy

Yeggstry · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:43

Sic said:
oh come on!! that's easy - get her girly mates to take her shopping:

mate: you've been with wotsisname for a million years now - have you thought about a ring?!
her: well yeah
mate: let's go try on rings
her: but I don't know what size I am
mate: they'll do that for you
her: oh, alright then
mate: yoink!
her: did you just say "yoink"?
mate: crap

Thanks for the suggestion. I wanted to avoid letting too many people know for fear of it someone letting slip, but I know one of her friends that is trustworthy for this task

JodieO · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:44

MikeHunt79 said:
You're soooo right.... :/

When I was younger I bought a Lizzy Duke ring that cost me £20. Everytime I went out with a girl I gave her the ring as a token of my 'love'. When I split up with them I would demand the ring back. The ring would then be ceremoniously awarded to the next girfriend. This continued for some time until the cycle was broken by a mate spilling the beans about the magic ring to my then current girlfriend. I was dumped and the ring was hurled onto Bristol ice rink never to be seen again.

Lucky they all had the same size finger or did you get it adjusted

jimblowscash · 4 Dec 2007 at 17:46

JodieG said:
Lucky they all had the same size finger or did you get it adjusted

yeh what she said... in some circles its regarded as bad manners to force the ring

ohhh thats it one way ticket to hell

MikeHunt79 · 4 Dec 2007 at 19:53

^ LOL

JodieG said:
Lucky they all had the same size finger or did you get it adjusted

It was quite a loose fitting one, so it seemed to fit most of the time, even tho it was'nt always that tight...

<- That's sig material right there! :eek:

jimblowscash · 4 Dec 2007 at 21:15

MikeHunt79 said:
^ LOL

It was quite a loose fitting one, so it seemed to fit most of the time, even tho it was'nt always that tight... <- That's sig material right there!

your going to hell with me!

m4cc45 · 4 Dec 2007 at 21:20

I used a company called Wellfields in Wellfield Road, Cardiff. They handmake all there jewellery and have my now wife loves the ring. Cost a little more than what you have set aside but was well worth it. Unfortunately they don't have a website though.

M.

Chimerical · 4 Dec 2007 at 21:43

I hate marriage. Teachers at school and stupid adverts on the television tell you life is about more than money yet they all try to tell you that spending 20K on a wedding or 4K on a ring is acceptable. If love isn't supposed to have a value, then it should be free, if its free, society shouldn't pressurise couples into spending thousands and breaking their backs to fund their marriage. They're gonna need that money for their future children.