Where did you meet your girlfriend/boyfriend?

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Family reunion... :eek:

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Really though. Single at the moment, but I "met" my last girlfriend about 8 years ago. She added me on MSN because she thought I was another Chris ******* who was in her year at school (I was two year up). We were close friends for 6 years or so before getting together. We'd always admitted to having strong feelings for eachother, but she was in a relationship that she couldn't feel she could get out of. I was always there for her though, she was for me too.

She ended it in the end to be with me and it went from there really.
 
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Mail order bride.

JodieG said:
Being more confident is not the same as trying to drink less or eat more, totally different things which work in different ways. The reason why acting confidently starts to make you feel confident is because of the way out bodies work.
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But how do you act confident? It's all well and good saying, you just need to act confident but unconfident people usually have no idea how to do that or they find it incredibly difficult.

At least it's better advice than "be yourself". "Being yourself" clearly isn't going to work for some people. I can't imagine it working for a 40 year old man who collects Pokemon cards and has an unhealthy obsession with scat porn. Sometimes being yourself is the last thing you want to do.
 

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Complicated.

I became mates with a guy on another forum I used to use.
He, through facebook, met up with a girl he used to go to primary school with.
He and I were at a friend's houseparty, when he invited her to come as well.
We all met up and became friends.
Over the months that followed, my gf at the time and I weren't working out.
I broke up with her, then soon realised that my mate's friend was the one for me, and we have been madly in love ever since (4 months now, woohoo!)
 

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Blind date - I sort of knew her sister and was chatting to her on msn one day then she said her big sister came into the room, I asked how old she was and said give her my number then signed off. She did apparently and 3 years ago we started texting then went on a blind date. Seems to have worked.
 

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Mail order bride.


But how do you act confident? It's all well and good saying, you just need to act confident but unconfident people usually have no idea how to do that or they find it incredibly difficult.
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Just try what I did, i'm the shyest person in the world however last weds i decided to try this be confident thing. I was out in stoke stood at the bar of a local club and saw a girl i liked who was dancing with her mate, i asked the barman for an ice cube and threw it at her, she turned around and i beconed her to come over and i quote 'i think your really hot fancy a drink' and within half an hour i was walking out the door with her and well you can guess the rest. Theres no way to explain how to be confident you just have to do it.

EDIT: i would just like to point out that i was not being my normal self in the slightest.
 

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Psyk said:
But how do you act confident? It's all well and good saying, you just need to act confident but unconfident people usually have no idea how to do that or they find it incredibly difficult.
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This very easy and anyone can do this. Infact there are business training courses for this too, here is a short summary:

1. Posture - a confident person has a relaxed posture caused by being physically relaxed. One key not being relaxed sign is that people's shoulders hunch up as if they where shrugging. Force yourself to relax those shoulders. Hell even get a neck/shoulder massage before an important meeting and it will help..
Confident people don't stand bolt upright or rigid so relax those muscles.

2. Movement - a relaxed confident person with authority actually moves slower, says less and is not afraid to maintain eye contact. Just try slowing down all your movements - walking, even moving your arms and writing!

3. Voice - a confident relaxed person has a lower pitched voice (note not dull monotonic!) with a slower rate of wording. They are not afraid to take time to think (although the slower rate actually helps thinking whilst talking). The relaxed posture helps aid this a lot.
It's also possible to vocal techniques to actually add an air of authority too - speaking by breathing from the diaphragm.

4. Style of communication - a confident person takes their time to say what they want to say. They think about it and often it's at a high abstract level on purpose as this allows the subordinates to fill in the gaps as a return of communication. As a superior you're there to guide with an overall objective/direction and then help coordinate in the return communication.
You're not there to macro manage by default.

5. Don't panic -it's not rocket science and it's not as if you've not been in this situation before .. even if you haven't this may not be the only time you'll be in it so relax and have some fun because that's what 99% of people want from a relationship.. including you.


Anyway; I digress..

I met my last gf online. I have a lady friend that I've also met online and we keep intouch by video skype most nights (and we're both aware that the relationship is more than friends).. I'm rather hoping she'll become the new gf :D I have a thing for italian women..
 
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