Well I'm not throwing very much cash1/3 of £888 is £296.. Then she can also pay 2/3 of getting the car up to scratch by fitting decent tyres etc etc.
What will you drive?
Do you have a toy anymore?
Thanks a lot GF new car needed.....
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What will you drive?
Do you have a toy anymore?
I have the MX5 and the new Xantia coming. Me and the GF share the two cars between us with her usually taking the MX5 to work (she has not crashed that yet to be fair). The MX5 will eventually be retired from commuting duty and she will have something else for work. No time soon however after this episode. Plan to get the Xantia up to scratch asap. It's being collected by a friend today and then I will perhaps do some work on it over the weekend at his house. If for whatever reason the Xantia takes some time to get right then I will make her buy me something old and insane to potter around in...
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You should get her some Advanced awarness couse lessons aswell.
I was forced to do them and i though they were goood and i learnt some new things about road rules and signs. I did already know a lot from my hoon driving down back dirt roads anyway but you learn a hell of a lot and it makes you pay a bit more attension to things even if you are cautious.
Or get her a motor bike
I was forced to do them and i though they were goood and i learnt some new things about road rules and signs. I did already know a lot from my hoon driving down back dirt roads anyway but you learn a hell of a lot and it makes you pay a bit more attension to things even if you are cautious.
Or get her a motor bike
Hi again, Yes it drives. The damage is a dented wheel arch and scratch on rear door. Looks like the wheel kicked up a nasty piece of metal or something that chewed up the arch a bit. As regards awareness course yes perhaps but I'm certainly not paying for it. Tbh it's just the usual women thing I reckon. IE paying lots of attention to anything but what you are actually doing at the time.
I shall of course be posting many pics of the vehicle once I've got it safely back home. Today however, I have to take delivery of the knackered Accord which is being recovered.
I shall of course be posting many pics of the vehicle once I've got it safely back home. Today however, I have to take delivery of the knackered Accord which is being recovered.
[TW]Fox;11287674 said:
Just as you aren't her master, do you see where give and take comes in?
Taking their feelings into consideration isn't about submission, they are part of the decision making process, not the whole thing.
If taking your partner's feelings into account is your definition of submitting, that's rather worrying...
I can't face it. I've just scrapped the previous aerodeck I had for spares(that still had on it all the parts i would have needed to fix this one up). In addition to wing and door one of the alloys is damaged and the wheel is sitting at a dodgy angle. So i'm going to try and sell it as it is for someone else to buy and repair. Plus this give me the opportunity to move to a more frugal car. In the real world xantia hdi's will generally do 45mpg, my honda did 25mpg. Ok derv is more expensive but I should still make a good fuel saving.
Didn't you know, young people with no life experience or time spent standing on their own two feet provide the most useful and relevant advice...
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Sigh, typical Dolph debate mechanism...
'Taking someones feelings into account' is not the same as 'Submitting to their every wish'.
Nobody criticises 'Well, my girlfriend isnt keen on Car X, so its at the bottom of the list'.
It's more 'I really, really want Car Y but she doesnt like them so I absolutely cannot have anything she doesn't utterly adore', which we see on this forum ALL the time.
'Taking someones feelings into account' is not the same as 'Submitting to their every wish'.
Nobody criticises 'Well, my girlfriend isnt keen on Car X, so its at the bottom of the list'.
It's more 'I really, really want Car Y but she doesnt like them so I absolutely cannot have anything she doesn't utterly adore', which we see on this forum ALL the time.
... and an inheritance and a couple of years in a house makes you the fountain of all knowledge
It cost me $180 AUD to do it.
Not too much unless your broke like me
If you find out a place that do it you might find out the price for the UK.
Its not Skid pan course or driver training(You do get to drive a car though) so it doesnt cost anywhere near as much.
Probably cheaper then buying another car again
The way I see it is that if having a Volvo was the best possible option and ticked every box then I would state my case and demand it because it was the best option. However, she liked the other options on the MY shortlist. Therefore I was happy to buy a Xantia. I don't let the GF choose my cars but I am happy to consider what she would like to be driving as well. Apart from it being half her car, taking in to consideration her feelings and being a nice bloke it's not worth the constant sniping about "that ******* volvo" etc etc
For the record she was not happy about it being another estate "and would feel much better driving a Xantia hatch". I didn't allow this and told her she was being irrational. She can actually park my estates etc safely in supermarket car parks and multi stories so the problem is not the car she is driving at all...
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[TW]Fox;11287842 said:
You were the one who brought up the idea of submission..
Which hasn't been mentioned in this thread, the only comment was "she doesn't like volvos", hence the association between what was posted by the OP and your subsequent posts.
[TW]Fox;11287846 said:... and an inheritance and a couple of years in a house makes you the fountain of all knowledge
Well, except that I've lived on my own two feet for over ten years, bought the house long before any money came my way through the family and so on...
But never let the reality get in the way of having a cheap pop
[TW]Fox;11287842 said:
yeah that does happen a lot. I can assure you I'm not in that situation. I certainly do not submit to the GF's every wish at all but I quickly bought a new car because I need a big car for work and hiring an estate for weeks while I searched for the "Perfect" replacement seemed daft even tho she would have paid for it. Anyway I doubt your posts are anything to do with my situation now as I suspect this is a more general GF argument.
That is true, i certainly used to provide a wealth of helpful guidance, which people really should have taken.
But never let the reality get in the way of having a cheap pop
I've been learning from the master, I thought making assumptions on what you think somebodies circumstances are without really knowing is acceptable when debating
I just caught on from Wild58's posts - my opinion is based on the scenario I described, which you must admit, happens lots.
But what would I know, my relationship doesnt count because I'm Fox
[TW]Fox;11288076 said:
It certainly does, and isn't really acceptable. But that scenario is a different one from the one outlined in this thread.
The point is though, that outlooks and priorities change. It's easy to say "I'd never make sacrifice X for Y" when you're not in that position. Some people do undoutably get forced into it, and some get forced into it unnecessarily (as the two issues are slightly seperate), but there are also people who make that decision or compromise because their priorities have changed. They may make it grudgingly, but sometimes the alternatives available are even less palatable.
But what would I know, my relationship doesnt count because I'm Fox
Never said or implied that, and now you've clarified your stance, it's easier to see where you are coming from. Unfortunately, the position you took doesn't actually seem to relate to what was said in the thread by the OP, hence the confusion in stances, as it seem you were implying the OP taking his partner's feelings into account was submitting. (Your comment of 'why should she have a say' earlier didn't help the perception either.)
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