Why does it hurt when girl-friends sleep with boys?

laissez-faire

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Why as a male is it built into our brains to get upset when a girl who we are close to as a friend, but not in any kind of relationship goes out and hooks up with some boy in a night club and sleeps with him?

I've asked several guys and they all feel the same but no-one can think of a good reason why. Is it because boys secretly, even if they aren't aware of it, tend to have feelings for their close female friends?

It confuses me and it really irritates the girls when I tell them I'm upset about what they have just done yet when my guy friends do it I congratulate them. Am I just incredibly sexist? I don't feel that way....

Who has similar experience/advice?
 
Becuase its near impossible to just be friends with a girl, even though you think you are you still want to nail them yourself and feel bad when others do it.
 
yes it hurts. Normally its because I have an extremely protective side towards all of my friends. Plus either way it seems nasty when you witness it. I look down on promiscuity but then again I have wierd and wonderful views on said topic.

Just don't tell the girls that you're upset with them. Just make sure that everything is ok with them as when mine do it its because they're not feeling themselves shall we say.
 
I see myself as a protector, and if I can't help my friends then I have failed them completely and miserably and that hurts beyond belief: failure to protect those you care for and the feeling of you failing yourself for not being there to help.
 
I totally get you OP. Only bothered about my closest females friends tho. I don't get angry, just it's like I have to share them. Share my friends, sounds silly.
 
Been there, done that.... (and still do that!)

Like everyone has said, you have feelings for her, and so beat yourself up about why she is sleeping with some random guy who knows nothing about her, when it should be you, who would treat her right.

Thinking about it, I think I only have one close female friend who I just see as a really great friend and have no interest in her sexually.
 
I have lots of "girl-friends" and who they sleep with is there business and I never think about it. If you do its because you have feelings for them. End of..
 
SiHH said:
I have lots of "girl-friends" and who they sleep with is there business and I never think about it. If you do its because you have feelings for them. End of..
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Not necessarily. Perhaps if they're good friends you just don't want to see them get hurt? Or is that love too?
 
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