Why does it hurt when girl-friends sleep with boys?

You must like her more than you think.

I have plenty of close female friends and I'm not arsed if any of them get ****** silly by another lad. If it's a girl whose pants I want to get into then it's a completely different story.
 
rookie said:
Theres two possible answers to your question -

1. You do actually have feelings for this one

2. Pack mentallity.

Some guy you dont know and is completely random to you gets with a girl in your pack (friend circle). He has in effect infiltrated and stolen from your pack. This, to you, lowers your self esteem and makes you feel hurt because you, as a male of the pack, feel the need to protect the females.

Let me guess, in your head this guy is a cocky jerk who wont treat her right and probably sleeps with lots of girls and to him your friend is just a number?

If you were to get to know him, become friend with him and in effect allow him into your pack you would have no qualms with him sleeping with others in your group.

The reason you dont mind your males friends gettin some outside the pack is because they are showing their alphaness in inflitrating another group.

And so the circle goes on.
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Interesting!
 
personally i think its because we as men know what utter scum other men can be. we see this in the men in pubs, we can (most of the time) tell the real bad ones who will be horrible to said girl friends, and inevitably it is said scummer who they end up leaving the club with :p
 
Munky1080 said:
Guys don't have friends that are girls....we have girls that we've not banged yet.
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:D

I do get it occasionally. I think it's jealousy that we disguise as something else out of denial.

Maybe I do want to get one in but I soon realise that I'd rather do without the stuff afterwards.

Friends stay friends IME.
 
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I don't get it in the same way as the OP does. The only issues I have are when female friends go out with jealous guys why try to hide them away from their male friends. That really narks me off.
 
Doesn't really bother me.
Most of my female friends are in reasonbly long-term relationship anyway (i.e. they are sleeping with men) and as long as they are happy, that's what matters.

In the past I've even offered to tip-off a bloke in a club that a girl mate had taken a shine to (tip-off as in make an introduction, not tip him off a cliff...)
 
Virtually every female friend I had when younger I have wanted to bang, it is a fact of life for the vast majority of men and when I was younger it was pretty much the end game. The only time I have felt the same way as the OP is when I have not managed to bang them yet and it was nothing more than being annoyed I had not got there yet or first! We are what we are and unless you are a gayer (each to their own) it will always be the same for most men, no matter how distasteful that may seem. Its not a lack of respect for women, far from it, its simply sexual urge to ride the nice ones and your definition of nice WILL change as you get older I promise you.

Sorry for being base but in 40 years of big words and different spins the above sums it up best.
 
How would you try and stop having feelings for the person then?

I would probably say just block out the feelings and dont tell them.
 
Do the manly and honourable thing: don't let your inward gushings of egocentric sentimentality spoil your friendship.

Or ask her out on a date and attempt boarding procedures.
 
I get this a little bit as well. Only with certain friends. But that's just because I want to have sex with every attractive girl that I see. I hate being male sometimes. :o :(
 
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