He is.Sounds despicable to me. Unless he's a chav or something.
Remember Rich, if needs be, we can always put you up for as long as you need.
Moving Out At 18?
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Remember Rich, if needs be, we can always put you up for as long as you need.
Thanks Naffa, much appreciated, but need something closer to town.
Ok, I am a bit of a chav in the sense that I listen to the music but I've grown out of my 'bling' and I don't dress like a dick.
What I don't get is why they're forcing me out at 18 when my oldest sister wasn't asked to leave until she was 24, and my other sister decided to go Uni at 19. I just feel a complete outcast of the family.
Never the less, thanks for all your advice.
Edit: Forgot to mention that I had a little talk with Zefan and it seems as if the Army might be a good idea. Sell up and move out.
Ok, I am a bit of a chav in the sense that I listen to the music but I've grown out of my 'bling' and I don't dress like a dick.
What I don't get is why they're forcing me out at 18 when my oldest sister wasn't asked to leave until she was 24, and my other sister decided to go Uni at 19. I just feel a complete outcast of the family.
Never the less, thanks for all your advice.
Edit: Forgot to mention that I had a little talk with Zefan and it seems as if the Army might be a good idea. Sell up and move out.
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hahaha! he tried to get me last week ^^, think he must be paid by them to do it, the sodding recruiters are off the streets and on my internets!
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I know you said you don't want advice about speaking to your parents, but I really think you should.
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I'm also curious as to why your parents insist on dumping you out on the street ? I can't my head around it to be honest - and I can't see why any normal parents would do it without a valid reason.
Did they actually ask you to contribute to the house (both financially and chores)
If you are only working part time, have you been getting in the way and not doing much recently (ie, do you work one evening and Saturday & spend the rest of the week getting up at 1pm and expecting mum and dad to still feed, clothe and make you tea etc)
If not, ask them what the problem is, and what they need you to help with. My parents hated to see me leave - although I was 25 before I left. I paid into the house and helped with everything from Ironing, Cooking, gardening etc - but it's a two way thing once you get over a certain age. If you want to be treated like an adult, you have to act like one.
Did they actually ask you to contribute to the house (both financially and chores)
If you are only working part time, have you been getting in the way and not doing much recently (ie, do you work one evening and Saturday & spend the rest of the week getting up at 1pm and expecting mum and dad to still feed, clothe and make you tea etc)
If not, ask them what the problem is, and what they need you to help with. My parents hated to see me leave - although I was 25 before I left. I paid into the house and helped with everything from Ironing, Cooking, gardening etc - but it's a two way thing once you get over a certain age. If you want to be treated like an adult, you have to act like one.
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I agree, my parents would never ever kick me out.
Anyone find this a bit shocking on the OP's side?
If my parentstold me to move out i would tell them where to go. Especially with the rising costs of living how do they expect you to afford this?
I would speak to them and say your not going anywhere. I dont see what the problem would be if you paid them a little rent and help with the housework?
I am 22, pay £60 a month and get my washing and cooking done for me... (lol)
If my parentstold me to move out i would tell them where to go. Especially with the rising costs of living how do they expect you to afford this?
I would speak to them and say your not going anywhere. I dont see what the problem would be if you paid them a little rent and help with the housework?
I am 22, pay £60 a month and get my washing and cooking done for me... (lol)
I did it, not entirely sure why tbh but it seemed right at the time, I moved into a student house with some mates and personally I think it was a good move. I'm 31 on Wednesday and it progressed my life and career along much quicker than a lot of my mates.
I'm now a homeowner, have been for 10 years and whilst I'm hardly mortgage free I am a LOT further up the ladder than my mates and I think it helps mature you. I see a lot of people at work who are mid-late 20s, still at home etc and they really do have an awful lot of growing up to do.
Its a liberating feeling knowing that you can look after yourself early on.
I did move back for a few months after about 2 years which I'm guessing thr OP doesn't have the option to by the look of it (shocking parenting, I'd never say that to my kids unless they deserved it for being nightmares) it is good to know you have a plan B if it all goes **** up.
I'm now a homeowner, have been for 10 years and whilst I'm hardly mortgage free I am a LOT further up the ladder than my mates and I think it helps mature you. I see a lot of people at work who are mid-late 20s, still at home etc and they really do have an awful lot of growing up to do.
Its a liberating feeling knowing that you can look after yourself early on.
I did move back for a few months after about 2 years which I'm guessing thr OP doesn't have the option to by the look of it (shocking parenting, I'd never say that to my kids unless they deserved it for being nightmares) it is good to know you have a plan B if it all goes **** up.
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Yep, puts hand up, was 17 for me, never really done anything to warrant being chucked out, blame my then step father tbh, I'm allot older now but I can't help feeling if I had a couple more years at home it would've helped allot, I never spoke to my mum for 8 years after that, it wasn't until I ended up in hospital that we spoke again, we get along fine now but in my heart I know things just don't feel the same,
Anyway good luck Pulse, I hope you get a place sorted soon.
You're 22 and pay £15 a week and expect to have a say in whether you can stay or not???? ........ give me a gram of what he's on!!!
If you were mine and living in my house and were told to leave you wouldn't get the chance to "tell me where to go", you'd be on your arse outside the door with a bin bag full of your crap! I can't believe how ******* arrogant some people are.
To the OP; I don't believe that you have given us all the facts here because either you parents are not nice people or you have been less than their idea of a good, responsible son.
If you do move out; welcome to the real world! here you have to do your own washing, cleaning and cooking as well as buying all the things like bog roll, tooth paste, fairy liquid and washing powder etc never mind the food etc.
Good luck.
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Yea, some people have this thing called a 'family' where they care for each other and there are more important things to them then how much rent they can get every month off the children they decided to bring into the world.
In return, in the final 10-20ish years of their parents time here, the ball will be on the other foot the the roles will reversed. This is how some families work.
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Yeah ok, I do sometimes agree with the whole "welcome to the real world" attitude but at the same time I believe in helping your own and giving your children a better start in life and if that means letting them stay at home for a few extra years so they can get some extra funds for when they leave etc then all the better, I don't agree that when you 18 it automatically means you should be chucked out because your officially classed as an adult,
I know a few people that didn't even leave home until they were 25 because they were saving for deposits for a house, because their parents let them stay at home for an extended period of time they are now set for life, personally I think it depends on the child's attitude, if they are using the extra time they have at home to be productive then throwing them out I think is unwarranted, now if they are just lazing around then yeah, a reality check could be the best option.
Yeah ok, I do sometimes agree with the whole "welcome to the real world" attitude but at the same time I believe in helping your own and giving your children a better start in life and if that means letting them stay at home for a few extra years so they can get some extra funds for when they leave etc then all the better, I don't agree that when you 18 it automatically means you should be chucked out because your officially classed as an adult,
I know a few people that didn't even leave home until they were 25 because they were saving for deposits for a house, because their parents let them stay at home for an extended period of time they are now set for life, personally I think it depends on the child's attitude, if they are using the extra time they have at home to be productive then throwing them out I think is unwarranted, now if they are just lazing around then yeah, a reality check could be the best option.
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[TW]Fox;11886482 said:
It's about the respect that is given, not money and I would challenge you to find a reasonable % of offspring that actively support their elderly parents; they usually end up tucked away in a home where someone else has the resposibility of caring and the kids visit begrudgingly every month or so...
You are obviously on the same stuff as the OP.
To be fair, we know nothing of the level of respect he gives his parents, all we know is that he'd be miffed if they booted him out. I don't think its fair to assume that becuase he thinks that, he doesn't respect them. I'd be miffed too if that happened to me but the level of respect I have for my parents is immeasurable.
Then shame on them - it is our duty to care for our parents to the best of our ability when they become old, even if it means missing out on things we'd rather spend the money on. After all, our parents did the same for us when we were younger.
Yes clearly
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lol.. so so true
I must admit I raised an eyebrow at the £60 a month if only for the whole "mate you're in for a shock" thing but as long as they weren't taking the **** (ie on 40k a year and coming home wrecked every night) my kids would be more than welcome pretty much rent free for as long as they liked.
I like... like them and stuff.
I would definitely charge them rent when they were working purely to shoulder the financial cost they would bring from eating everything etc and perhaps to help us save a bit for them to have a deposit on a house (sneaky bank account for them lol) or maybe even to ensure we weren't a financial burdon in the future but if they couldn't afford they wouldn't pay.
They're here because I decided I wanted them, that won't stop when they're 18.
Many of my friends pay very little rent. This allows us to put money away to save for a house. As fox stated its all about family (thanks for the backup fox), i respect everything my mum and dad have done for me, i dont take the pee, i pay for my mobile & internet, i will pay for some take aways etc etc.
I find it amazing that the OP's parents are chucking him out @ 18 and at the cost of living these days is stupid.
I live in a nice house, with hot water, food, nice big tv, entertainment system, computer, run a car. I would not be able to do or have any of these if i was chucked out my home @ 18 and only earning £10k a year, never mind trying to live off a part time job or even now 5 years on!
Me & my gf are finding it hard to move out, even if we rent. The cost of living would mean we have £100 to spend on whatever a month! No Thanks!
To the OP...have a word with them, they seem to be stuck in a time warp thinking you would survive on your own.