Girlfriend "cheats" on me in our engagement party

So you just stood by and watched it happen, you did nothing to intervene? You should have been taking her to one side/home as soon as she started getting mouthy. It was obviously out of character by the sounds of things
 
OP can you edit your OP so its clean and I can read what happened?

Or can someone else summise please?

Either way I would stop wasting my time creating new threads to get the MODS attention, else you might not be posting at all :D
 
Knubje said:
OP can you edit your OP so its clean and I can read what happened?

Or can someone else summise please?

Either way I would stop wasting my time creating new threads to get the MODS attention, else you might not be posting at all :D
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Goes out for engagement party, girlfriend has too mnay drinks, dances and kisses some random guy, OP does nothing. She wakes up next day in bits is upset at what she did, doesn't understand why, OP dumps her. OP posts here for advice.
 
Knubje said:
OP can you edit your OP so its clean and I can read what happened?

Or can someone else summise please?

Either way I would stop wasting my time creating new threads to get the MODS attention, else you might not be posting at all :D
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OP gets engaged. All well.
OP has engagement party. Starts well.
Crazy fiancée gets drunk and goes on the dancefloor looking for some **** (male hen, minus the erel)
Crazy fiancée continues antics.
Cut to next day, crazy fiancée no longer crazy, suffering from amnesia. Hilarity ensues (or not).
 
Ive removed the offending word! Im so thankful for internet memory lol I was not going to type it again

Thankyou Freefaller for your help just now - we need more mods like you ;)
 
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Vegetarian said:
She keeps telling me shes so ashamed and cant understand it... and really insists there was no underlying issue... its this thats making things worse for her.



The only thing I can think of is that she had two contolling boyfriends... first would phone her up every 20 mins while up checking up on her. The was an incerdent while drunk that may have caused this - she was 17. Next boyfriend was dirty piece of work putting her down all the time telling her she was boring as she didnt take drugs and all that - the started drinking loads then to be part of the gang.... again it put her into a lot of trouble - she got drunk and kissed another man infrount of him. Then as revenge boyfriend sleeps with another girl! Messy! Thing is shes always been totally faithful dispite what she did when drunk that night.

At this point she pulls her life around starts to work really hard and gets a good mark in her degree. She stops drinking and partying ( she never enjoyed it anyway and only did it to "fit in". Shes been fantastic all the time Ive known her and very dissaplined.

Before the party she did have an issue with 3 guests - her bro and his ex and the bro's new girfriend - the girlfriend was telling her bro not to go as his ex was there so my girlfriend was worried there would be war - and had a few drinks to calm her down early on - but all was fine in the end.
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Seems clear that she has far too much baggage and still isn't dealing with it properly.

She's in no fit state for a serious relationship, let alone marriage.

Walk. Don't stay in the mistaken belief that that "I can change her" or "She will change for me".
 
mate, grow up. she was drunk and probably her friends were as well and some things may have been said that made her think to do something silly.
she didnt notice the first kiss, fair enough if it was nothing, but she did actually pull away when the bloke went for a bit more, so even though she was drunk, she actually retained some sense.

go talk to her, she will be feeling very very sad.
 
The problem is , whatever she says about changing , will you be able to trust her again whenever she goes out drinking with her mates?
 
Who wants to marry a woman who throws herself at the nearest bloke after she's had a couple of glasses?

What kind of self-respecting man could possibly consider this a healthy relationship?

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More to the point that no one seems to have brought up (except Paulstat) is why you didn't intervene.
You said you were watching for half an hour. WTF

I would have been like "WTF do you think you are doing, you are drunk, we are going home"

It would have ended there IMO.
 
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Evangelion said:
Seems clear that she has far too much baggage and still isn't dealing with it properly.

She's in no fit state for a serious relationship, let alone marriage.

Walk. Don't stay in the mistaken belief that that "I can change her" or "She will change for me".
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thats right, walk away. i guess everyone should just walk away in future as well.
if they love each other then maybe she can open up and feel 'safe' with the OP, then everything will be ok.
just walking away will add to the baggage for the next person.
 
Go talk things out with her. As a few other people have said you should have taken control of the situation instead of just sitting around watching. If that were me I would have physically dragged her out of the place before letting her do something so stupid that she's only going to regret.
 
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