Ever gone out with a girl and there be a money issue? *moan alert*

[ConTRo13R]

The worst would be not having enough cash for condoms lol oh you'd have such a fun night then lol

 

[Deleted member 66701]

If you don't get the point I am trying to make then there is no point me trying to argue it.

Maybe I don't get it because it's a flawed argument? I don't think Fox gets it either.

I have a theory - maybe the rich don't get the poor, the poor don't get the rich the and the well off couldn't give two hoots one way or another.

 

[rossyl]

I'll write this, although i doubt many people will really notice i have responded.

Wow - this must be one of the most popular threads I've started. interesting to see the take many of you have on it.

Either:

1. She has no value for money.
2. She's rich, it's not her fault.
3. I'm jealous.
4. She'll look to me for money.
5. (Typical OcUK repsonse) enjoy it and "do" her while you can.

Well, yes i'd love to be rich, who wouldn't? I don't despise her at all for being rich. i've got plenty of friends who are wealthier than me. Likewise many of my friends are not nearly as well off. I've managed to buy a lovely house, i've got a very very good job that pays well. I don't think i could eb doing much better for myself.

I suppose I was a bit peeved that she could be inconsiderate of others. I've done the same on many occassions myself.

I distinctly remember texting a few of my friends on A Level results day saying "Yes, I got A's" not realising that many of them may have not done as well as they'd hoped, or worse, done terribly.

I think I just expected more from her. But then when you find out something exciting, sometimes you don't stop for thought.

Likewise, my reaction didn't take into account that she may not have thought about my position. I just got angry and fumed.

As for the whole - be gratfeul she's rich etc. I don't think I've ever been out with someone who isn't well off. I suppose i look for success and an element of responsibility with money, amongst other things, when chosing my friends/girlfriends.

As for her looking to replace her Dad. You seem to have no read the part that she's in the same job as me. She's extremely ambitious, and clever, and she'll make money for herself. Of course, having a few million behind you might help getting that chalet in the Alps a few years sooner.

So anyway...there you go.

No doubt, my response will largely be ignored, but that's my view.

 

[unwashed potato!]

Maybe I don't get it because it's a flawed argument? I don't think Fox gets it either.

I have a theory - maybe the rich don't get the poor, the poor don't get the rich the and the well off couldn't give two hoots one way or another.

the narrow minded don't get other people is a better way to put it.

i'm poor, but get the rich but then i pay bills unlike fox so i have an understanding of the real world

 

[fez]

My missus is a bit like this. No idea of the value of money. If she wants to travel then she can just do it. I have tried to explain that its not that simple but its like hitting your head against a brick wall.

 

[Deleted member 66701]

Lets dissaemble this then:-

Well, yes i'd love to be rich, who wouldn't? I don't despise her at all for being rich. i've got plenty of friends who are wealthier than me. Likewise many of my friends are not nearly as well off. I've managed to buy a lovely house, i've got a very very good job that pays well. I don't think i could eb doing much better for myself.

Fair enough - nothing weird there.

I suppose I was a bit peeved that she could be inconsiderate of others. I've done the same on many occassions myself.

But you haven't provided any justification/evidence that she is inconsiderate of others - just assumption and conjecture. "Not noticing" is not the same as being inconsiderate.

I distinctly remember texting a few of my friends on A Level results day saying "Yes, I got A's" not realising that many of them may have not done as well as they'd hoped, or worse, done terribly.

Again, I don't see that as inconsiderate - there is nothing wrong with celebrating your achievements. maybe you need to review your definition of incosideration.

I think I just expected more from her. But then when you find out something exciting, sometimes you don't stop for thought.

What? Are you talking about her finding out about how much her flat would rent for and travelling the world? I would consider that good news - who wouldn't want to share it with their partner?

Likewise, my reaction didn't take into account that she may not have thought about my position. I just got angry and fumed.

Bit odd to get angry at that. Deep breaths and count to three next time.

As for the whole - be gratfeul she's rich etc. I don't think I've ever been out with someone who isn't well off. I suppose i look for success and an element of responsibility with money, amongst other things, when chosing my friends/girlfriends.

So by your own standards you're looking for people of a high social standing / monetary worth. By chance you've found someone exceeding your own high standards and now you want to bring them down a peg?

As for her looking to replace her Dad. You seem to have no read the part that she's in the same job as me. She's extremely ambitious, and clever, and she'll make money for herself. Of course, having a few million behind you might help getting that chalet in the Alps a few years sooner.

So your essentially peeved that despite working as hard as her you don't have the same access to money / security etc? Bit of a childish thing to be annoyed at rather.

Someone elses comment:-

the narrow minded don't get other people is a better way to put it

Most people are only as open minded as their life experiences allow. For the record i think you're narrow minded especially becuase of your "silver spoon" and tarring all rich people witht he same stick.

 

[rossyl]

Lets dissaemble this then:-



Fair enough - nothing weird there..

Thanks!

But you haven't provided any justification/evidence that she is inconsiderate of others - just assumption and conjecture. "Not noticing" is not the same as being inconsiderate..

Again, I don't see that as inconsiderate - there is nothing wrong with celebrating your achievements. maybe you need to review your definition of incosideration..

Sometimes you should be aware that some people are less fortunate than yourself. That's called being considerate, appreciating someone elses feelings as to not rub in your own successes when someone has not been as fortunate, or as successful as you.

Telling your mate - hey I got 3 A's before you've given him a chance to tell you he's got 3 D's, cannot get into any Uni he wants to and feels like killing himself - is what i'd call being inconsiderate. if i'd of stopepd for thought i'd of realised there's a chance he didn't do as well as me. Rather than stopping and asking how he did before boasting.

Unlike you I will not pass judgment on someone I barely know - but I suggest you think about that.

What? Are you talking about her finding out about how much her flat would rent for and travelling the world? I would consider that good news - who wouldn't want to share it with their partner?

It's the way in which it was done.

Bit odd to get angry at that. Deep breaths and count to three next time.
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true

So by your own standards you're looking for people of a high social standing / monetary worth. By chance you've found someone exceeding your own high standards and now you want to bring them down a peg?
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Never said that.

So your essentially peeved that despite working as hard as her you don't have the same access to money / security etc? Bit of a childish thing to be annoyed at rather..

Not annoyed at that.

Someone elses comment:-



Most people are only as open minded as their life experiences allow. For the record i think you're narrow minded especially becuase of your "silver spoon" and tarring all rich people witht he same stick.

Living in one of the wealthiest areas in London, going to a very good school, and being in an industry where i deal with wealthy people all day, in comparison to helping some of the poorest in our world, those without any material possession...I'd say i have a well roudned view of the world.

It's easy to sit at a desk, review what someone else has written and provide judgment on it. Instead you should maybe, sit back and think, not act like a know-it-all and provide opinion and not fact.

I don't know you, you don't know me.

 

[[TW]Fox]

I cannot win. If you don't get the point I am trying to make then there is no point me trying to argue it.

You don't have a point. You are criticising her for not being 'well rounded' and are actually suggesting she should refuse financial help to 'see what its like' having no money. Yet.. from your position you have no idea what its like to be like her so you are no more well rounded.

 

[St0rmer66]

Why do you pay for everything? I don't understand how guys get into this situation. I seem to have more trouble with the girls not LETTING me pay for things! New girlfriend is on less money than me and almost every time we go out she insists on buying me drinks and I usually have to remind her that it's my round next and not hers!

I certainly wouldn't expect any girlfriend of mine to pay for everything, no matter how much more money she had than me, but keeping it roughly (do not split hairs over it or it's just as much of a problem) half and half is totally reasonable. A woman who expected me to pay for everything wouldn't even get past the first date with me.

 

[Dark_Injection]

Sorry to put a downer but can't see this being a lasting relationship.

There's only one true solution. Bone her one last time at her parents house, spiderweb her in the face and drag her out in front of her dad and say "here's your little princess"

THIS, EPIC LOL

 

[Dark_Injection]

Can i just say.

If you have gone into this much thought about being with her, then why the hell are you with her?

Your girlfriend should be on par with your best mate, someone you love and want to be with and not think things like this.

Sorry but just leave it now.

 

[Andrew1978]

Is it possible that when she mentioned she could rent her house out and go travelling that she was thinking you could do the same.

Perhaps she was looking at you losing your job as a good thing and a chance to spend time travelling without the worry of having to leave a job you enjoy to do something together?

 

[Voltar]

I just wish some people in this world would try and take the rough wooden spoon out of their behinds to be honest.

I'm not jealous... but why should I have to wah wah... why should I, why does he/she get it so easy and not me.

Some people are just babies and it's normally exposed in topics such as this one.