My X who I get on with most of the time has been asking me to give up my daughters last name since we split up all most a year a go. I have all ways said no as its something that is so special to me and is a connection that makes me feel even closer to her.
I received a email today from her which you read below - sorry for the length!
"just put jolie to bed and we had a nice tea i made chicken chow mein and jolie really loved it,i love watching her eat as she really loves my cooking
also i need to give your address to my solicitor as im applying to the courts to change jolies name back to mclaren,i have to do it this way as to get a deed poll i would need your permission,so i didn't see the point in asking you again as i knew what the answer would be.
not doing it for any other reason but knowing that sometime in the future i will have other children and want all my kids to have the same name also the only reason i gave her your surname was because i believed that one day we would have been married and we would all have had the same name,but obviously it didn't turn out as planned.
but one thing i would guarantee you is that i would never give jolie another mans surname!!! Also i thought i may aswell do it now as i have just been applying for her passport and dont want to pay again to have it altered.i would have been happy to keep her name campbell and add mine to it so she has both our last names.
i understand that like you said once in a message on hear it makes you feel special knowing she has your name but im her parent 2 and bringing her up as best i can so i would like to be included in it.
Also just want to say that i dont want this to effect anything in regards to up being really good friends still as its something we have always disagreed on and thats why theres no point arguing about it,if we do it this way then its in the courts hands,i didnt want for you to just get a letter and be confused as to why i had not said anything so im just keeping you informed.
its probably better via email as least theres no arguing.dont want to upset you jay really am past all the bad **** but this is something thats really important to me ,and i didnt want to do it and lie and say i had your consent when i never.cant stress enough that im not trying to cause trouble at all and all though i dont expect you 2 agree with it,i hope you understand that if we cant agree then i have no option and its always at the back of my mind.
and like i said in the past if they allow it then it will always stay the same on her birth certificate as your name,i understand your point and i hope you understand mine.but again please dont fall out over it as you knew i was gonna do it when you said no last time.sorry but still want to be best mates and parents,hope this comes across in the write way as like you have said before its hard to say things how ya mean them over email . X x x your always gonna be her dad and will only be applying to add me on,im not asking for them to take you off as im not that spitefull x xx "
Any freindly advice here on how to go about this ?
Link ?
