so..i've been stupid again

secretspy · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:23

Welshy said:
Just go out and meet people face to face, I'm sure your friends will have single male friends.

yeah tried that one, theyre either all younger than me, not my type or they dont have any

edit: the only guys who have been interested in talking to me are just players.

geekyEd · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:23

Marky said:
lol I think you aggroed her...

Whoops... too much warcraft...

well he deffo didnt pull her thats for sure.......

Mr_White · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:24

Just here to troll.

sometimes did this thing where we'd go to bed with our cams on so we "wake up with each other"

lolwut?

iamdjdz · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:24

secretspy said:
yeah tried that one, theyre either all younger than me, not my type or they dont have any

Out of curiousity, what age are you? Roughly if you don't want to say exactly.

Hedge · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:25

7 years... you missed the relationship boat there. Definately in friend territory after that length of time.

secretspy · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:26

iamdjdz said:
Out of curiousity, what age are you? Roughly if you don't want to say exactly.

24

hedge - he's so hot and cold. even now. one minute hes saying just friends now hes saying he would like more but at moment it cant happen. how can he say that last bit if hes also saying someone at work is interested and he likes her like that too.

Marky · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:29

secretspy said:
24

hedge - he's so hot and cold. even now. one minute hes saying just friends now hes saying he would like more but at moment it cant happen. how can he say that last bit if hes also saying someone at work is interested and he likes her like that too.

Sounds to me like he's just pulling you along... 7 years is long enough... move on.

/Deactivate serious mode

iamdjdz · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:29

secretspy said:
24

That's not old.

(I know I'm not that old)

Thing is, when you meet a 17 year old online its all fun and games, but after a while you change, and they change, and I've a few friends now who i met online when I was younger and now wouldn't want to have a relationship with them in real life...

Morba · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:30

secretspy said:
he stuck the knife in and said "i like her like that but doesnt stop us meeting as friends"

great relationships have a great friendship base. be happy that he sees you as a very good friend. thats a start and something to be happy for, even if nothing else comes of it :]

secretspy · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:31

iamdjdz said:
That's not old.

(I know I'm not that old)

Thing is, when you meet a 17 year old online its all fun and games, but after a while you change, and they change, and I've a few friends now who i met online when I was younger and now wouldn't want to have a relationship with them in real life...

hes older than me, hes 32

i met him when i was 17 and he was 24/25 or whatever the maths is.

i've just told him its not fair to string me along saying "maybe one day" when hes got this other girl on the scene (possibly)

sajtion · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:31

sounds like you were too late. he's not even thinking about you. your hanging on to the past. move on

Morba · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:33

secretspy said:
hes older than me, hes 32

i met him when i was 17 and he was 24/25 or whatever the maths is.

from 25 to 32 is a big change in life. priorities change and all sorts.
don't ruin your friendship

iamdjdz · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:35

Morba said:
from 25 to 32 is a big change in life. priorities change and all sorts.
don't ruin your friendship

Agree.

Try and find someone else, I'm sure you'd be able to. Even if they're 32 now, they'll know what they want and be looking.

Shotgun_ned · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:35

sajtion said:
sounds like you were too late. he's not even thinking about you. your hanging on to the past. move on

Agreed. Maybe he thinks you'd both want different things seeing as you're both at different stages in life.

secretspy · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:37

ive told him hes got to make up his mind what he wants. ive said i dont want to meet him when he wants to get with someone else cos its hurtful

he said "okay well looks like i should get my head together"

i didnt say exactly hes got to choose one of us, i just basically said he cant string us along at the same time cos its not fair. we've both said that out of it we still want to be friends but i cant keep going on false hope. i know this is going to hurt. in the long run i did want to meet see how it went then hopefully move on because right now all i keep thinking is i wonder what he's like in person.

shotgun_ned - the problem ive found with most guys ive met is they don't want the same things as me, my ex said most girls my age just want to go out and get drunk whereas i want to meet someone, settle down, get married, have kids. i never have and never will push someone into something but ive always made it clear what i want out of life. im not using Mr X as an example as such because i know nothing can happen because he's too far away

im just fed up of guys who string me along saying maybe, i dont know. its like "make up your mind first" because im given false hope then i get hurt

Morba · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:39

lets be honest, if you did meet up now, would it actually work? would be such an anti climax i bet.
if you havent found a way to meet in 7 years, it really isn't worth meeting (for more than friendship) now :]

secretspy · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:45

i know it cant be more than friendship but id still like to meet.

ash_scotland88 · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:46

secretspy said:
how did you guess?

coudl have been gay/bi!!!!!!!!!!!!

Morba · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:47

secretspy said:
i know it cant be more than friendship but id still like to meet.

its probably best you don't for now, as you still have thoughts of other things.
get back to being friends :]

Souness · 31 Mar 2009 at 00:47

If u were that bothered about him u would have found a way to meet already, boyfriend or not (7 years is a long time, jesus). Any guy in his position would now reasonably assume you're just looking for something convenient to fill the void.