so..i've been stupid again

I say just move on, if something was going to happen it would have happened already. I have met online friends and wished I hadn't.

Keep your friendship and meet someone who will be able to see without driving for hours. Long distance relationships don't work.

Oh and 24 is not old, 32 is :p
 
Souness said:
If u were that bothered about him u would have found a way to meet already, boyfriend or not (7 years is a long time, jesus). Any guy in his position would now reasonably assume you're just looking for something convenient to fill the void.
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believe me i have been trying throughout the years when I was single. i even said about heading up his way, go up with friends for a night out and meet him while im there but he would say "maybe but depends on my shifts at work" as he works evenings.

its only in the last 9 months that we've both been free to meet but he got sick so obviously there was treatment, recovery time etc, i didnt push him about meeting i knew he would need time to get over all that.

and he mentioned that he couldnt take time off because he'd been off sick too long and was doing overtime to try and get some money as the SSP he got was peanuts

edit: i know i need to move on and ive tried going out seeing if theres anyone out there, and for the last 9 months i havent looked to see if that theory works. nothing. people have said "oh i'll set you up with so and so" but it turns out they dont know me at all because the other person is completely not my type. my family (well sisters and bro in law) have said if i was to use match.com or whatever (as last 3 bfs met online) they'd disown me.
 
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i have tried but will try again. (although obviously not right now)

im just so angry with myself for being to open to people.

mame - as said i havent really. ive been concentrating on my driving lessons which ive now passed and now im trying to concentrate on being more happy with myself. would still be nice to be with someone though.
 
The more you open up, the more you leave yourself open to being hurt.

You've never met the chap, he could be so different in real life...
 
iamdjdz said:
Are you a girl?
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dude ocuk rogues !

branddaly said:
I see nothing to suggest you've been stupid at all, a bit of a romantic maybe. My normal reaction to a bit of a let down like that would be to meet up with friends, down a few beers, and go out dancing.
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nah this is a tech forum well be too scared to reply


no in all seriousness secretspy, he probably didnt know how to tell you and didnt want to hurt you ? but eneded up delaying and did in the process dont worry about it theres always more around !
 
People seem to have a constant need to be in a relationship. its nice, but sometimes its good to discover some things about yourself by being alone for a while.

Just relax and someone good will turn up when you arent looking.

The guy online is clearly just trying to let you down lightly but you dont seem to be taking the hint properly.

Theres some girl talking to me from PoF, who lives about 2hrs from mine, and she asks me to come down, but I really cant be assed so im trying to politely make my excuses. lol
 
secretspy said:
i even said about heading up his way, go up with friends for a night out and meet him while im there but he would say "maybe but depends on my shifts at work" as he works evenings.
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you obviously weren't trying too hard to get together then. i had to fly 3000 miles to meet my current gf so I have little sympathy!

i don't claim to know you but maybe you're blowing this out of proportion because you're going through a bad time? Just chill out... you'll meet someone when you least expect it
 
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secretspy said:
i have tried but will try again. (although obviously not right now)

im just so angry with myself for being to open to people.

mame - as said i havent really. ive been concentrating on my driving lessons which ive now passed and now im trying to concentrate on being more happy with myself. would still be nice to be with someone though.
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You shouldn't not be open to people just due to this experience... it's different in real life anyway...
 
Morba said:
if a bloke would have posted the same thing, i wouldnt have given the same response no.
Is that really an odd thing?
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Yes.
You're a heterosexual!

Wait, that should be a no, bahhh I'm too tired to make sense.
 
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the main thing that has upset me is he has led me along saying yeah we'll meet soon, he even said a couple of months ago "leave it with me i'll sort it out"

in the past he hasnt had a problem with being honest about other things.

i probably wasn't in the right frame of mind to speak to him tonight but it was just such a big shock.

Hedge - i see your point but i dont feel i need to be in a relationship i want/would like to be in a relationship. as previously said I havent specifically gone out looking ive been trying to sort myself out first and i know a relationship with this guy cant happen but i just wanted to finally meet him.

i know he may be completely different in person.

souness - i was trying rather hard but it takes two. its a fair journey to where he is, ive only just passed my driving test and i didnt particularly want to travel up on my own to see him by train which is why i didnt before, as said i was planning a trip to where he is with friends. he later suggested going to thorpe park or something which is why i never did

anyways, ive shed a few more tears now, ive had my rant so im off to bed to try and get some sleep otherwise i will look like a zombie in work tomorrow. and i'll no doubt be questioned by my colleagues on my facebook status which i left when i was rather angry...oh well

thanks all for your comments. I will pop back tomorrow afternoon as no doubt i will be feeling much better by then

night all x
 
Oh god , even telling people on Facebook status updates... thats seriously lame

thats the reason I removed myself from facebook cos i was sick of reading crap like that.

hope ya learn from that mistake :)
 
Hedge said:
Oh god , even telling people on Facebook status updates... thats seriously lame

thats the reason I removed myself from facebook cos i was sick of reading crap like that.

hope ya learn from that mistake :)
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such love lol.... ive just removed there updates from mine !

hope you get over it soon :)

knowlesy
 
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Tell him nothing and emigrate to Australia and never ever look back. You absolutely are wasting your time else he would have come forward by now and manned up a bit.
So help me it sounds to me like you could use a refreshing and complete change in direction. Seriously.
 
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