Anyone here a stepdad?

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Why waste your life? You should be starting your career and having fun, buying cars, going on hols etc etc. Not nursing someone elses retarded spawn.
 
I'm a step-dad. For all intents and purposes though, my daughter calls me Daddy so to her, I'm her real dad.
My partner is very supportive and we discuss how to bring our daughter up together.

It sounds like your problem is with your partner rather than her children.
 
Personally I think anyone who takes on 3 children who is not their own at such a late stage in their development is absolutely ****ing mad. Not only will you never be a true father by them, but the partner will never view you as a true father, and you will always be a second class citizen. This is fact, and evidenced by what you've written.

You are far too young to be in a relationship with a 30 year old with 3 kids... get your head out of the sand, get out of there, and start living life before all you end up with is a series of huge regrets. Which if you stay in this relationship you WILL have.

I say again, love or not, you must be mad.

mattheman said:
Are the kids from the same father, iam in a similar position but different anyway iam seeing a woman has kids shes older than me by 5 years, she works in the city high profile job we have an arrangement FB, plus i dont want to know kids and keep it between us.
The other day i phone up and heard one of the kids say hello told her why does her kid know my name, plus tonight met up with another woman on 2nd date go to kiss her, invited her over told her, she asked what are we going to do i said well iam not going to sleep with her explained why with out tell her about my FB " she with a high tone voice iam not going to sleep with you, yet shes the one that wanted to come round, the thing is i get the funny feeling, i think she is strange.
i'll tell you why she has this flow chart and sticks to it, then i she says she has no idea what to do about dating how to go about it, i replied havent you ever had boyfriends she says yes, thought what a strange thing to say, started to get worried about the whole thing thoughts started to go thru my mind collagen injected lips, nice **** nice bum she attractive so i started to feel her neck no adams apple whole list of things started to go thru my mind, not sure if am getting paranoid.
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School. Go back.
 
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I'm a stepdad to a 9 year old (was 5 when we first got together). For the first 2 years or so I couldn't do the right thing, no matter what I did or said would result in her thinking "I know how to look after my son, don't make out to be a bad mother". It comes down to pride, she feels a need to show everyone that she can manage as a single mum. The last few years it's been a lot better, her son respects me and she respects what I say concerning his upbringing.

There are other issues with your situation though of course but I think they have been well pointed out.
 
Taking on someone else's kids is actually a very shrewd move, and something I would happily do.

...you get to try family life. You get an insight into fatherhood. To share the highs and the lows, the first day at school, the days out, the growing pains.

Then, if one day you decide you don't like it anymore, you can just leave and not have to worry about ongoing support / maintenance / communication, as you would if you were the natural father.

Luckily these are the options the OP has afforded himself (something his partner might do well to remember).
 
Manics said:
Taking on someone else's kids is actually a very shrewd move, and something I would happily do.

...you get to try family life. You get an insight into fatherhood. To share the highs and the lows, the first day at school, the days out, the growing pains.

Then, if one day you decide you don't like it anymore, you can just leave and not have to worry about ongoing support / maintenance / communication, as you would if you were the natural father.

Luckily these are the options the OP has afforded himself (something his partner might do well to remember).
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Please tell me that there was heavily veiled black humour in that post...
 
Aruffell said:
Been with my mrs for 6 months now and i knew the situation of her having 3 kids when we first got together.

She's now 30 and i'm nearly 22 and we argue quite a bit (which i believe is down to the contraceptive injection), mainly arguing about her 3 kids who are 19 months, 3 and 5.


Thanks,

Andy
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Bail out ! Bail out ! Bail out !!!

Don't waste your youth fighting a losing battle with some old doris mate & I mean that in the nicest possible way, You cannot change them & you cannot tell a woman how to bring up her kids, Just Sack her take the pain & move on sharpish, Sorry but Trust me I know.
 
I agree with general consensus here, you're too young to commit yourself to bringing up three of someone elses kids. You should never waste years of your life trying to make something work that's patently broken, life is full of opportunities so go out there and find some new ones.
 
Azagoth said:
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Cheers for the laugh this morning:p...i couldnt make any heads or tails as to what that fella was rambling on about.
 
mattheman said:
Are the kids from the same father, iam in a similar position but different anyway iam seeing a woman has kids shes older than me by 5 years, she works in the city high profile job we have an arrangement FB, plus i dont want to know kids and keep it between us.
The other day i phone up and heard one of the kids say hello told her why does her kid know my name, plus tonight met up with another woman on 2nd date go to kiss her, invited her over told her, she asked what are we going to do i said well iam not going to sleep with her explained why with out tell her about my FB " she with a high tone voice iam not going to sleep with you, yet shes the one that wanted to come round, the thing is i get the funny feeling, i think she is strange.
i'll tell you why she has this flow chart and sticks to it, then i she says she has no idea what to do about dating how to go about it, i replied havent you ever had boyfriends she says yes, thought what a strange thing to say, started to get worried about the whole thing thoughts started to go thru my mind collagen injected lips, nice **** nice bum she attractive so i started to feel her neck no adams apple whole list of things started to go thru my mind, not sure if am getting paranoid.
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That is one of the best posts I've ever seen on here.
Can somebody translate?
 
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