To tell or not to tell?

vonhelmet said:
If boy is Christian, boy should be familiar with the passage I quoted above and should understand it's not in the best interests of his faith.
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maybe but i was kind of suggesting 'morals' have more say in it. in some religions its ok to stone to death for commiting sins. i'm just saying be true to yourself and your 'morals' which would have been dictated by religion.
 
I don't see a problem, as long as your beliefs don't conflict with eachothers...

I'm an atheist, and I quite like religious girls because they tend to have better morals (speaking from experience). As long as they don't insist on preaching about their faith or trying to push their beliefs onto me, I say let it flow :)
 
It is still a discussion though, also about religion and relationships. Which I find very important since its a big part of my and many others life's.

Sometimes real friends can be a bit unhelpful and the internet means that lots of people with different opinions can give you their's on an issue.
 
apeZ said:
I don't see a problem, as long as your beliefs don't conflict with eachothers...

I'm an atheist, and I quite like religious girls because they tend to have better morals (speaking from experience). As long as they don't insist on preaching about their faith or trying to push their beliefs onto me, I say let it flow :)
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LOL you've never met catholic girls then ;) :p
 
Its easy

You have to tell her. Lets look at the options.

It goes **** up........You lose a "friendship" that you always would want more from anyway.

It goes well......jobs a god un.

You will never be happy in the "friends" situation so you might as well give it a shot.
 
I'd tell her, but it is risky and it could endanger the friendship. What is worse to you; not telling her and seeing her drift away one day, or telling her and taking a risk?

The religion aspect does make it harder, most probably from her family. I am english agnostic and my wife is pakistani. She is not religeous as such but her family are. It did cause problems; half of her family loved me but the other half didn't approve. I also didn't speak to my dad for years over it.

But I have two lovely children who simply wouldn't be here if I had let other peoples opinions get in our way.
 
Hey Hades, just wondering what the kids get raised as?

It's so weird seeing other people in a mixed race relationship...it seems rare. And I agree its best to not listen to what other people say.

My advice to the TC is that he should do whatever feels right, forget about awkwardness and all the other things that are tying you down. You know her better than we do, would she prefer a slower thing with a friend or does she date a lot of guys? It really all depends on who SHE is.
 
Ummmm. Don't 'tell her'.

Flirt, have fun, and if the feelings right do something about it, or ask her out.

Stop putting up obstacles and asking yourself if it'll work. If you like her, go for it, worry about the other crap later.

Ant :cool:
 
baz047 said:
Hey Hades, just wondering what the kids get raised as?

It's so weird seeing other people in a mixed race relationship...it seems rare. And I agree its best to not listen to what other people say.

My advice to the TC is that he should do whatever feels right, forget about awkwardness and all the other things that are tying you down. You know her better than we do, would she prefer a slower thing with a friend or does she date a lot of guys? It really all depends on who SHE is.
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They are not being raised with any religion. I'm agnostic (which is not quite the same as atheist but let's assume for this discussion that it is) and my wife was born into a muslim family but is probably about as religious as I am :). It's her family that are religious.

Race is not the same as religion (ie a muslim doesn't have to be black, brown or white, and if I recall, a vast number of christians nowadays are actually african). Mixed race relationships seem very common to me nowadays. I met my wife in 1992 and at that time it was far rarer than it is now.

One other commentg to the OP... life sometimes presents you with opportunities. Often they involve risk. My view is that usually those opportunities are worth taking, rather than regretting what might have been. But obviously only you know the risks associated with this opportunity. I've taken risks in my time. Some have paid off and some have gone wrong. But at the very least I can look back and say I tried to make my own path in life rather than let life flow past me, too scared to act.
 
Hades said:
Race is not the same as religion (ie a muslim doesn't have to be black, brown or white, and if I recall, a vast number of christians nowadays are actually african). Mixed race relationships seem very common to me nowadays. I met my wife in 1992 and at that time it was far rarer than it is now.
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you should come to glasgow, in the past 2 years I've noticed about 4 or 5.

And I realise they are not the same thing, it's just that white pakistani's are few are far between. Especially those with a family history there. And I do know that anyone can be born into Islam or even convert. Simple as.

And you recall correctly, a very large number (in the southern part anyway) are Christain, whereas the northern areas are mostly Muslim.
 
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