Dealing with setbacks

mcast123

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Something quite bad has happened to me recently that will probably negatively affect my life going forward. I won't go into details, but I would say it's the worst thing that's happened to me :(

Has anything bad happened to you in the past, how did you deal with it?

Apologies for the gloomy thread.
 
without prying its difficult to express how we dealt with something without being able to compare it with something.

For example I could tell you that my lungs collapsed a few years ago, It hurt like hell, the docs thought I had ruptured my oesophagus and I had air in the tissue around my neck, they then told me if this was the case I may die due to secondary infection.

I didn't. it was a bad time but time heals. what area are we treading in ?
 
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without prying its difficult to express how we dealt with something without being able to compare it with something.

For example I could tell you that my lungs collapsed a few years ago, It hurt like hell, the docs thought I had ruptured my oesophagus and I had air in the tissue around my neck, they then told me if this was the case I may die due to secondary infection.

I didn't. it was a bad time but time heals. what area are we treading in ?
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Sorry to hear that, my issue is not health related, but not good nonetheless.
 
Worst thing for me (at the time) was getting sacked from my placement year job (first ever job as well) through Uni... felt like trash for ages after that, really dented my confidence for a bit.

Never had any big health issues to speak of, found out I'm allergic to a strong dose of nuts/nut oil and couldnt breathe.... but thats minor :p
 
Deal with it.

Let me explain. When I was younger I got a scar on my finger (I can only assume that this is tiny compared to what has happened to you but the same principal stands I hope).
When I got this scar I got really upset because it was 'forever', and I have issues with things that are for 'forever'.

Anyway, one day I woke up an thought **** it. Its happened, its not going to go away, I'm just going to have to live with it.

Unfortunately, sometimes in life things happen to us that affect us in ways we don't want them to and often there is nothing we can do about it except accept it and try to get on with it.

My advice to you is stop thinking about what could have been or what was, and focus on what will be.
 
is it;

1. Lost job
2. Death in family / close friend
3. Financial
4. Girl thread / break up
5. Hardware failure
 
mcast123 said:
Something quite bad has happened to me recently that will probably negatively affect my life going forward. I won't go into details, but I would say it's the worst thing that's happened to me :(

Has anything bad happened to you in the past, how did you deal with it?

Apologies for the gloomy thread.
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I spilt from a long term partner and found my father collapsed and dead in the space of 7 days. Couple that with the pressure of being a police officer and you have not got a nice time.

What got me through ?

Positive attitude, rational thought and good friends and family.

If you allow yourself to fall in a rut it is the worst thing you could do.
 
Hey mate - I sort of understand what you mean to say without going into detail, as a similar situation arose for me at the end of last year. It's still hanging over me and it really did **** a lot of my life. I ended up going to see a councillor for a few sessions as I was really depressed - it helped that it was free at my uni - and I dropped some classes and went to my uni to change parts of my course as there was no way I'd have carried on. I drank far more than I had before and I really shouldn't have done. At the same time one of my best friends stopped talking to me for no reason and it took a while to get the confidence to make new friends. In terms of psychologically I still think about what happened every day and I can't stop that, it's getting better now but I know that one day I'll have to deal with it all again and having something hanging over you for more than half a year totally out of your control is not a nice feeling.

Get out with your better friends, if there's anyone you can trust then chat to them about it - I have a specific friend who i talk to about this to and fortunately my dad is supportive of me too. Try and keep busy whether that's gardening or playing the xbox or skydiving it will all help to take your mind off things. And the most important thing to stop getting depressed is to sleep and eat healthily.

Best of luck.
 
You get over it, in time. It's hard, and I've recently had the worst period of my life from October-March, but a few close friends and time helped. And now I've met someone, and I have finally learnt to get on with my life and that no matter what some people do to you, there are always people who care about you, and more importantly there are always people to care about.

Don't turn to drink and worse like I did, as hard as it is just try to think rationally. Seek out the few people you know are sincerely your friend, or find a total stranger to talk too.
 
mcast123 said:
Something quite bad has happened to me recently that will probably negatively affect my life going forward. I won't go into details, but I would say it's the worst thing that's happened to me :(

Has anything bad happened to you in the past, how did you deal with it?

Apologies for the gloomy thread.
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My father always said the things that don't kill us make us stronger. They become a part of you, and for what it's worth, try to look at the positives.
 
9 years ago our entire family went through a horrendous experience when my beloved OH had a really bad accident. Yes, it has affected our family terribly, but we have become closed as a result and we have found our true friends.

Those who truly know you and love you will not turn away and will not desert you. It may take time / medication / counselling depending on your circumstances, but you will get through this.
 
What don't kill you makes you stranger... Look at me, I been to hell and back many times. Just got to keep strong in the faith and keep your head while everyone else is losing theirs.
 
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