thrown out.

Voltar said:
Wow, there are some pretty nasty posts in this thread.
The OP asked our advice so why do we all assume that it's a wind-up or a joke?

I wouldn't wish this situation on anyone. The OP has suffered abuse which is actually a problem in the UK.

To the OP:

Please call Childline. You say you are a subject of domestic abuse. They will be able to help you.
Call Samaritans when you turn 18.

Ask your friends to help you and contact any relatives with whom you get along if you can. From your situation I imagine that this all stops very soon. Indeed, you probably wont be able to access a computer with internet soon.

If your father is abusive then dont go home. Call the charities who deal with cases like yours and far worse regularly.

Call the Citizens Advice Bureau and contact the Army to speed up your enlistment.

If, however you acted in the wrong and things are not truly desperate, please go home and apologise for whatever it is you did.

I really hope things look up for you, and good luck.
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+1 this
 
I can't stop laughing at this thread. :D

Knubje said:
Hi OcUK,

I got a real vague problem with no real details or substance.

Can anyone offer advice?

Many Thanks.
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I'm really sorry, but this post is exactly how it reads to me.

Call me heartless if you will, but I think it's a wind-up, or something stupid and petty the OP could sort by going home and apologising.
 
RadoX said:
i turn 18 in 11 days my dad went crazy at me so he got what he deserved. thats basicly it.
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I am also pretty much the same age as you.

My mum also beats me sometimes, at the time I think it's for no reason at all. But later on when I think about it, I realise I've been an absolute idiot. She's my mum after all, and when I think about the situation, I realise that what she said was absolutely right and for the better.

If I told my mum I wanted to join the army, she'd be totally against it and would do everything possible to stop me. The only other person in the house is my brother and he has a mental condition. I know it would be completely wrong for me to leave my mum alone.

You haven't given us enough information about your dad and this situation. Is he actually abusing you? Can you just go home and give an honest apology? Please think carefully before calling Childline.
 
RadoX said:
just constant verbal abuse, as for doing stuff wrong in his eyes the army is wasting my life infact thinking of it, anything i do or say he dosent agree with. i try to stay out of the way most of the time but the main reason hes annoyed now is because i dont have a job and im wating for a few things to process for the army.
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Is it possible he doesn't want you in the army because the prospect of getting killed or having your limbs blown off in afghanistan worries him?

EDIT someons already pointed that out.

But look at it from him shoes, he's spent 18 years of his life working and raising you and then you say i'm off to join the army and become cannon/IED fodder.

My adivce would be to seriously reconsider joining the army. You fighting and dying in very, very dubious wars for politicans that won't give a **** about you when you'r left in wheelchair for the rest of your life with your arms or legs missing. Where as i'm pretty sure it'll be your mother and father who'll having to pick up the pieces and babysit you until they die.

When you'r 18 the army can sound macho and tempting but let me tell you it's not. Don't get suckered in by hollywood war propaganda and those stupid army adverts that make it seem like a big adventure holiday becuase it certainly won't be.
 
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I think some of u are forgetting hes just a kid!
And you need to grow up not him!
 
OP, you only get one set of parents, no matter how rubbish/****/pathetic they are you still only get one set and the day you loose one is the day no matter how bad they we're is the day you miss them. I hated the my dad, he was appalling as fathers go by just not partaking in my life from about the age of 5. He died about a year ago, which overall wasnt nice for all concerned. So go home and SORT IT OUT YOU UNGRATEFULL ****!!! (the stars replace a swear for poo?)
 
RadoX said:
im joining to get away from the constant abuse from my dad he wont even let me sit in the same room as him.
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is it because you are the love child of your mum and the milk man and a constant reminder to him? Or is it that you just don't get on?

Deep down you know why you and your dad don't get on, or at least, you will have your suspicions. You need to talk to him. It is extremely difficult to approach someone about something like this, i've only had to do it 3 times in my life and it was hard but i got through it and things turned out better.

Robert1986 said:
blah blah blah blah blah blah. No one really cares. We have all had family disputes. In the end, its your family and you have to stick together no matter what.
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I am sorry but family don't have to stick together and I have no idea why people think you do! My dad wasn't even invited to my wedding, I don't hate him or anything it's just that I know what he is like and I wouldn't want my wedding day ruined. In fact, I haven't seen him in 18 months now.

asim18 said:
Why? You seem to have singled me out from dozens of other posters who are also joking around.

If my post hurt you in any way then please tell me how, instead of trying to start a pointless argument.
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You get singled out quite simply because 99.9% of your posts are just ****!

To the OP, phone your local council and explain to them that you are 17 and homeless. Don't mention that you are bunking with a friend and they should find you a local hostel/shelter to stay at.
 
getting abused these days means the teenager is beeing shouted at for not doing the chores around the house that have been set for them or even as little as not bothering to clean up after themselfs.

its horrible and totaly shocking no one should recieve a verbal assault for beeing lazy
 
Speaking as the father of an 18 year old my perspective may be slightly different. It's not an easy job, possibly one of the hardest, nobody gives you an instruction manual, hell I don't know if I'm doing a good job or not, might be years before I know for sure.
What I'm trying to say is try seeing his side of things, try and envisage what it's like for him. If possible why not cut the old man some slack, if you can save your relationship with him you really ought to try, it's one of the most important you'll have.
 
RadoX said:
just constant verbal abuse, as for doing stuff wrong in his eyes the army is wasting my life infact thinking of it, anything i do or say he dosent agree with. i try to stay out of the way most of the time but the main reason hes annoyed now is because i dont have a job and im wating for a few things to process for the army.
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Sounds like a doss mate, verbal abuse is easy to deal with, just ignore it and in your head go "yeah yeah, whatever you old ****, probably ****ed again" and save yourself the argument, thats what i do. Easier than spending all day arguing.

Not to mention it's understandable a parent not wanting their kid to go in the army, because for most part it's a job with little prospects, it's a lot more difficult to go up ranks than they'd have you believe.
 
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