Is my wife considering other options?

James J said:
Go out for meals or just visit nice areas of natural beauty with a picnic basket. Pretty good fun either way you look at it and it would show your taking her feelings into account once again
Click to expand...

Have you ever been married for 29 years?

Your wife becomes your friend, and you love them.

But you will never love them as you first did.

Even your love grows tired.

Romance, wtf is that?
 
Buy cheap tickets to the south of Europe, book a comfortable hotel, buy yourself and her some new sharp clothes and take her out to dinner in a michelin star restaurant.

Or get cheap tickets to the West of Ireland or the arse end of Scotland, find a castle hotel with a luxury spa. Sit by a fireplace and drink wine. Go for a walk in a misty mountain trail.

Or go to the Alps and go on a skiing trip with a Log cabin.

Don't sit at home. Both of you are probably bored.
Make sure all of this is a surprise to her. Women love surprises.

Good Destinations:
Rome, Barcelona, Lisbon, Galway, Edinburgh etc.

Bad Destinations:
Newcastle, Wales

Good things to do:
Walk, relax and talk about love and chocolate.

Bad things to do:
Discuss football and financial problems.
 
All she means is shes bored with things as they are and is basically telling you in the hope you'll make things more interesting for her.

Just do the stuff you must have done before, maybe years ago, buy her flowers, make her a nice meal or even take her to a nice restaurant.

She just wants to feel special again blah blah, but heed the warning, either do it or potentially lose her for good (she stops loving you because you're more like a lodger with benefits than a husband ;)).
 
Dev2 said:
Buy cheap tickets to the south of Europe, book a comfortable hotel, buy yourself and her some new sharp clothes and take her out to dinner in a michelin star restaurant.

Or get cheap tickets to the West of Ireland or the arse end of Scotland, find a castle hotel with a luxury spa. Sit by a fireplace and drink wine. Go for a walk in a misty mountain trail.

Or go to the Alps and go on a skiing trip with a Log cabin.

Don't sit at home. Both of you are probably bored.
Make sure all of this is a surprise to her. Women love surprises.

Good Destinations:
Rome, Barcelona, Lisbon, Galway, Edinburgh etc.

Bad Destinations:
Newcastle, Wales

Good things to do:
Walk, relax and talk about love and chocolate.

Bad things to do:
Discuss football and financial problems.
Click to expand...

Thanks for the ideas, sounds good.

But what happens six weeks after?

i AM STILL 50 AND NOT INTO ROMANCE.
iF I EVER WAS.

And i weren't.
 
She asks for romance and you wonder if she's looking elsewhere? You say you're 50 and yet you can't figure this one out?

Give her some romance.
 
moremoney said:
Have you ever been married for 29 years?

Your wife becomes your friend, and you love them.

But you will never love them as you first did.

Even your love grows tired.

Romance, wtf is that?
Click to expand...

Nope, not married and especially not for 29 years but that's irrelevant - it seems you've resigned yourself to most negative situation.

Sure it's not going to be like your first love but it's the person that you want go and have some fun with? Right?

Just go and make some experiences, that's all she's asking by the sounds of it. Try it and then see.. you don't have to be a wizened old owl to just try something before throwing it all away.
 
if she wants romance and you want to keep her then you gotta give her romance even if its not your thing

youve said shes more like a best frined now that youve been together so long. well treat her like a best friend , do what she wants every now and again.

if its too much to treat her to some romance every so often then maybe its time to look at other options
 
Another option is to pick a holiday where you're not both on your own such as a walking holiday with a group. A good one would be Picos de Europa in Spain with Exodus. Although I was on a different trip, we shared the same base hotel and everyone got together as a big group.. just stops those awkward silences because you know each other backwards.. the ages on the walking trip ranged from 40-67 (and he was fitter than all of the others!) with singles and couples.
 
Last edited:
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom