Pregnancy dilemma

MikeHunt79 · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:06

Ascendancy said:
Wall of text crits you for 1000, you die.

chrispystix · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:07

AcidHell2 said:
go read up on it. Oh sod it here it is.

Y

Which is why an implant is better.

Cybertronics??????

Mr Doovde · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:07

adam0109080 said:
Im not sure if she does, she just doesn't want to suffer depression and go back into a rut which she is not long out of, hence my guilt at the whole situation as well.

I've not really asked her for what reasons she'd keep the child other than that...

Perhaps that's something you could discuss with her? Having an abortion could trigger her depression, but bringing a child into the world that neither of you want could have a negative affect on her and the child. Perhaps discussing the possible ramifications of both options might be a start?

chrispystix · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:08

But what if it is a puppy?

Wizzkidy · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:08

You done the deed (protection or not) You now have to be a man and take responsibility and become a father. You CAN make it work if you really want to.

adam0109080 · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:09

If I go along with it, and if we split up, as long as I provide financially for the child, should I have a clear conscience (to a degree)?

chrispystix · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:11

hahahahhahahahhahahahha....

No!

Energize · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:12

I certainly wouldn't if I got someone pregnant and then abandoned the child leaving the mother to look after it all by herself...

The Mad Rapper · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:12

AcidHell2 said:
at the end of the day, you have no say.

Which is the problem with women. They want the baby, they keep it. They don't want, they get rid.

Men get the suck stick on this one TBH.

Glaucus · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:14

The Mad Rapper said:
Which is the problem with women. They want the baby, they keep it. They don't want, they get rid.

Men get the suck stick on this one TBH.

Rubbish. Abortions are cause massive metal strain for women. Man up and take responsibility.

adam0109080 · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:15

Energize said:
I certainly wouldn't if I got someone pregnant and then abandoned the child leaving the mother to look after it all by herself...

I know but im trying to say the relationship is crumbling - if it fails what else can you do?! Nobody is perfect like a lot on her pretend to be.

Freefaller · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:15

Do you really think that signing up to OcUK to ask about such intricate and delicate matters is sensible? :/

Glaucus · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:16

adam0109080 said:
I know but im trying to say the relationship is crumbling - if it fails what else can you do?! Nobody is perfect like a lot on her pretend to be.

if it fails it fails. But you can be there for the kid, in more ways than just money.

adam0109080 · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:18

AcidHell2 said:
if it fails it fails. But you can be there for the kid, in more ways than just money.

For definate, I do mean seeing the child regularly and providing financially.

The Mad Rapper · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:21

AcidHell2 said:
Rubbish. Abortions are cause massive metal strain for women. Man up and take responsibility.

You have no idea what you are talking about. In fact, you are insulting to men in my position beyond measure.

This exact thing happened to me 3 years ago. The damage it does to your life is insane. It was made worse by the fact that my ex tried to stop me having anything to do with my child. Cue 2 years dragging her through Court to make the situation better - it's still far from right.

My relationship was very much like the OPs - very fractious, certainly not one I ever wanted to bring a child into.

Men should have a say as to whether a pregnancy proceeds or not - end of.

mac1st3 · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:23

28 and still living with the parents? I think we've found half the problem there, afraid to move forward with life by any chance? you've been together since you were 21 and haven't even been tempted to move in together? I'd like to think that somewhere in those 7 years you'd have had really strong feelings for her and decided to take the plunge, so it just doesn't seem like you're taking it seriously, more like she's company for you, but you could take it or leave it

Biohazard · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:26

Freefaller said:
Do you really think that signing up to OcUK to ask about such intricate and delicate matters is sensible? :/

This to be truthful.

Glaucus · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:35

The Mad Rapper said:
The damage it does to your life is insane. It was made worse by the fact that my ex tried to stop me having anything to do with my child. Cue 2 years dragging her through Court to make the situation better - it's still far from right.

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Did I say anything about what happens after the birth. I was talking about abortion and no, women should never ever be forced to have an abortion.

RDM · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:35

The Mad Rapper said:
Men should have a say as to whether a pregnancy proceeds or not - end of.

I would be very uncomfortable in any country which routinely forces women to have an abortion. And until men can carry a child to term I would also not want to force women to continue with an unwanted pregnancy.

At the end of the day you did have a say when you had sex.

A2Z · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:36

Something doesnt sound right....

So you have been together 7 years, and not once did you feel that she could be the one, that you love her, and that you should take it more seriously and at least move in, but you still carried on sleeping with her?

So she was basically a bit on the side, that you didnt want to finish with so you could keep tapping that ass... and now you're moaning how a baby is going to affect you?

Totally your own fault.