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[Angilion]

I brought up things in my post to support my point of view not because I was arguing with anything you or anyone else had said so responding with stuff such as "arguing against yourself" isn't really helpful.

You explicitly stated that my argument was based on assuming one of them and brought another up explicitly as a counter-argument to my posts. You did not bring them up in isolation.

At the end of the day its not the OP's marriage so I don't see why he should feel any kind of guilt.

For the same reason that someone knowingly receiving stolen goods should feel some guilt despite the fact that they didn't steal them. If a person takes part in something, they are responsible for doing so.

That's down to the wife since it's her relationship.

That would be true if no-one else was involved, but obviously that isn't the case. He wouldn't be responsible for the wife's actions, but he is responsible for his own.

All IMHO anyway, if you feel differently that's your choice.

Choice is the foundation of it all, including the choice of actively helping someone else do something wrong.

 

[Minxy]

You explicitly stated that my argument was based on assuming one of them and brought another up explicitly as a counter-argument to my posts. You did not bring them up in isolation.



For the same reason that someone knowingly receiving stolen goods should feel some guilt despite the fact that they didn't steal them. If a person takes part in something, they are responsible for doing so.



That would be true if no-one else was involved, but obviously that isn't the case. He wouldn't be responsible for the wife's actions, but he is responsible for his own.




Choice is the foundation of it all, including the choice of actively helping someone else do something wrong.

You can continue to pick my posts apart if you so wish but I'm entitled to my opinion like anyone else and tbh I'm starting to feel a bit victimised because mine differs from yours.

*edit* Skippy just re-read and realised you asked about lack of respect. In all honesty I couldn't give two ****s about whether the third party had respect for me or not, the only persons respect or lack thereof that would bother me would be my partner.

 

[wannabedamned]

however the lack of respect that would have been showed by the OP for doing this would surely get at you no?

Hmm, To be honest I don't see the problem. The woman in the OP is married and willing to cheat, with the OP. You expect the OP to have respect for a guy he doesnt know? Why should have have respect for the stranger when even his wife doesnt offer it.

Smash the Cheating Ho-bags pasty!

 

[Angilion]

You can continue to pick my posts apart if you so wish but I'm entitled to my opinion like anyone else and tbh I'm starting to feel a bit victimised because mine differs from yours.

Ah, so you play the victim card.

That's lower than I expected of you. Lower than I expect of almost anyone, actually.

You make an argument in a public forum and you try to make me out to be an abuser because I disagree with it reasonably and explain why. Do you understand why I am angry at you for being so nasty?

 

[skippy2421]

She didn't have a responsibility to me, he did when we entered into the relationship. Sorry if that's a bit black and white for some folks, it's just the way I see it.

Fair enough, if that's the way you want to look at it then ok, everyone's different after all, personally i couldn't do that, i'd feel pretty annoyed at the other person or did when it happened to me (providing the other person knew of course).

Skippy, thanks for your responses. I'd much rather discuss it with someone than just have abusive comments made because of my point of view.

No probs, just like to understand where people are coming from that's all.

Anyways it's all pointless banter as i'm sure the OP has already made up his mind what he wants to do and as if a silly pc forum is going to alter his decision lol

 

[qqg3]

Thread is insane! Complete overload of alpha male idioticness and way too many pasties being thrown about.

I'd leave it OP, shes married after all.

 

[Minxy]

Ah, so you play the victim card.

That's lower than I expected of you. Lower than I expect of almost anyone, actually.

You make an argument in a public forum and you try to make me out to be an abuser because I disagree with it reasonably and explain why. Do you understand why I am angry at you for being so nasty?

How have I made you out to be an abuser? I'm just starting to wish I had not posted because clearly a difference of opinion is unacceptable.
I haven't been nasty to you in the slightest, if you can direct me to where I have been then I will gladly alter it.

 

[arknor]

so much win. Where is her husband? In another country?

probably, i imagine she thinks she can get away with it because shes on holiday and hes not with her.

back home she probably wouldnt dare cheat incase he found out and kicked her to the old peoples home.

 

[wannabedamned]

How have I made you out to be an abuser? I'm just starting to wish I had not posted because clearly a difference of opinion is unacceptable.
I haven't been nasty to you in the slightest, if you can direct me to where I have been then I will gladly alter it.

You have to get used to the way some threads go on the board unfortunately. have another read through the thread, People are WAY TOO SERIOUS. Over analysing a thread like this one

You need to laugh, Not get annoyed.

 

[Minxy]

You have to get used to the way some threads go on the board unfortunately. have another read through the thread, People are WAY TOO SERIOUS. Over analysing a thread like this one

You need to laugh, Not get annoyed.

You'd have thought I'd have learnt by now, just don't post anything. I've taken a lot of flak in the past in the motors forum because of my love for Vxls so I should be used to it.

 

[^TANK^]

I believe she did yes. It was someone he works with and they all tend to socialise a lot so I'd be very surprised if she didn't know, plus she was on his facebook and our pages were linked through relationship status.

God I'm confused, sorry are you male or female? I'm guessing male!

You see in that position I would be super ****ed off if the person knew and I would have to do a moon walk on their face or I couldn't live with myself! I can't stand people that try it on with someone else's partner.

 

[Minxy]

God I'm confused, sorry are you male or female? I'm guessing male!

I'm female, sorry for the confusion. Why would you assume otherwise on this sausagefest of a forum.

 

[^TANK^]

I'm female, sorry for the confusion. Why would you assume otherwise on this sausagefest of a forum.

I've run out of Prozac, that is all. Oh and Minxy you should have cut his penis off!

 

[Infam0us]

Leave her alone and tell her Husband aswell imho ...

 

[Crixus00]

photo?

 

[^TANK^]

photo?

 

[skippy2421]

Hmm, To be honest I don't see the problem. The woman in the OP is married and willing to cheat, with the OP. You expect the OP to have respect for a guy he doesnt know? Why should have have respect for the stranger when even his wife doesnt offer it.

Smash the Cheating Ho-bags pasty!

So by this statement i am to assume you show no respect to anybody other than your friends and colleagues? charming.

God I'm confused, sorry are you male or female? I'm guessing male!

You see in that position I would be super ****ed off if the person knew and I would have to do a moon walk on their face or I couldn't live with myself! I can't stand people that try it on with someone else's partner.

I'm the same, it would be different if they were deceived but they clearly aren't in this scenario. Just out of curiosity ^TANK^ would the reason for you being angry be down to the clear lack of thought the other person has shown towards you and obviously due to the pain that has resulted from it? Just asking in case i'm barking up the wrong tree with this whole lack of respect thing and perhaps most people don't give toss about anyone else except those they personally know.

EDIT: hahahahaha at the photo

 

[^TANK^]

So by this statement i am to assume you show no respect to anybody other than your friends and colleagues? charming.




I'm the same, it would be different if they were deceived but they clearly aren't in this scenario. Just out of curiosity ^TANK^ would the reason for you being angry be down to the clear lack of thought the other person has shown towards you and obviously due to the pain that has resulted from it? Just asking in case i'm barking up the wrong tree with this whole lack of respect thing and perhaps most people don't give toss about anyone else except those they personally know.

EDIT: hahahahaha at the photo

Exactly.

 

[G-MAN2004]

Basically, if you would feel pretty damn hurt if someone cheated on you, then don't do it.

/thread. You bunch of pointless arguing losers.

 

[skippy2421]

Exactly.

ahhhh so i'm not the only one, that's ok then. Thought i was the last of a dying breed or something, because it would seem a lot of people nowadays don't have the same values. I know a lot of people that don't think twice about being the third party involved in cheating. Oh well guess we're old fashioned.

Basically, if you would feel pretty damn hurt if someone cheated on you, then don't do it.

/thread. You bunch of pointless arguing losers.

oi!

I'm trying to avoid doing any work so anything to pass the time.