People that don't say "thank you" when you hold the door for them

I get annoyed when someone is a bit infront of me, look back when they open the door and stand there with it open.

Making you feel like you have to run to get there, i dont want to run, im not in a rush, leave me alone :(
 
bam0 said:
Related question, what do you do if you're walking behind someone and they end up holding a few doors for you, do you say "thanks" for each one, or is one "thanks" enough?
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I'm very polite and this has happened a few times to me and each time I've said thanks. I try to make the situation friendly by laughing on the second or third door lol.
 
Happens at work all the time, got used to it now. Started off voicing my disdain for people's lack of manners to all and sundry. I was most proud of giving the CIO a glaring down after she did it, gave her a second chance the week after and she said did thank me that time so I felt it was worth it.

My favourite game to play is first thing in the morning coming through the two sets of double doors, hold the first one and see if you get a thanks. If nothing, time the second door so it shuts and swings back just as they're getting to it. Then make out like I've lost my pass at the turnstile for extra annoyance. I think the girl on reception has cottoned on to my antics and gets a little chuckle when I do it.
 
Sometimes if theres someone I don't like that much trying to get through the door, but I still want to appear slightly polite, I will open the door a little, wait for them to get nearer, then open the door fast so it bounces back and nearly hits them in the face. The trick it too make it look like an accident, not a deliberate act.
 
Speaking of holding doors. I had someone hold a door for me when I was around a good 15 seconds walk away :o. Akwaaaard.
 
I really don't see the issue. I'll hold a door open for people sometimes because *I* want to. I do not feel obligated to and by extension do not expect any thanks in return. I don't have a need for continual acknowledgement of every minuscule thing I do. It's not like I've gone so far out of my way to help them.
 
I only open doors for myself.....if the door then shuts in someone's face then it's their fault...they should have been paying more attention.
 
happens all the time in school. I usually just mutter ''you're welcome'' under my breath and forget about it.
 
I've been thinking about this (only in the back of my mind, it's not preying or anything :p) and half of the problem, I believe, relates to the person rather than the scenario.

Not only did she not say thank you, she did not look up, she did not acknowledge me. I felt like a doorman at the Ritz, only without the tip. If, however, it had been a nubile 20 year old blonde, I probably would have thought 'bitch...althought that was pretty hot'. Maybe I have some deep-seated preconception that all old women should be lovely friendly grandmother-type figures.

Some of you are probably right in saying 'if you only held the door because you expected thanks rather than just to be nice, then why bother holding the door' or similar. However is that really how humans work, that they only do nice things because it makes them feel nice? Maybe so.

Manners and expectations make an interesting topic. Most of it is probably ultimately self-serving, much like making charity donations :p.
 
Maccy said:
I make a point of it if somebody doesn't thank me, by saying something like "you're most welcome" very loudly :D
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+1

"Do I look like a door wedge" is a comment I often come out with when people fail to say a simple thank you.
 
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