Awkward flatmate issue...

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This is pretty much my first serious drama thread but here we go...

Last night I got in from a night out with some of my coursemates and my flatmates were stood in the kitchen cooking some food, neither of us were that drunk by this point (about half 3?).

One of my flatmates, Becca, always has a go at me when she's drunk because a couple of weeks ago I knocked myself out when I was drunk and they had to ring an ambulance as I couldn't stand up and was throwing up all over myself, whilst on the same night one guy that went to the same club as me on the same night went missing and was eventually found dead in the river - she semi-blames me for his death because 'that ambulance could have been saving him'.

Anyway last night she was initially having a go at me for that, usually I just sit there and take it but last night I just said 'look, move on with your life, everyone else has'. Error.

Then she came out with this tirade of stuff she'd obviously bottled up for ages. Apparently she thinks I'm the most selfish person of all time because I don't wash up for a day or two, that I'm horrible to another of our flatmates even though I'm really not, and best of all, that I'm gay for her boyfriend when we're just quite good friends and get on pretty well. This isn't helped by the fact that when they called an ambulance he had to shower me to get the sick off me. She's very naive and thinks any male contact is massively gay and a big nono - even cleaning my sick when I'm semi-conscious. To top this all off, apparently she rings her parents every week to have a cry about me being such a horrible person...

Anyway this is uni accomodaiton so I've gotta live with her for one more week now and then the whole semester after Easter - it's gonna be SO awkward, what do we think I should do? When we're both in the kitchen it's just gonna be horrible...

Ideas/comments please :)
 
No ideas, bitch needs to chill out. Same thing with my housemates, i moved out late and they had some full on arse for a housemate before, so they just wrote me off from the off lmao. Two girls, one who said her room was like a prison cell and another who rarely goes out.

Call it off, waste of time these people are. Oh and one of the girls quit uni and went back home cause she was home sick. Shut. It. Down.
 
Apologise, even if you've not done anything wrong and don't mean it, it'll keep her off your back, or just ignore her, avoid being near her by yourself if possible, either way, there's no good way of dealing with it, just ways of making it easier
 
The most frustrating thing is the way she keeps going on and on about that night. Ok it was irresponsible from me and yeah looking after me can't have been great, but she doesn't seem to be able to move on, gets really quite irritating how she keeps bringing it up.

Might have to give her an apology she she can chill out.
 
I think an apology is the last thing you should do. As far as i can tell you've done nothing wrong. Apologising is basically saying you have and that everything she said is true.

Your best bet is to just give absolutely no response when she rants, or to just go somewhere else.
 
You're in uni halls, that's the way it is. People get drunk, pass out, never do washing up and leave the kitchen in a mess. That's how it always has, and always will be. Tell her to deal with it.
 
It’s about time you all stopped getting drunk. Just apologise it will probably get her off your back or just ignore her and carry on as normal.
 
Lol. This sort of thing happens to every student who lives in any student house. Trust me, I've lived with students for five years now (also at Leeds Uni!) You really find out what someone is like when you have to spend most of your time just a few feet from them.

There are broadly three types of people who live in student houses;

1) Awesome people such as myself who get on with everyone and rarely cause any bother

2) People who don't really do a lot, stay in their rooms or stay at work/uni and keep themselves to themselves, but don't cause any trouble

3) Crazies. They are out for your blood and will do whatever they can to get it. Steer clear from these types at all times.

She sounds like a type three. She will cause you problems whatever you do and you won't be able to do a lot about it. But still, play the politics game. Do 'obvious housework' as I call it; ie making sure she knows you're making an effort/sucking up (which gives you the moral high ground). Attempt to be as civil as you can. You have to play the game, so this also means you've gotta get others on your side if you want support. It's about building up some bargaining chips and making the other person look unreasonable basically.
 
StewartMG said:
The most frustrating thing is the way she keeps going on and on about that night. Ok it was irresponsible from me and yeah looking after me can't have been great, but she doesn't seem to be able to move on, gets really quite irritating how she keeps bringing it up.

Might have to give her an apology she she can chill out.
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This isnt HOME YA DAFT COW LOL

Hate people who bang on about past stuff, yea it happened, get over it.
 
Maccy said:
You're in uni halls, that's the way it is. People get drunk, pass out, never do washing up and leave the kitchen in a mess. That's how it always has, and always will be. Tell her to deal with it.
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That's pretty much how I see it, but she lives in this little bubble where everything has to be perfect and clean all the time and if it's not.... well it's not worth being in the same room when she sees it...
 
Tell her that you are in Love with her boyfriend & the pair of you can't stop making Gay Love.
 
StewartMG said:
That's pretty much how I see it, but she lives in this little bubble where everything has to be perfect and clean all the time and if it's not.... well it's not worth being in the same room when she sees it...
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How has it taken this long for her to snap? I mean we're halfway through the second semester. not much you can do other than enjoy the show really, she won't be happy till she leaves.
 
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