kissed a mates girlfriend last night

shauncr91 said:
I think it's situational tbh.

If you're out on a random night out and some bloke tries flirting with your GF there's no reason to go crazy at the man and kick his head in, a polite explanation that she's taken and with you is all it takes the first time he tries it, afterwards then I can condone taking it a bit further but not violence.

If you're partner is playing along then you should be angry at her not the other man, after all you can't expect everybody to know who's single in a place and who's not.

Unfortunately we can't all be as alpha-badass as converse_uprise.
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Oh don't get me wrong I would go wild at a full on kiss not male interaction, if you know what I mean.
 
It is out of order, and I can understand it being in the heat of the moment. I'm no angel, so I'm sure given the right variables I would react in a way I'd rather not.

I guess it just comes down to how you deal with your problems though. I'd always be having very strong words before resorting to fisticuffs, even if it is just a shove and a very brutish "What the ****?!"
 
I honestly don't think it's an "alpha-badass" reaction to that situation.

In my eyes, it's a human reaction, and i'd still be inclined to say I think a lot of people would react in the same way. Perhaps if we asked this question away from this forum you'd see a truer representation about how the average male would react.
 
converse_uprise said:
I honestly don't think it's an "alpha-badass" reaction to that situation.

In my eyes, it's a human reaction, and i'd still be inclined to say I think a lot of people would react in the same way. Perhaps if we asked this question away from this forum you'd see a truer representation about how the average male would react.
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Average representation doesn't mean it's right though does it? That's a flawed argument in itself. It just means that our society and culture despite all it's back-patting egoism has a lot to answer for.

Do you want to be one of the mob or do you want to be what you should be? I know the path I chose.
 
This thread's gonna get closed soon I reckon.

To toss my hat into the ring:

It takes a far stronger person to remain cool and calm. Nix is making the most sense here frankly. The raw emotions one would feel are expressed by converse_uprise. Frankly if you can channel those emotions into something else or better then it would help the situation that you find yourself in (this for us, hypothetical one which is stoking an argument).
Girlfriend who you are going to marry and means everything to you means that if you see your mate pulling her you shove him off tell him to **** off and never see him again. You have stern words with the girl as despite having drinks involved it shows that something is intrinsically and subconsciously not working in the existing relationship.

The fact someone cheats is never entirely down to the booze. It's usually because there's something wrong and beating someone up in front of her will probably exacerbate said problem and will probably traumatise her by you showing a side of you that she doesn't want to see (unless she likes being fought over :confused:): that's you turning into a great big chimp and giving someone a drunk kicking. Probably landing you in the drunk tank and then getting something on your record. Kiss goodbye to getting a top job. Not that it would really be open to someone with the attitude that a huge beating serves any purpose. Because any physical confrontation (I'm imagining that this isn't happening in a nice bar in a nice district of london, but in a grime hole serving cheap booze that you couldn't resist and got you hammered in the first instance, the kind of place you see on the Police shows they have or in some documentary about binge Britain.) is not the answer.
This is what is more wrong: thuggery and debauchery and moral bankruptcy on our streets. Not men who can't "stand up for themselves".

Frankly, pulling a mate's bird is not on. Don't do it. It will lead to consequences.
Beating the crap out of someone isn't really the best solution. It could lead to serious consequences (I'm thinking a resentful ABH charge or worse here...).
Bird pulling a mate is the worst. It has the worst consequences and also the worst implications. Furthermore it is the hardest to deal with and to react to, hence the simplest action known to man: ug-bash, alpha-dominance.

I think it's important to stand up for yourself and protect what's yours. But equally I think that there is a line, and that the brain should flex (even for a split second to check no witnesses or bouncers or pigs before you mete out justice) before the muscles.
 
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Nix said:
Average representation doesn't mean it's right though does it? That's a flawed argument in itself. It just means that our society and culture despite all it's back-patting egoism has a lot to answer for.

Do you want to be one of the mob or do you want to be what you should be? I know the path I chose.
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I wasn't talking about wrong or right, and even that is down to your opinion.

In your eyes to lamp him is wrong, in many others it will be perfectly justified.
 
To be quite honest, if I was him, I'd have seen it and casually walked away and gotten a taxi.

If we lived together, she'd be locked out and told to go stay with the OP instead. End of.

I'm not gonna start some drunken alpha muscle-throwing, but that's over the line. You're neither a friend, and she isn't a partner once that happens. It's over and done. My sorrows shall be drowned my own way in the following days.
 
Nix said:
It is out of order, and I can understand it being in the heat of the moment. I'm no angel, so I'm sure given the right variables I would react in a way I'd rather not.

I guess it just comes down to how you deal with your problems though. I'd always be having very strong words before resorting to fisticuffs, even if it is just a shove and a very brutish "What the ****?!"
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Ideally speaking, that's fair enough. But take this OP situation, your mate pulls your girlfriend, 3 ft away from you, the reasoning: to see if it can make you jealous :-/ What response would strong words, a shove and a "what the ****" have? I can't imagine any kind of satisfactory response that would in any way relieve my temper at that point. I don't condone violence of course, but this would be one of those situations where I would be oh so close to snapping, and probably would, in all honesty.
 
Doohickey said:
Ideally speaking, that's fair enough. But take this OP situation, your mate pulls your girlfriend, 3 ft away from you, the reasoning: to see if it can make you jealous :-/ What response would strong words, a shove and a "what the ****" have? I can't imagine any kind of satisfactory response that would in any way relieve my temper at that point. I don't condone violence of course, but this would be one of those situations where I would be oh so close to snapping, and probably would, in all honesty.
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My temper would be off the radar at this point, but I would still find the strength to have a word with my 'friend' before giving in to my basal instinct.

I'd shove him off her, and make my feelings well known. If he's a friend that's worth anything, he'll already understand what he's done wrong (not from the threat of violence either, but from being someone who's supposed to be a friend). If the chap turns into a moron for whatever reason, then it's safe to conclude he's vetoed his right to your friendship and you'd be within your right to give him something to think about.
 
sorry but to me a kiss is a kiss, and if it was my misses it would be to the curb for her, and maybe some pain for my mate, it would make me feel better :)

Stelly
 
converse_uprise said:
You kissed your mates girlfriend? You ****. That word begins with the letter C and ends in T.

Believe me if you kissed my girlfriend, you'd be getting dragged face first along the pavement until the smile was wiped off your face. Who would be jealous then?
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Put the fishfingers down.
 
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