A difficult letter

[Haiku]

Sorry to hear about your friend.

It really depends on how close you are to the guy. If he's a colleague/acquaintance then keep if fairly formal and respectful. If you are much closer then obviously you'll want the letter to be more personal. In either case, I would try to keep it quite upbeat and not too morbid.

 

[sorn21]

"It's been a pleasure"

I'd go for that.
Sorry to hear about your mate, mate.

 

[JBuk]

/bad taste

P.S. Can I have your stuff?

heheh

I would actually find that hilarious if I were in his position although the guy in question may not appreciate it


anyways I'd just end it with something like 'take care my friend'

 

[Mat]

I would just keep it normal and end it, “With Best Wishes, Tres”.

I'd go for something like this.

 

[JBuk]

Friendly and not somber.



'Cheers matey good luck with it all ..'

yeah, good luck with the dying mate

 

[britboy4321]

yeah, good luck with the dying mate

Exactly. It could be quick, it could be easy, it could be painless, it could be horrible, it could just happen in his sleep .. who knows, its kinda luck.

Good luck with it all ..

Simples ..


'Its been a pleasure' - now THATS a bad choice .. that's presuming he's going to die imminently no matter how much he tries to fight, and you'll definately never get chance to see him again before he dies (or you don't want to).

A kind of 'It's been fun lad, now it's about time you finally popped your clogs ain't it mate?' !!



I AM ABOUT TO SAY A JOKE EVERYONE

Howsabouts:

'Don't worry, I'll console your missus when you're gone - she is hot by the way ...'

 

[Wyrdo]

What the

Get out.

Yes, because I was being serious. Clown.

 

[Ziggy]

Depends on their personality and present state of mind. Are they seriously depressed about death, because not everyone is; something positive or humourous might go down better.

 

[neoboy]

"btw I slept with your wife"?

 

[craptakular]

Best wishes or thinking of you

 

[Chris344]

I don’t know how some people can even start to crack jokes. This man is dying, he isn’t going away for 6 months.

Please have some respect. Let’s hope you never have to face a sad situation like this.

On another note, I would end.

Thinking of you.

 

[Participant]

^ "Good luck with the dying". PMSL.

Definitely simple and sombre such as Oxy's suggestions. Though we don't know your relationship, this seems appropriate when someone is in their final hours.

 

[Drunkenmassacre]

You could always try the upbeat route and say something like "Speak to you soon". Not giving up on him or your friendship that way. Either that or go with something relatively normal as Sim suggested.

 

[Participant]

I don’t know how some people can even start to crack jokes. This man is dying, he isn’t going away for 6 months.

Please have some respect. Let’s hope you never have to face a sad situation like this.

[baby crying.jpg] It's called black humour. Some people have it, some don't. Deal with it.

I've been itching to post some tasteless wisecracks, but I'll refrain as I fear the ban hammer!

 

[Chris344]

It’s all very well when you are not personally in that situation. I’ve had a nasty encounter with Cancer so it’s a very sensitive topic.

 

[squerble]

"Your friend always,
*name*"

 

[Dinomania]

Some already mentioned plus one or two more suggestions:

Take care,

Speak soon,

Hope this finds you in good spirits,

Keep smiling,

...etc.

 

[Participant]

It’s all very well when you are not personally in that situation. I’ve had a nasty encounter with Cancer so it’s a very sensitive topic.

You're assuming a great deal about me. Life's not fair unfortunately. People will say and do things you'd rather they didn't. Although I'm sympathetic, I don't think it's for you to assert your views on humour on others, just because you've had a bad illness.

That said, there's a fine line between black humour and sheer tastelessness.

 

[britboy4321]

If I was lying on my death bed last thing I'd want is everyone tip-toeing around me and crazy-scared to upset me in anyway so crying round me for hours on end and having grand 'I will forever be your friend' speeches.. jees :/

That'd be a LOT worse than them laughing and kind of taking the mick, saying to the other mate visiting 'Baggsy I have his computer' and the other one answering 'Have it, it's rubbish'! , whilst also sneaking me a load of beer into the ward, some grass, some p0rn and some food I'm not supposed to have - also (breaking regulation) wheeling me round the ward to go check out some fit looking nurse (whilst being chased, them running away wheeling me around, then caught, told off by ward-staff etc) etc etc! Thats how I want my last couple of days!

The 'everyone so darn miserable I'm on my way out .. no-one dare laugh everyone just sees me out with a load of mournful wimpering' strategy = fail in my book .. would actually make me feel worse ..

 

[JBuk]

It’s all very well when you are not personally in that situation. I’ve had a nasty encounter with Cancer so it’s a very sensitive topic.

There is nothing at all wrong with finding humour in a bad situation, some of the funniest things I've heard and seen have been at funerals