Chris, this is all part of Aspergers Syndrome. An inability to see the world from someone elses perspective. Not everyone has the luxery of understanding the world like we do. Maybe in future you may choose not to be so judgemental and patronising!
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Chris, this is all part of Aspergers Syndrome. An inability to see the world from someone elses perspective. Not everyone has the luxery of understanding the world like we do. Maybe in future you may choose not to be so judgemental and patronising!
I'll send you an email as to why I have every reason to say what I did, I'm not going to make a special exception in this case.
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A man's gotta know his limitations. Everyone has issues and problems but most people just get on with it. They dont wallow in whatever emotional state they are in... its a luxury most people can't afford.
I'm guessing you don't know much about AS? I stongly recommend you go and buy/borrow a book named 'Freaks, Geeks and Aspergers Syndrome' by Luke Jackson. This will give you a very small insight as to what Aspergers is about. From your posts (and I'm not trying to have a dig at you) it would appear you are being judgemental without knowing the facts.
Apologies to Neil if I'm poking my nose in. I would love to hear from you for advice on how to cope with my youngest and if you have any tips/suggestions on how we can make his life better, and our understanding of how his mind works. As he's still young we are still learning and as I'm sure you're aware it's an uphill struggle!
Apologies to Neil if I'm poking my nose in. I would love to hear from you for advice on how to cope with my youngest and if you have any tips/suggestions on how we can make his life better, and our understanding of how his mind works. As he's still young we are still learning and as I'm sure you're aware it's an uphill struggle!
Yes i do.... its a very wide-ranging spectrum disorder though so there is a danger it can be used as a crutch. (because of the very fact that the symptoms and depth of severity cast a wide net..bad metaphors aside)
Also dont think i would agree that all people with AS cannot see the world from someone elses perspective. If that were true then that would make them some kind of sociopath.... That is a very broad sweeping brush indeed. Not saying that isnt true for some but in more extreme cases only. I'm an adult with a form of AS so that is why i said you have to know your limitations, AS isnt something to be used to allow one to avoid responsibility for your self/actions imo.
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I'm aware there are varying degrees of AS. I appreciate some people will use it as a crutch. However, I know for a fact that even some 'minor' cases can appear normal in some aspects and completely within the sepctrum for other parts of the personality.
You say you suffer from a form of AS? Have you heard of the Sally-Anne test and what was the result?
If I wanted to, I could class myself as suffering from AS if I look at the symptons as a lot of the symtpons are true to me. And before you say there is a bilogical link from the father, I'm not the natural father.
With reference to the sociopath comment, I have learnt recently that once boundries have been established, someone with AS can learn to adapt. It will take time. However, reading things like body language can still be a challenge.
I don't claim to be an expert, and I'm not excluding the fact that some do use the AS as a blanket. I'm still learning about AS and I very much doubt I will fully understand what goes on in the mind of an AS person.
With regard to limitations, I am guessing you may be reffereing to the case of the man who hacked into the US security systems that was in the news last year? Yes, he should have known better. Depending on the how far he is in the spectrum will depend on how much understanding of what is right and wrong. Perhaps he thought it would be good to warn them their systems were flawed. I agree it wasn't wise but in the long term he probably did them a favor. I'm not trying to justify his actions, just trying to see the logic from his point of view.
As I said, this is relatively new to me and I'm learning all the time.
I'm not intending to question your ethics/position in the spectrum, nor insult, just comment on what little knowledge I have on the subject (which I hope to expand and learn how to make our youngests and my partners and I lives better).
You say you suffer from a form of AS? Have you heard of the Sally-Anne test and what was the result?
If I wanted to, I could class myself as suffering from AS if I look at the symptons as a lot of the symtpons are true to me. And before you say there is a bilogical link from the father, I'm not the natural father.
With reference to the sociopath comment, I have learnt recently that once boundries have been established, someone with AS can learn to adapt. It will take time. However, reading things like body language can still be a challenge.
I don't claim to be an expert, and I'm not excluding the fact that some do use the AS as a blanket. I'm still learning about AS and I very much doubt I will fully understand what goes on in the mind of an AS person.
With regard to limitations, I am guessing you may be reffereing to the case of the man who hacked into the US security systems that was in the news last year? Yes, he should have known better. Depending on the how far he is in the spectrum will depend on how much understanding of what is right and wrong. Perhaps he thought it would be good to warn them their systems were flawed. I agree it wasn't wise but in the long term he probably did them a favor. I'm not trying to justify his actions, just trying to see the logic from his point of view.
As I said, this is relatively new to me and I'm learning all the time.
I'm not intending to question your ethics/position in the spectrum, nor insult, just comment on what little knowledge I have on the subject (which I hope to expand and learn how to make our youngests and my partners and I lives better).
You sound like you're too nice for your own good. Get the hell out of there and find someone with a few less things going on in their life
This, at the end of the day, you should put yourself first..
Hey, guys, what are you doing?
The op came on here to ask for some advice, not for his personality to be analysed or his position on the as spectrum to be scrutinised.
I am sure that in some point in your lives you have been confused as to what to do. You know what is right and yet you care for the person. How many times have you had to think about if you should call someone or not?
If you think back through your lives I know that you will find plenty of examples.
Now stop trolling in the thread and let other people offer there advice rather then question whether or not the op should have asked this question in the first place.
The op came on here to ask for some advice, not for his personality to be analysed or his position on the as spectrum to be scrutinised.
I am sure that in some point in your lives you have been confused as to what to do. You know what is right and yet you care for the person. How many times have you had to think about if you should call someone or not?
If you think back through your lives I know that you will find plenty of examples.
Now stop trolling in the thread and let other people offer there advice rather then question whether or not the op should have asked this question in the first place.
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Relationships are ment to be worked on if you like the girl why not try to make things work, fair enough shes on anti depressents but so what, it has to be worked on.
Well said Dandos.
I'll leave it at that. Sorry to interefere
Not so. This is an internet forum for goodness sake. It may not be full of scholarship but people are entitled to express their opinion and as far as I can see you haven't abused or been in anyway unkind to the OP.