(a) We were close, what blows my mind is that the girl I cared for seems to be so different.
The first part is normal for couples and the second part is normal for exes.
(b) I really should delete them I know
You really should. It will probably be hard because although it's just text on a screen, it does hold emotional attachment. You have to separate that from the position you're in and remove the messages. At the very least, don't look at them. But we all know how that works out, right? Delete them. It's done, it's gone, move on. Have a cry or whatever but get rid.
(c) This is very true and worries me, however I couldn't face people if I allowed her back in so can't see this happening.
Good stance to take. As well as thinking about how others would view you, think about how
you would feel about yourself. She dumped you, new boyfriend in days, he gets dumped, and now she wants you back? FOr how long? Till the next guy who is already lined up? Some unspecified future date? It's no good.
(d) I am moving forward.....however the odd thing seems to take me a step back.
Yeah, unfortunately you'll have quite a few of those. It's natural. Things, songs, people, clothes, fragrance, movies, places ... you'll get those moments. SHE DUMPED YOU. It was great but let it go now. Get someone better.
(e) I was doing quite well on this one!, until she removed me on FB.
You don't need her in your life. Facebook is just one of the unfortunate modern distractions that stop people from moving on. You need to, man.
(f) She's removed me last night, and added her old ex ( just before me ), which is interesting to say the least!
It's a play, a petulant child's play at trying to twist the knife. This if nothing else should be a reminder of how well rid you are of her. Get off facebook, ignore any texts, remove her from your life. She can't play games if you're not there to fret and worry over any asinine crap she posts on facebook or ******* or whatever. IT DOES NOT MATTER.
If I told you that in six months the pain isn't so bad would you believe me? If I told you that going to the gym or spending time with your mates or meeting other girls - even just in a platonic way - would make you feel so much better, would you believe me? If I said that not poring over texts or facebook or ******* would make you feel far more confident and removed from unnecessary crap, would you believe me?
Focus on you. That's really what it's about until you do meet the right one.
And you will
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