Pretty sure GF is cheating on me.

Nitrojan said:
Regardless, I told her I never want to see her again or hear of her and told her to go. Which she did.. crying.

:(:(
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Well done for staying strong...

I am also going through something similar however I have still yet to talk to her about it... I hope that I am as strong as you :)
 
lolthread.


Either way, jolly good luck to you OP. You're young and will no doubt have plenty of time to taste the various fruits on offer. :)
 
"I dunno babe, although Adam is a **** I dont wanna rub it in his face. Lets take it slow and see how it goes. xx"
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Read this to yourself again. And then again. And over and over. It should allay any doubt you have that you did the right thing.
 
twentyone said:
I don't know why you would ask him to leave her alone. I personally wouldn't want to be with her after that.

It takes two to tango.
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Well, 1st is try on end their little friendship. Perhaps turn up at work to take her out for lunch. Let her work colleagues see how good you are to her. Do not go any where near the subject of him ! !
Then get to commit to another holiday and ask her to paid most of it and you will pay her back afterwards.
Then you can either, make it work with her or plot your exit strategy. so you have all you processions back, own her money and then say, good bye !
 
TBH Dump here then go talk to the guy and tell him everything :D Give him a reason to think twice before seeing her ^_^ leave her hanging there alone...mauhahahaha


/Johnathan
 
Ok well actually he said "Are we seeing each other? xx" and not "Are we together? xx" but I guess same thing. Well, thats what she told me..

She claimed that she thought he meant it as a friendship. Sigh.
 
Nitrojan said:
Ok well actually he said "Are we seeing each other? xx" and not "Are we together? xx" but I guess same thing. Well, thats what she told me..

She claimed that she thought he meant it as a friendship. Sigh.
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Any relationship that causes this much doubt is not worth it. There are plenty of relationships you could be in where things like this wouldn't even come into play.
 
Nitrojan said:
Ok well actually he said "Are we seeing each other? xx" and not "Are we together? xx" but I guess same thing. Well, thats what she told me..

She claimed that she thought he meant it as a friendship. Sigh.
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What?! She's trying to play you! Wise up!

If it's just friends (bloody unlikely) then what's the whole "Let's take it slow and see how it goes xx" BS about?

Stop letting her plant these seeds, she's only trying to weed herself back in. It's the same reason why these people have to have their cake and eat it (i.e. cheating), that they can't stand it when their partner leaves them. She wants you to get back with her so she can validate in her own mind that she was never really the one to blame. She's made her bed, let her lay in it and learn some lessons. Lest she really hurt someone in the future.
 
Hi mate

I know how your feeling, i experienced a break up not long ago and i was with her for 16months.

Its hard at first but trust me it gets easier :)

We split 2months ago, im having so much more fun, no hassle, no conscience wether or not i can do something which i want to do.

You just have to put it to the back of your mind :)

Do what i did :) soon as it was over, i was out on a ****up with my close mates, took days out, used the free time to gain the trust back from my mates which i lost when i got with my gf :)

Trust me, in a few weeks, you wont even remember her :)
 
MiNxYyY said:
Trust me, in a few weeks, you wont even remember her :)
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That's a little bit of a stretch in all honestly. I think it'd be more fair to say that in few weeks every waking thought won't be invaded by her.

She'll pop up into thoughts and physical reality whether you like it or not. You could for instance, simply be looking for a DVD and then remember one you watched together, or something equally banal.

One thing you need to realise is, that once you've loved someone, although time helps separate you from those feelings (a bit of a bugger when you remember feeling like you would love them forever - sorta shows love to be what it really is, does it not?) you'll never really forget; it just gets pushed aside or replaced by someone else.
 
Nix said:
What?! She's trying to play you! Wise up!

If it's just friends (bloody unlikely) then what's the whole "Let's take it slow and see how it goes xx" BS about?

Stop letting her plant these seeds, she's only trying to weed herself back in. It's the same reason why these people have to have their cake and eat it (i.e. cheating), that they can't stand it when their partner leaves them. She wants you to get back with her so she can validate in her own mind that she was never really the one to blame. She's made her bed, let her lay in it and learn some lessons. Lest she really hurt someone in the future.
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+50 billion internets!

Nitrojan, you've taken positive action and ditched the whore. Don't back down now and give in to her bull****. Don't give her the satisfaction.

She is probably genuinely feeling like ****, good! Also, she has no right trying to talk to your parents etc about this. If she comes around again, make it abundantly clear - she is DUMPED. Tell her to GTFO and never come back again.

Actually put your foot down, act forceful etc. Let her know she can't keep on coming around playing the "boo hoo look at me" card.

I know you're trying to be civil with her, but sometimes you need to hammer a nail harder to drive the point home (noo, not like that! ;)) - tell her to stay away and be FORCEFUL with it. This way she will understand that you actually MEAN it.
 
Thread can't be closed as he could end up getting back with her yet.

Lets see where it goes.

"Love you with all my heart" made me die a little inside by the way :p
 
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